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silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:32 PM
that one. It's not fun. But if you really, honestly care about the people who are neglecting you, at least give them a chance to prove their
false ones. I know I have real friends who would never, EVER do something like that to me, and I found out through honest exchanges like
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:31 PM
never be friends with her again, now that I've seen her true colors. But, if you want to find your real friends, you have to weed out the
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:30 PM
an effort to talk to me since. Talk about a kick in the head, right? It stings. It stings and it still makes me sad and angry. But I could
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:29 PM
things better. She replied that she didn't want to see me (this was over text, eventually the only way I could reach her) and has not made
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:28 PM
I told her that I felt neglected and that she was honestly hurting my feelings. I told her I wanted to get together and talk and make
outright lied to my face about being too busy for me, and I saw proof of that later through her blog. I got tired of being strung around, so
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:27 PM
best friend of three years. Suddenly, they stopped talking to me, started avoiding me, and made excuses so they wouldn't have to see me. She
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:26 PM
quitting. It was selfish. Candidly, I can understand why you don't want to. I had to do exactly that with someone who had said I was their
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:25 PM
She used you as an /excuse/ to quit. She manipulated your honest feelings and good intentions so that others might not be mad at her for
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:22 PM
the truth. Surround yourself with people who recognize your goodness. c:
here is understanding that you are great, you are wonderful, and that's the truth. Scattered public opinion cannot change the truth! Embrace
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:21 PM
bad friends and deserve to wallow in their untrustworthiness for the rest of eternity. (Can you tell I've gone through this in real life?)
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:20 PM
TIME, NOR YOUR ENERGY, NOR YOUR CARE OR CONCERN. You made a mature effort to reach out to them and they spurned you. Their loss. They are
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:19 PM
Worst case scenario, some might ignore you completely or refuse to take you seriously. Those people--ehem--THOSE PEOPLE ARE NOT WORTH YOUR
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:18 PM
answer apologetically. That's best-case scenario: they admit they weren't paying attention and affirm that they do care about you. Yay.
you're feeling unappreciated. It's hard, I know. I'm prideful too. But it's worth it. Some of them might be caught completely unaware and
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:17 PM
you. You seem to have a specific sense of exactly who you want to reach. So, PM those people. Tell them you care about them sincerely and
X3 Well, I agree wholeheartedly that they're jerks. Somehow I sense that's not what you were looking for. Here's what I would do if I were
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:12 PM
You're killing your sense of self-worth. BELIEEEEVE in yourself!
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:08 PM
bad. That's their goshdarned problem. /endspeech
everybody can be a good friend. :/ It's a shame, really. But if you believe in yourself, it won't be so easy for others to make you feel
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:07 PM
attention? That's their problem, for not wanting to get to know someone GREAT. There will be people like me and Bun who do care, but not
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:06 PM
but I know you can do it. You know you're generous. You know you're caring. Who cares if the rest of the universe doesn't want to pay
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:04 PM
as you deserve to be appreciated. It's nearly impossible to get people to change their ways. The key is to appreciate yourself--it's hard,
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:03 PM
the game anymore, that's fair. But this situation pops up in real life just as much as it does online: people don't appreciate you as much
sympathy. Quitting is 100% about what's best for you. If you need extra time to focus on real life, that's fair. If you're not interested in
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 8:01 PM
Here's my advice, whether or not you want it. Quitting should never be about other people. It should never be used to extort pity or
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 7:58 PM
yourself, and you're doing a good job. Be proud! I know I care about you.
silver_winged • 23 Nov 2012, 7:55 PM
Well, that guy's kind of a jerk and he doesn't deserve your help and attention. :I You can't control other people, but you can control