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developing a healthy support system is important, particularly if you're going through a difficult period in your life, or maybe struggling with your mental health. the university at buffalo has this great article about HOW to develop a healthy support system, so I'm putting it here for anyone who might need it. โค๏ธ

๐ƒ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ฅ๐จ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐’๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ ๐’๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ฆ
๐˜š๐˜ฐ๐˜ค๐˜ช๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜ด๐˜บ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ refers to a network of people โ€“ friends, family, and peers โ€“ that we can turn to for emotional and practical support. At school, fellow students, supportive staff, and faculty may provide assistance, and as we move into our professional careers, our colleagues may also be sources of support. Browse through the sections below to learn more about building and sustaining your support system.

๐๐ž๐ง๐ž๐Ÿ๐ข๐ญ๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐š ๐’๐จ๐œ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐’๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ ๐’๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ฆ
Research has shown that there are tremendous benefits in having a network of supportive relationships: those with robust social support networks have better health, longer lives, and report higher well-being. Friends and loved ones can make you more resilient in times of stress, setback, or loss and they can also make the good times even better. In addition to buffering stress, some friends can even help you identify when you are stressed or distressed โ€” in some cases they may notice it before you do.

There are many practical benefits to having supportive relationships, such as knowing people who can provide you with information, advice, guidance, and also tangible support, such as assistance in times of uncertainty. This feature of social support can be comforting and enhance your feelings of security.
Supportive relationships can also bolster you emotionally when youโ€™re feeling down or overwhelmed. Friends and loved ones will listen to your fears, hopes, and dreams, and make you feel seen and understood. They can help you think through alternatives and solve problems, and they can distract from your worries when that is whatโ€™s really needed. In doing all this they provide encouragement and lower your stress and feelings of loneliness.

๐’๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ข๐ง๐ข๐ง๐  ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐‚๐ฎ๐ซ๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐‘๐ž๐ฅ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ๐ฌ
Successful relationships require give-and-take. A good rule of thumb is to treat your friends as you want to be treated. In other words, be the friend you want to have. Many factors contribute to healthy, happy relationships.

-๐˜š๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ข๐˜ฑ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ช๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ. Tell your friends and family how important they are to you and thank them for all they give you.

-๐˜š๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜บ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ through phone calls, texts, and emails; reciprocate invitations.

-๐˜‰๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ข๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถโ€™๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ. True friends come through when times are tough. Be a good listener and allow your friends to confide freely and without being judged.

-๐˜ˆ๐˜ค๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ณ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฑ. Some people find it hard to accept support, preferring to be the one always offering it instead. Some may fear becoming dependent or want to maintain their self-image as the โ€œstrongโ€ and โ€œtogetherโ€ one. But friends and family often want to feel they have done something for you. Let them! Accepting help can help you. It also keeps the relationship balanced and lets your friends and loved ones know that they have something to offer that you value.

-๐˜š๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ค๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ด. When you genuinely care about someone you will be excited when they succeed. If you find yourself feeling a little jealous too, you can acknowledge that to yourself, but donโ€™t let it poison your friendship.

-๐˜’๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฎ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ. Open, honest communication is the lifeblood of healthy, happy relationships. If a friend does or says something that hurts your feelings, try to deal with it directly. Start by assuming that it is a misunderstanding or that the misstep was unintentional, but ask them about it. (Donโ€™t stuff bruised feelings.) Your friend will likely appreciate the opportunity to remedy the situation. Whatever the case, accept apologies graciously (as you would hope others would accept yours).

-๐˜™๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ต ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ด. Each person has their own setting for how much social interaction they need and want. Know your own and respect that of others, even it differs from yours.

-๐˜’๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฑ ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฌ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ. If you find that you are drained whenever you see a particular friend, or that he or she is inconsiderate of your time or feelings, or is unreliable, highly critical of you, or generally negative, they may not be the friend for you. Similarly, if they engage in unhealthy behaviors, such as alcohol or substance abuse, particularly if you have had trouble with such issues, they also may not be a good choice for your social support network.

๐˜™๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ, ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜ด๐˜บ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฑ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ๐˜ถ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด, ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ต. ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ต๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ, ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ต๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ.

๐’๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ˆ๐๐ž๐š๐ฌ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐๐ฎ๐ข๐ฅ๐๐ข๐ง๐  ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐’๐จ๐œ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐’๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ ๐’๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ฆ

-๐˜๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ. Identify a cause that is important to you and get involved; commit some of your time to a community organization or a local place of faith. Volunteering can give you the gratification of taking action to further your values and will bring you into contact with others who share your interests and ideals.

-๐˜›๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ข ๐˜ด๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ซ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข ๐˜จ๐˜บ๐˜ฎ. This is good for your physical and psychological health and it may also provide the opportunity to build new friendships.

-๐˜š๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜ข ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฌ ๐˜ค๐˜ญ๐˜ถ๐˜ฃ and invite some people to join who you donโ€™t already know well. Discussing interesting ideas and sharing thoughts and observations is a wonderful way to make new friends.

-๐˜”๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ-๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด. Make an effort to get to know some of the acquaintances you see on a regular basis.

-๐˜‘๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜จ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ป๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด. Taking this step is good not only for your future career but it will also extend your social network to encompass others in your field. Sometimes friends in the same profession can understand the stresses you face better than anyone.

-๐˜œ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ด. Social networking sites can help you stay connected with friends and family. There are also many sites that can provide specialized support if you are going through stressful times or changing circumstances, such as becoming a new parent, facing a life-threatening illness in a loved one, or some other challenge. Make sure to stick with reputable sites and use common sense about making arrangements to meet people in person that you have only known online.

๐–๐ก๐ฒ ๐ˆ๐ญ ๐ˆ๐ฌ ๐ˆ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐š๐ง๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐‚๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐’๐จ๐œ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐’๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ ๐’๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ฆ ๐๐จ๐ฐ
We turn to our social supports in times of need, and so they have to be in place before we need them. Now is the time to nurture the relationships you already have and to start making more friends. Donโ€™t wait! You will enjoy the benefits now and in the future.

๐’๐ญ๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐š ๐’๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ ๐†๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฉ
A social support network is different from a support group in which people facing common issues share their concerns on a regular basis (and which may be peer or professionally led or free-form), though both can be very important in times of stress. Because we think student peer support can be especially helpful during graduate school, we hope you (if you are a student) will consider joining (or starting) a student support group in your school.

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I want to add that if you're struggling with something in particular (a high stress job in a particular field, an illness, family stress), ONLINE FORUMS can be an excellent way to join a support network and make friends who understand exactly what you're going through! This guide didn't mention them, but I know I've benefited from them, so I wanted to mention it. โค๏ธ

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