Am I kidding myself?

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 6:20 PM

Not sure why I'm asking on this site, because most people aren't seniors in high school, or aren't in high school at all, but here goes nothing...

I have someone at school that I like, but I'm pretty sure he isn't interested in me. He's quiet and nice (not exactly friendly, but maybe he's shy, I can't tell) and he's attractive (at least to me; my friends don't think so) but I don't think he's interested in someone like me. I'm big, kind of overweight, and I'm not exactly pretty or attractive. And I'm not really that talktative or outgoing, unless I'm with my closest friends. I've sat across from him twice this year and I talk to him a little because he's in my Spanish group, but I'm afraid the fact that I like him is showing through. I don't really want him to know because I don't want to creep him out. I'm sure I'm not the type of girl he likes, let alone the type of girl he wants to date. I'd like to date him, but I'm pretty sure I'm kidding myself if I expect that. I don't really know what to do. So, what should I do? Should I just give up and let it go? Or maybe let him know I like him in a subtle way? I'm just afraid he won't like me back. I'm not the type of girl guys really like; I don't want to mess anything up, especially if I have to sit across from him for another four weeks.

dreamer • 30 November 2011 at 6:26 PM

@Briseis Holy crap!

You're in *exactly the same* situaton as I am!
Omg. O_O

Just go for it. If he doesn't like you, he's not worth it. I told the person I like; Well my friend told him, and he didn't exactly seem to believe it. So I'm still trying to figure out what exactly happened. X3

But yeah, go for it. I was completely nervous when the person I like somewhat found out (Haven't talked to him since last week, before he found out), but you get over that feeling after a couple days. Trust me. ;P

nkiay • 30 November 2011 at 6:27 PM

Ask him out or tell him you like him.

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 6:32 PM

Why would I do that directly? He'd probably be disgusted.

zafeyry • 30 November 2011 at 7:18 PM

@briseis
Let it show. If he doesn't react, don't tell him.

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 9:24 PM

@zafeyry what if he starts to avoid me or avoid talking to me because he knows and he thinks I'm disgusting or whatever else?

qwaszx • 30 November 2011 at 9:30 PM

@briseis Let it show a little. Don't tell him straight, just drop hints. If he seems like he likes you, make a move!😃 If he doesn't like you for who you are, he isn't worth your time.

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 9:31 PM

@qwasx I know he won't like me...I wish he would, but I sincerely doubt it. If I show it I'm afraid he'll just stop talking to me and won't make eye contact.

qwaszx • 30 November 2011 at 9:36 PM

Hmmm... I feel the same way about a guy I like. I'm kinda letting it show and people are asking me: "Do you like Jackson?" And he never noticed. XD

dreamer • 30 November 2011 at 9:45 PM

I like someone, and I've been dropping hints. I think he knows, but never believed it, or jsut hasn't said anything. 😋

Now that he knows, I'm just avoiding him. I'm not lookign at him, talking to him, or anything. It's hurting me so much. But if he's so used to me looking at him and smiling at him and laughing at his jokes, mabe now he'll be wondering: "Where'd the old Danielle go? She's not noticing me anymore", which is exaclty how I feel about this boy. I'm hoping he'll come around. He'll know something's not normal. He'll know what I'm doing, eventually. And, fat chance, I could get lucky.

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 9:47 PM

@qwasx I'm sure he'd notice if I acted like I liked him. Trust me. And he'd be disgusted. I don't want to lose even having a chance at a friendship if I can...but I'm sure even that's not possible. Sigh...

qwaszx • 30 November 2011 at 9:47 PM

Well I give you all my luck.😸 I have no chance anyway...

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 9:49 PM

@qwasx trust me, neither do I. The only guy I'll probably ever attract is a creepy stalkerish guy, but if that's the best I can get I might as well take it...pathetic, I know, but I'll have no other choice.

Deleted • 30 November 2011 at 9:52 PM

Trip him, so he drops something under you. Then try to pick it up so then he looks into your eyes xD

pizza5pizza5 • 30 November 2011 at 9:53 PM

@chloekins

That is SO SMART! xDDDD

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 9:53 PM

@chloekins I don't think he'd appreciate being that close to me...ew.

syndrome • 30 November 2011 at 9:54 PM

@briseis I know how you feel ☹️

I don't even like anyone, but I have a feeling that even if I did, no girl would ever like me.

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 9:58 PM

@pirateseaz I think it's different for boys. I've never met a guy who was considered "ugly" or "unattractive", like me (I'm female).

balletninja • 30 November 2011 at 9:59 PM

Stop putting yourself down
This is your third forum
where all you do in the end is in insult yourself.
Males love confidence, maybe that would help.
I am not trying to be mean,
and maybe I shouldn't even comment
But this is silly to do this to yourself.

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 10:00 PM

@balletninja trust me, confidence has nothing to do with it. I've always been confident and it's never done me any good.

metaphor • 30 November 2011 at 10:09 PM

@briseis

I know it's cliche and has been around for a while, but I think you need this song/video STAT.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAfyFTzZDMM&ob=av2e

Deleted • 30 November 2011 at 10:10 PM

@briseis

My crush did xD Also in Yoga. I thank that weirdo sub who made us do Yoga xD

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 10:12 PM

The song really isn't helping right now...

metaphor • 30 November 2011 at 10:13 PM

What @balletninja said.
I know girls who aren't exactly models (though they're definitely beautiful in their own right) and they have lots of friends and, believe it or not, manage healthy relationships with relatively attractive guys. Why? Because they're confident in themselves and accept that they have flaws but don't dwell on them.

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 10:16 PM

@metaphor I already said this, but I'll say it again. Confidence has absolutely nothing to do with it. I'm confident. I'm friendly. I'm nice. But it hasn't not squat for me. What'st the use of confidence if it doesn't do anything for me?

balletninja • 30 November 2011 at 10:18 PM

@briseis Show me your confidence.
Because right now you are not exactly exuding it.
I know you can.
Tell me one thing you love about yourself.

@metaphor Lovely video 😊

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 10:20 PM

@balletninja I love nothing about myself. I'm okay with my personality, but absolutely nothing physical is anything to be proud of in my case. But that doesn't mean I can't be confident, if that's what you're trying to get at.

balletninja • 30 November 2011 at 10:27 PM

@briseis
Okay,
this is ridiculous.
You need to love yourself in order for others to love you!

Human lives are amazing,
did you know we have a 0.0000067 chance of being born as a human instead of chicken?
There is a .00000000000000000000000000000023 chance of being a human at all on this planet, because you could be a bug right now instead
And the chances of being born on earth at all?
THINK OF THE ZEROS!

What I am getting at is do you think a chicken or bug ever looks in the mirror and hates on themselves?
We are lucky we even get to do that,
so instead of complaining next time
think about how you aren't a chicken and
BE HAPPY! LOVE YOUR LIFE!

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 10:30 PM

@balletninja love life? With all of the garbage that I live through? Do you think that I really believe life is worth it? Life is only good to those who are socially blessed, and people who are good looking. And trust me on that. Yes, I'm being quite cynical. But that's just how the world works.

balletninja • 30 November 2011 at 10:33 PM

@briseis I am sorry you think life is like that.
But you are wrong,
there is nothing else I can do for you besides tell you
there IS happiness.
I hope you find it one day.