Guy Problems Help?

orange • 30 November 2011 at 6:43 PM

Ok so theres a guy I like...but my neighbor, keeps flirting with him. Its really annoying me, and I think he is starting to like her...which really breaks my heart. Any Suggestions?

@brisis
@dreamer
@glados

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 6:45 PM

Why don't you talk to him?

orange • 30 November 2011 at 6:49 PM

I do, he sits by me cuz we have close last names.....but im not sure if he likes me or not. And my neighbor is REALLY making me mad by always flirting with every guy! Especially him, even though she dosent like him, I do.

@briseis

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 6:52 PM

You can't change whether he likes you or not. You just have to be who you are and if he wants your neighbor and not you then there's nothing you can do.

I've learned that I'm unwanted by guys; so whenever I like someone I try to be who I am even though I know the result isn't going to be positive. I've learned that being yourself is better than lying...even if it isn't effective.

orange • 30 November 2011 at 6:55 PM

@briseis
I know, but I think he MIGHT like me back, but I don't know how to tell.

@thursdays_dove
@qwerty732797

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 7:00 PM

Then why don't you just ask him?

Sorry, I'm not good with guys. Guys seem to try and avoid me, mostly because of how I look. So I'm not really used to having guy issues. I don't consider that a good thing of course, but I guess it has it's "benefits".

orange • 30 November 2011 at 7:02 PM

@briseis
lol😊 ya at least pervs don't bother you😊
But wouldn't that make it just like REALLY awkward if he says like umm....no I don't really like you....☹️

lola622f • 30 November 2011 at 7:03 PM

I don't think that I'm helpful, but maybe you can talk to him more and get to know him?

orange • 30 November 2011 at 7:04 PM

@lola622f
Ya....😊 that would help, but he kinda dosen't talk a lot....kinda keeps to himself. I would love if he talked to me more but...not mostly to his guy friends...

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 7:05 PM

@orange I'd prefer being stalked to being avoided, to be honest.

You have nothing to lose if you ask him. If it wasn't meant to be there's no changing that either way...

lola622f • 30 November 2011 at 7:06 PM

@orange .....maybe you can try to start a conversation with him? That's what I would do.....

zafeyry • 30 November 2011 at 7:08 PM

@orange
Smile at him, then talk to him. Then before you leave smile again. And flirt with him more than your neighbor.

Deleted • 30 November 2011 at 8:46 PM

@orange

I dunno how helpful I am, but wouldn't the easiest way to find out if he likes you is to ask him out? It doesn't even have to be a 'real' date or anything, just maybe if he'd want to just hang out at the park or your place or something. The worst he could say is no, he's not interested.

But if you want to be more indirect, try using the tactics of your neighbor and flirt a little. If he flirts back, he probably likes you. If he ignores you, I'd suggest not pushing him because he's probably not interested.

That's all I got. And just remember I've never dated anyone. All the boys at my school are so immature. 😃

thursdays_dove • 30 November 2011 at 9:27 PM

@orange - Aw honey, listen, I'm 25 years old and I'm old enough to know that you 1.) can't make someone like you and 2.) will sometimes be rejected. When I was in school, I was one of those girls that no one really liked, especially boys, and whenever I worked up the courage to tell a guy that I liked him, he basically avoided me forever after that.

Have you talked to him? Are you and him friends? Sometimes you just have to work up enough courage to start talking to someone and you never know what can come from that! Just keep in mind that when you're that age (not sure how old you are, but at most high school age, right?), pretty much nothing is permanent, including your friends and possible boyfriends. Things always change when you get older, even if you don't think that they will. I used to think I'd never have real friends and never have someone to love me, but I hung on and now I have great friends and I'm getting married next October! So you never know what life will throw at you; you just have to stay strong and be ready for whatever comes your way.

To start, you should try talking to him. You don't have to reveal everything to him at first, but at least talk to him to see if he's even willing to be your friend. If he isn't very receptive, then he's not worth your time. Know who you are and be confident! People love other people's confidence. And you should never be willing to change who you are for someone else to like you.

Hope that helps. Hang in there!

orange • 1 December 2011 at 6:37 PM

@thursdays_dove
thx😊
@qwerty732797
thx😊

But guys, I think I might just give up on him.☹️ Seriously, my neighbor keeps going like," Give me a HUG! You are soo cute! I LUV YOU!" right In front of me☹️

Deleted • 1 December 2011 at 6:38 PM

@orange

Okay, if she is actually saying that, how is HE responding? She just sounds ridiculous.

orange • 1 December 2011 at 6:47 PM

He's like," Why do you like me?" smiles his ridiculous smile that I fall over for😋
"Because your cute!" she says
"Why?"
"Give me A HUG!"
"Why?"
"EVERYONE gives me a hug! Why not you?"
"Why should I?"
"Cuz I LOVE YOU!"
"Why?"


"Hey, Do you love me?"
"No."

I sit staring cuz he sits next to me but my neighbor just ingnores me.

@qwerty732797

Deleted • 1 December 2011 at 6:49 PM

@orange

Not to be rude, but she just sounds like one of those ridiculous, stuck-up, dumb people that everyone is forced to deal with at least once in their life.

I don't think she's much at all; he doesn't seem interested, and she just seems annoying.

Just do what you want. If it's not worth the effort, don't force it.

vyutzu-san • 1 December 2011 at 6:57 PM

@orange Are you and your neighbor friends? Because you could try talking to her instead. Maybe tell her how you feel about him, and ask her (politely, of course) to lay off a bit, or possibly even help you. 😊

Of course, I would make a sarcastic comment that has him cracking up, but that may or may not be your best approach. XD

lennyangel • 1 December 2011 at 7:06 PM

@thursdays_dove @qwerty732797 @briseis Have all given you some really good advice. They are right, listen to them haha.

And to be honest, your neighbour flirting with him is just what some girls do. It's not that big a deal. Some guys fall for it, some guys hate it. Your love interest's reactions seem to me like he thinks it's harmless enough, and that he isn't interested. If he liked her, he would JUMP on the opportunity to hug her. It seems she is pushing her attentions on him BECAUSE he hasn't shown interest in her.
To be super annoying, every time she wants a hug from him, you could offer to hug her instead. It'll throw her off. And maybe you'll get a hug, hugs are always good.

Deleted • 1 December 2011 at 7:11 PM

@Orange

That stinks.
You should just strike a convo.

orange • 1 December 2011 at 7:24 PM

@qwerty732797
thx😊 I really do hate my neighbor though. Before this happened, she is selfish, snobby, and worst of all pretty.(loves herself too much too)

@lennyangel
ya well when she asked him, he looked like he wanted to but something told him not to. He was all smiley and looked so cute, and looked kinda interested.

@chloekins
Whats a convo?

Ok look, I am probably a 6 or 7 that has NEVER dated, gets straight As and asian😋
He is like a 10 (to me) popular, smart, and cute
My neighbor is like a 9, selfish, full of herself, and really annoying.

If you were him who would you date? I mean like I don't care if you said my neighbor, I can move on, but I just need to know...Don't worry about my feelings REALLY😊 not being sarcastic

Deleted • 1 December 2011 at 7:28 PM

maybe tell him something like "hi i've been thinking and now i am ready to tell you that i like you but i dont wanna make you uncomfortable but I just think you should know."

orange • 1 December 2011 at 7:30 PM

@kitty19cat
Ya...but do you think he will turn awkward against me? Even if he smiles and goes like,"I like you too😊" Do you think he'll just be like inside,"OMG why did she say that? I don't like her and now I can't face her again."

Deleted • 1 December 2011 at 7:31 PM

well i have said it to someone and it never got awkward between us.

whitefall • 1 December 2011 at 7:32 PM

Personally, I think it'd make everything awkward.

Deleted • 1 December 2011 at 7:34 PM

@Orange

Conversation😊

lennyangel • 1 December 2011 at 7:45 PM

@orange For a second i thought you were saying you were 6 years old and he was 10 years old. I was thinking "that's just messed up". But I realise you were rating yourself. Just so you know, rating is utter bollocks. Seriously, if you assume he is not going to like you based on some stupid number system, than you are probably too immature to date anyone anyway. I know that is harsh, but how can you give your commitment in a relationship if you have already decided the outcome is negative? It seems like you have given up already. On everything. Why? Based on some superficial crap fed to us by the media? Why put yourself through that. If you can see that this neighbour is not a nice person, than give your love interest the benefit of the doubt and assume he knows it too. If he doesn't, then he isn't worth your time because you clearly have different out looks.

hay7199 • 1 December 2011 at 8:01 PM

Look just being honest here but if you dont know then why dont you ask him? boys are almost the same as girls but hide there feelings.So if you have known him for a wile like me in 5th grade there was a guy i was crushing on his name was Ceaser (please dont make fun of his name)and i spent some time getting to know him and he was pretty cool so he gave me his phone number and we talked for a wile after and i finally told him i liked him and he said he liked me back so.....my advice to you is tell him how you feel and if he says he dosent like you like that then dont make a big deal of it.

lennyangel • 1 December 2011 at 8:03 PM

@hay7199 I totally agree with you! Guys ARE the same as girls (well, apart from the facial hair...)