Issues with a girl at school :x

trish • 6 December 2011 at 11:09 AM

So one day, during homeroom, I asked the guy next to me if he knew this girl. He said 'Yes. **********'s girlfriend.' And I was like, 'Oh. Him? I remember this one girl told everyone on Facebook that I told her that (GIRL) likes him. But she forgave me.'

THE NEXT DAY, ON FACEBOOK.

(The girl I was referring to that forgave me months ago):
'Do you hate me or something?Yeah,I've heard what you tell guys about me!WTF is your promblem?!I am so mad at you!I don't know hy you say such things!Before I though you were nice,but I guess not!

And I don't give f*** if it's to make someone feel better.I don't like people spreading things about me.'

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Help! I DIDN'T say she did. I was REFERRING TO BEFORE. The guy knew too. The girl blocked me on all my accounts, and I don't dare speak to her because she has this snotty friend always besides her. But I believe she's completely unreasonable about this for not letting me explain. I find that overly dramatic and unreasonable.

arabianninja • 6 December 2011 at 11:15 AM

@trish

If she will not even let you explain, do you really want to have anything to do with her anyway? If she doesn't understand or even try to understand then she probably doesn't want to be friends with you and maybe you should just leave it at that. A true friend would listen and forgive you.

Deleted • 6 December 2011 at 12:23 PM

i wouldnt be her friend. if any body talked to me like that and i didnt really like them or was in a reallyy good mood, i would beat them up. but dont do that, youll get in trouble XD

trish • 6 December 2011 at 9:27 PM

@arabianninja @deannablanco3 I BARELY know her. I secretly know she's spreading rumors about me too that aren't true AT ALL. If I just let this go, she'll probably keep spreading rumors about me. I ran into her snotty friend today and I said sorry in the tiniest voice, but she didn't say anything to me. Like 10 minutes later I passed the girl who hates my guts, but I simply just passed her.

Deleted • 6 December 2011 at 9:29 PM

@trish i would talk to her face to face, with witnesses, then i would tell her snotty friend that she can go and you know what? im not ging to finish that sentence XD

trish • 6 December 2011 at 9:33 PM

@deannablanco3 I would LOVE to. I tried once, but she just like, walked away before I even came close. And then I thought, 'You don't wanna know my story. You take what you hear and you think its the truth because you heard it from your boy pal who you MAY HAVE liked.'

Seriously, I've never seen a girl who reacted so bad like this when she denies it.

Deleted • 6 December 2011 at 9:37 PM

@trish
maybe you should tell her to mind her own busnees, that she really needs to learn how to get over stuff, and to stop lieing XD.

icymuffin • 6 December 2011 at 9:39 PM

She dun like people who spread rumors...? She must hate herself. A lot. :/

I think can see why you want this sorted out. But I don't think quietly saying sorry is gonna help, not that I'm saying anything. ><"
I mean that, if they think they have an upperhand/look down at you, they probably won't give you a chance to try to explain...

Sorry! I'm uselessss~ Dx
But yeah, just letting it go is also good. She'll get over it at some point. Or forget it.

briseis • 6 December 2011 at 9:39 PM

You did speak about her without her permission, especially about something that was personal. Honestly, I think you're more at fault than she is. The mature thing to do would be to just let it go and try not to instigate any more bad situations. Drama is no fun.

trish • 6 December 2011 at 9:46 PM

@icymuffin I said sorry 'cause I almost ran into her friend. 😋


@briseis I was not saying it, I was referring it to a person who kinda knew that already. And she doesn't have the rights to speak about me either. She literally talks, likes, and comments on the guy's FB statuses. Alotta people see it.

balletninja • 6 December 2011 at 9:49 PM

@trish I totally understand this. It is stressful and stuff that is never said somehow becomes said?

I would tell her sorry, but that it was not all your fault (take some of the fault or other people will hate you). You should say it is mainly the rumors that have been messing with this whole ordeal. Then explain the real situation briefly. AND SMILE!

trish • 6 December 2011 at 10:00 PM

@balletninja I should definitely try that. The message was messed up when it was carried twice to her. So I'm trying to tell the guy I was first talking to that I was not saying she still does but was referring. But he's not realizing that if he told the person that he misunderstood, it would save both our butts. It's mostly true anyway. I can't get up the nerves to talk to her, if she's gonna be that way.

mightyeglantine • 6 December 2011 at 10:18 PM

@trish
Confront her....I've had many situations like this where a person asked me to tell someone something then they change their mind and flip out on me.... The last time it happened in 6th grade I left school with everyone thinking I was gay because of rumors and so called 'Revenge'.......My advice Is to either Confront them or Avoid them If your planning on fighting let them hit you first then it is totally OK due to it being Self-defense...My mother has two rules we must follow in school 1) Get good grades 2) Don't fight unless someone Hits you or school is out....

balletninja • 6 December 2011 at 10:21 PM

@trish If you have a class with her, walk up to her politely before the bell rings to leave (usually teachers allows talking time before class or right before the next hour's bell) and say "hi" then before she can sprint away, say sorry. Then the rest.

She ovbiously is scared of you because she is avoiding you. If you don't have a class with her, tell one of her friends or something to pass the message on.

bubble_tree • 6 December 2011 at 11:00 PM

@trish She thinks you spread rumors about her? 😱 She should NOT be yelling at you for this. A rumor can be the truth that was twisted along the way. A good friend would have asked nicely: "I heard you were talking stuff about me. Is that true?" <----- She is asking nicely, demanding some explanation. She shouldn't be ranting and asking you this on facebook where everything's public. She should be talking to you personally, alone, and in private.

I sound so much more conflicting than I should be. xD

crescentfeather • 7 December 2011 at 12:06 AM

@trish Ugh.

Seriously? e.o

MATURE SOLUTION: Confront her in front of a lot of other people. Bother her until she listens.

IMMATURE SOLUTION: Counter-spread rumors.

TEACHER'S PET SOLUTION: Tell an adult.

XD

trish • 7 December 2011 at 12:12 AM

@crescentfeather She's not usually around a LOT of people. I think it's hard to just confront her.

thursdays_dove • 7 December 2011 at 12:40 AM

@trish - I don't think I'll be much help, because I'm not entirely sure what happened based from your explanation. But I will say that people at that age tend to be immature and overreact to the dumbest things. Ignore her. You have better things to do than be swept up in her drama. If she's going to spread rumors about you, then only stupid people will believe them. And stupid people are not worth your time.

This is coming from someone who was picked on all throughout school. When in doubt, ignore the person! But be cordial when necessary. It's not always easy to do, but it's the best solution. People have spread rumors about me before and I ignored it, because I knew in my heart that it wasn't true and the people who were my REAL friends didn't believe it either. The world is full of gossip (all you have to do is turn on the TV and watch stuff about celebrities), and most of it isn't true or is extremely blown out of proportion. So, there you go.

Bottom line is, if she doesn't want people all up in her business after she posts stuff on Facebook, then... well.. she shouldn't post it on Facebook! 😋

trish • 7 December 2011 at 12:47 AM

@thursdays_dove Your right. That helped me. Now that I think about it, I'm always the one to give in. Not this time, I don't believe what she's saying about what happen is completely true. And neither is anything else.

thursdays_dove • 7 December 2011 at 12:53 AM

@trish - I don't know the full story, but it's also possible she feels guilty about something or is projecting onto you. That is to say, she might be trying to hide something by spreading rumors about you and making people think badly of you instead of her. I don't know what that could be, but it's possible.

Well, hang in there! Ah, being a teen - those were tough years I'll admit, but you can make it. Just try to remember that you can't change how someone else thinks of you or how they feel about you - the only thing you can control is how you react to it and how you let it affect you. That's a very hard lesson to learn (I'm still learning!), but it's a very valuable one. 😊

seastar43 • 7 December 2011 at 12:57 AM

My cousin got into a situation kinda like this. She goes to a public school and this girl kept spreading rumors and the story keeps going on. It's so sad. People TP and egged her house. I would bring it up to a parent or teacher. You need to talk to her (maybe on facebook) or a friend of hers and explain.