In my case. It's a BIG DEAL.

sky • 6 December 2011 at 11:27 PM

I've been having an on and off temper today, and I'm just not wanting to show up to school tomorrow even though it's a half day for me. Tomorrow I have GYM, and I'm okay with GYM, we started playing one of my most favorite sports; Badminton. And I won't be able to participate. For me, it's a big deal.

To be more specific: There's going to be a bad mitten tournament. We have to have a partner in order to enter.
My friend had the option to choose me or her other friend, but of course she wanted to choose her other friend considering they've known each other for a very long time. And I was left with no option. No one left was available. None. Nada. My boyfriend isn't wanting to join in because he finds himself to be a "terrible player", and I'm fine with that. I'm not just going to force him.

This has happened more then once, actually millions of times, whenever I want to actually participate in something such as a tournament. I can't. It's always me being the only one left without a partner. Even so, I'm considered a third wheel (in my own point of view), and I never like being someone's second option. I hate it.
At this point I've been feeling very excluded from everyone.

- Continued -

fate • 6 December 2011 at 11:28 PM

So the past few hours, I've been excluding myself from everyone. I find that it'd be easier for me to do that as a favor to them, and everyone. Not that anyone really cares, it's like, if someone were to have passed away in my family- which someone did a few months ago -they wouldn't consider it as a big deal, but when it comes to their problems in relationships, it's a big deal.

And because of this problem, this really does hurt me. A lot.
I was crying for hours yesterday.

I'm always the third wheel.
I'm always the second choice.
I'm always excluded from everyone.

sky • 6 December 2011 at 11:35 PM

I know. It probably sounds like I'm rambling at this point, but I'm completely filled with rage. I just don't know what I'm going to do tomorrow. And the one person I'm used to going to in these situations won't be around for a couple of days since she's visiting in England.

Help! What should I do?

☹️

balletninja • 6 December 2011 at 11:47 PM

Play bad mitten at a country club insted. Find better things to do 😊

lawrence5555 • 6 December 2011 at 11:50 PM

@sky CALM DOWN!! are you in your room? if you are realease your rage on something like a pillow write back when you did this 😊 that is my advice 😊

smilies • 6 December 2011 at 11:51 PM

@sky I know EXACTLY how you feel! I've been there.... But then the "other friend" moved to Austraila.... And i've been her best friend for five years now.
If I've ever wanted to do something like that, there's always been the girl no one really wants to go with in the class, if no one else. It's sad but true.
She's weird and talks to herself all the time XD
Hey. Atleast you have a bf =_=

sky • 6 December 2011 at 11:59 PM

@Balletninja - There isn't much around my town. Just a small little plaza right near a prison home, and a dead street. And I'm not allowed to walk around my neighborhood much considering the people around me which is why I have to ride a Taxi every morning to school.

And when I'm at home, I'm always locked inside my room playing video games or reading a book.

@Lawrence5555 - Those things never help me. ☹️

@Smilies - Yea, I don't talk to myself. xD
But people practically see right through me. They automatically judge me by my appearance and the people I hang around.

And, I've been having boyfriend problems as well. Which adds onto my situation. He's been hugging and flirting with another girl, he's been bests friends with her and I hate seeing them being too friendly. And of course my friend is SO supportive and says,
"Yup. He'll just break up with you for her."
My friends. They are so nice to me.

-.-

crescentfeather • 7 December 2011 at 12:00 AM

I'm always the last one to get chosen for a team.

'Cause I suck at sports.

lawrence5555 • 7 December 2011 at 12:03 AM

@sky then you should go up to your friends and tell them what you are made of! are you good at that? you could try it 8I

sky • 7 December 2011 at 12:04 AM

@Crooton1 - It's a sport, like Tennis. But different.
(Turns out it's spelled Badminton)

@Crescentfeather - I'm not good at most sports I'm only good at Badminton, Tennis, Basketball, and I'm O.K. with Field Hockey.

smilies • 7 December 2011 at 12:05 AM

@sky Oh, that really sucks ☹️ Can't help you there... ☹️

@crescentfeather Hi-Five! 😃

icymuffin • 7 December 2011 at 12:07 AM

You mean badminton...?

I feel for you. And I've been in that situation before. oAo Terrible, terrible. D;

crescentfeather • 7 December 2011 at 12:07 AM

@sky I fail at all sports except Wii Sports. XDDDDDDDDD

@smilies *high fives* 8D

sky • 7 December 2011 at 12:11 AM

@Lawrence5555 - I did at lunch today. They gave me the, has-she-gone-mad look. One of my friends at the table who is also one my ex, and his friend, and my boyfriend were the only ones that had really cared about it. My ex - which is now my best friend had heard about me crying yesterday, for a while I had thought he was stalking me, then I remembered I ran into his mom at the store while I was still in tears.

NOTE TO SELF: Don't go to the store with your parents when you're still in tears.

lawrence5555 • 7 December 2011 at 12:14 AM

@sky well i got nothing no more advice sorry ☹️ if you would like more advice insert quarter XD, but really i have no more ☹️

sky • 7 December 2011 at 12:21 AM

@Icymuffin - Hah, yea, that's what I meant. x3
I might just actually hide in the locker room sobbing.
TT_TT

This happened with doubledutch.
We were practicing and we were in assigned groups, we were going to perform but the group hadn't let me have a turn so I left. They didn't realize I had left.

After the tournament they told me they failed and that they should've included me. I still haven't fully forgiven them.

@Lawrence5555 - I'm just gonna go ride a pony at Walmart to try and heal my pain...I'm gonna need more quarters.

bubble_tree • 7 December 2011 at 12:30 AM

@sky if you want the day to go quicker, (now this is my method which can be proven wrong), pray to God to make your day go quick; that all your worries will be resolved somehow. Now I don't know if you're Christian or Catholic or some religion who does believe in God. But it always works for me. 😊

^^^ That's the -religious- solution. 😃

The more "for-everyone-solution" is to just not worry if you're the third wheel. At some point, every single person is, and they turn out fine. This of the bright side to be a third wheel. You won't have to be nagged upon by them. 😋 If they don't think you'll work well with them, show them that you are good. No, scratch that. GREAT! 😊

Now, is that friend of your friend any better than you in badminton? Are you better than them? Your friend probably chose them because they THINK they will do just as good because they've known each other longer. Not always true. Its just what besties do. They pick the person they know and -somewhat- trust more.

I'm not saying your not trustworthy! Its just that since she thinks you're a great friend, she believe you'll just brush it off and be okay with it.

Sorry, I ramble. 😋

sky • 7 December 2011 at 12:43 AM

@Bubble-tree - I'll try. But I'm not at all sure if she's any better then me, she's tall which gives her the better advantage, I'm short but I'm capable of hitting long distance. She was in my GYM class last year but we haven't actually competed against each other. And the fact that we were playing as a practice team, I was with my friend, we were playing against her friend (we're friends, just not as close) and this other girl. The birdie kept on going towards her, it'd rarely go to me, and I know she would get mad if I'd interfered, and when it'd come to me, I wouldnt at all be ready for it. So it looked as if I were...weak.

When my friend chose to be partners with her other friend I felt angered and upset, I just didn't as much showed it.

We were still in the middle of playing, and right at that point I started getting good shots and winning, but I didn't feel great about it, after a few more winning hits, I walked away without completing the round. I was to caught up in trying to find a partner.

thursdays_dove • 7 December 2011 at 12:48 AM

@sky - Sorry that is happening to you! I think people often forget how others might feel; people tend to be selfish and think only of themselves. Is there a way you could be more proactive? Is there literally no one else you could partner up with, such as someone who you aren't normally friends with? Maybe you could make a new friend that way. Of course I don't have the FULL story, so sorry if I have the details wrong. x.x

Perhaps you should talk to your friend about it. Let her know how you feel. Maybe she just doesn't realize it. Sometimes you have to be blunt with people.

In either case, it's definitely not a good feeling to feel like you're left out. I understand how that feels, believe me. But these sort of things don't last forever. Keep your head up - your confidence is your best feature! If you are confident in yourself, others will be confident in you too, and that attracts the good sort of people. 😊

bubble_tree • 7 December 2011 at 12:50 AM

@sky You should never walk away. Especially when you're winning. 😋 If you show that you feel lousy, others will feel lousy too and they'll get mad at you. A lot of people say not to hide, but when you should, when you know your friend is having a good time, you should hide. You don't want to spoil anybody else's fun.

Now I know that can make a person even more angry because it makes them feel that they aren't cared about, but really. If you want to be the better friend, you shouldn't be as bad as they are. :/

sky • 7 December 2011 at 1:01 AM

@Thursday_dove - There literally isn't anyone I could pair up with besides my boyfriend. I asked if there were anyone else available and she said there was one remaining, I went to ask the person is shed like to be my partner, apparently I had come to late.

I gave her a hint. But it didn't as much change anything.

Thanks for the advice. 😊


@Bubble_tree - I know. I just like having my time to myself, I don't like letting out my rage on things, especially when it involves a racket and people around me...

I try not to be. I'm always giving people advice and cheering them up, but when it comes to me and my needs, I'm always pushed aside.

anna914 • 7 December 2011 at 9:32 PM

i only have one friend in real life sad ☹️ i love bad mitten


im too shy to try to no people in real life ...

pizza5pizza5 • 7 December 2011 at 9:37 PM

@sky

I know what its like to be the third wheel
Trust me, i really do.
Find other friends it what i did, friends that wont make you feel like the third wheel or that your excluded from everything.

sky • 7 December 2011 at 10:26 PM

@Anna914 - I'm an extremely shy person inside, I never show it, I act as if I'm strong, but inside I'm fragile.

@Pizza5pizza5 - This is the problem. There really is no other person that I could possibly be friends with without becoming a third wheel. Not because I'm shy, because of the people around me. I know and have seen the kind of stuff they do, and I'm not wanting to be influenced by them.

And today, I felt worse. Once again I had broke down crying.
My parents came in to try talking to me about it, but they couldn't really do anything about it except for them to talk to my guidance councilor.

briseis • 8 December 2011 at 9:19 PM

@sky is there any way you can switch schools? If you're certain that you cannot make friends at your school, why not try a new one?

I'm in the same situation; have been for nine years. That's why I'm moving to South Dakota for college next year; I hate Arizona people and I want to be away from them. Being in a new environment will open up new doors for me (hopefully). Sometimes you just have to move on.

lola622f • 8 December 2011 at 9:25 PM

@sky I'm in a similar situation. I don't have any good frieds at school because I move alot. I don't think that you should exclude yourself. Try to make new friends.