Is it normal....?

balletninja • 14 December 2011 at 10:42 PM

I am 14, I have never kissed a guy nor dated one.

Whenever I tell people, they look really confused. Because a ton of people think I am pretty and the fact that I haven't been with a guy yet is blasphemous to them..
I mean, this REALLY used to bug me but now it doesn't.
In fact I am kinda happy I am saving it.

But is it normal to date young? What do you think the appropriate age is?


Oh and no talking about how you don't get any dates on here because you are ugly. You aren't ugly, and you should be happy with yourself. 😊

takaedakumi • 14 December 2011 at 10:44 PM

Just my opinion, but I think 16 to 18-ish is a good time to start.

Deleted • 14 December 2011 at 10:46 PM

I know a couple people who started dating in 7th-8th grade, but I haven't and you can't force it anyway.

For some maybe you will date young, but for others it's perfectly fine to wait awhile. In fact, if you like absolutely no one in your school because they are all immature or rude, you might not even really date until college or beyond. That's fine in my book.

inkstep • 14 December 2011 at 10:49 PM

actually I think it's average
I'm the same =P almost fourteen (few more weeks, WHOO) and boys don't even ACKNOWLEDGE me, but don't wory, it's fine, I have friends that are 15 and 16 who are just forming crushes

balletninja • 14 December 2011 at 10:49 PM

@qwerty732797 I feel like time has sped up. Kids at my school started seriously dating at 12 years old.

And in 7th grade kissing became big.

duchess • 14 December 2011 at 10:51 PM

@balletninja It's very normal 😊 Some people do it really early, but I can't help but feel that most of them aren't really ready, or don't really understand what it should be about.

cafe • 14 December 2011 at 10:52 PM

@Balletninja


16, turning 17 in April, and I've never kissed a boy.

It just..the boys in my old schools never appealed to me. Because I'm short, I was always "t-bagged" [If you don't know what that is, don't look it up.]

balletninja • 14 December 2011 at 10:55 PM

@cafe Like the gamer thing? I will look it up if not.

@duchess Good point. I mean I like a guy right now, but I don't think he is mature enough to understand a relationship.

duchess • 14 December 2011 at 10:58 PM

@balletninja, A lot of people aren't. Hehe at least you know guys, I haven't spoken to one (besides my Dad and brother) in over 4 years.

trish • 14 December 2011 at 10:58 PM

Well, if your dating YOUNG like in middle school (like me. (X ) it's not a BIG problem. People don't take it too seriously actually. But like in our school, mostly these popular people date.

When you take things seriously in probably in high school? 😋

For me, as an example, I'm a 7th grader and I have a boyfriend. He's taking me to the dance. We hang out. We hug. The end.

thursdays_dove • 14 December 2011 at 11:02 PM

@balletninja - I didn't get my first boyfriend and experience my first kiss (with said first boyfriend) until I turned... Oh man that was a long time ago... I think either sixteen or seventeen. And I don't think that's odd at all! It means you have higher standards for yourself and you aren't gonna take the first guy to cross your path. 😋

Don't let anyone make you feel like you're "weird" or something just because you haven't had a boyfriend or been kissed yet. I think it's something to be proud of! Kids these days wanna grow up way too fast. 😋

So. End semi-rant. >.>

cafe • 14 December 2011 at 11:07 PM

@Balletninja

I don't know if it's a weird gamer thing, but it's a stupid thing boys do at my old schools.

pipkitten • 14 December 2011 at 11:17 PM

Pfft, I'm 17 and have never had a boyfriend. ...And I don't care to get one. 😋

crescentfeather • 15 December 2011 at 12:15 AM

@balletninja Pfft, ridiculous. Start whenever you feel like it. Other people aren't necessarily right.

7th grade kissing? 0_e

I don't have a very high opinion of those kinds of people. ^above

clockworkjowls • 15 December 2011 at 12:21 AM

Not to sound decrepit, but when I was 14, a lot of the kids who claimed that they were makin' on each other really weren't.

balletninja • 15 December 2011 at 12:33 AM

Ugh. People disgust me with their kissing rumors

metaphor • 15 December 2011 at 6:26 PM

Uh, it's normal. I've only been on two or three dates and I'm 18. Plus, I got my first kiss not even a year ago. Everyone is different. No pressure. You should worry more about school and family and friends, as corny as that may sound.

elluwah • 15 December 2011 at 6:35 PM

I guess it's normal to just date whenever you feel ready to.
18 over here *waves* and never kissed or dated a guy. It sucks at times but all in all I'm pretty happy that I'm not just looking for anyone... rather, the good ones. Which so far, I've never met. 😊

The only good thing I can think of about being young and dating is that you gain experience in that area. You learn what to look out for in people, and how to be around them.

But as others have said, nobody should feel weird or "not normal" if you're not acting the way other people are at your age. Go your own pace, focus on what feels to be of higher importance to you, and everything will happen in it's own time. ^^

pizza5pizza5 • 15 December 2011 at 6:35 PM

16 is a normal age. Maybe 15. My mom says high school, but im in 7th grade, and never done any of that O-o

dreamer • 15 December 2011 at 6:35 PM

Dating? Hmm...

I think aroudn here, a lot of people do date a lot in around 8th and 9th grade, and on through highschool. I'm in 6th grade, and a lot of people are already dating. O.O

Don't rush it though. Find someone you like, IF you do, and make sure they like you back. Or you could always just wait and see if someone else asks you out, and that you'd be fine with them. But you don't need to do anything you don't wanna do.

pizza5pizza5 • 15 December 2011 at 6:37 PM

@cafe


WWWHHHHOOOOOOOOAA.

Teabagged, seriously????!

I didnt even have to look it up. Boys at my school do it all the time, and like i said im in 7th grade.

But girls dont get teabagged here o-o

zafeyry • 15 December 2011 at 6:40 PM

Um, I feel trashy but it's not like I haven't been called that before XD
I had my first kiss in kindergarten and started dating last year (6th grade) I secretly like my best friend that's a girl and might go out with her when her and her boyfriend break up.

EDIT: And people in my grade have "done it"

jaywesome • 15 December 2011 at 6:43 PM

It depends where you are actually, where I live it's normal at 16-18 and somewhere else 12-14 is normal, it's an environment kind of thing.

pizza5pizza5 • 15 December 2011 at 6:47 PM

@zafeyry



...........seriously? o-o

balletninja • 15 December 2011 at 6:51 PM

@zafeyry 7th grade?

People at my school have but in 8th grade. I hope sevies haven't D:

zafeyry • 15 December 2011 at 6:52 PM

@pizza5pizza5
@balletninja
Connecticut. Yep, and it happened last year. XD