Loss of a pet

thursdays_dove • 25 March 2012 at 9:45 PM

About two weeks ago my cat Marron was diagnosed with lymphoma, which is a type of cancer. This has been very hard on both myself and my fiance... I can't stop crying about it. She's only ten years old, which isn't very old for a house cat. A lot of my friends and coworkers and other people don't understand how I feel - they say that it's just a pet or at least it isn't a person. I lost my grandpa a year ago to cancer and this feels like a smack in the face, as I am still trying to recover from the loss of him.

I felt maybe sharing my grief with the Egg Cave community would help, or at least I'd feel better by talking about it with other people who might understand.

I was trying to search for a place to have her cremated (because her condition has been rapidly declining since her diagnosis) but I gave up because it was too painful. ☹️

cotton • 25 March 2012 at 9:49 PM

Aww, I'm so sorry! ☹️ I've never had a pet die before (not including fish), so I don't know how it feels, but it must be really sad. I hope you feel better soon. ☹️

pebblestar-nightclan • 25 March 2012 at 9:51 PM

@thursdays_dove

I know so much about this. I've felt so much pain from losing my beautiful cats.

Simba, Danny, Sabrina, Blackjack, Kiba Grey, Shadow, Sparrow, three kittens, Baby, Sugar, Big Boy, Peanut, Ivy, and Eve. Simba being the one I miss the most... </3

whispers • 25 March 2012 at 9:52 PM

@thursdays_dove
When I was little, my dog was put down because of his Diabetes. I was very sad. And like you, my Grandpa had died recently. I was very sad. I understand you. If I think of him, I cry, which while I'm typing, I almost am now ;~;
I know how you feel *hugs*

rileytibbles_side • 25 March 2012 at 9:56 PM

@thursdays_dove
I'm sorry☹️
I've never lost a pet, but I lost my uncle(who was relatively young) to a nasty bit of liver cancer last year☹️
I feel your pain☹️

kaley • 25 March 2012 at 10:38 PM

@thursdays_dove
Awww. :'( That's so sad.

I know how you feel. ☹️
She will always be in your heart though❤️

musicgurl333 • 26 March 2012 at 12:06 AM

@thursdays_dove I know exactly how you feel. ☹️ Losing a pet is really sad...they really become a part of the family. As far as cremation, try calling your vet. They can usually have your pet cremated for you, or at least be able to suggest a place to you.

Deleted • 26 March 2012 at 12:16 AM

@thursdays_dove

Those people who don't get it don't get love! Cats are better than people! They listen, they love you, and they'll never turn they're back on you. As I'm typing this my youngest of six cats, Halo, is climbing all over me. each cat has its own individual story. Remember, no matter how hard the lose is, if you really loved her, she'll always be in your heart. I hope you can cope with the change and I really is hard. I have a cat that I have had since I was born (almost 13 years ago) and he is my best friend. When he has to leave it will break my heart. You are speaking to a cat lover. My mom has had similar experiences and barely got through them. We still cry over our cat Ozzy who got out on the 4th of July almost four years ago. I have to deal with people saying, "It's just a cat, you'll get over it," and it's just a slap in the face to them when later down the road, they realize that they were wrong. Cherish the little time you have left with her. She will always be in your heart and you must never forget her. Nothing is worse than loosing a family member and cats are better than family. Cats are life!

april__ • 26 March 2012 at 1:25 AM

I'm so sorry. But as it is, I can completely relate to you.

Tomorrow, I'll be having a dog of 16 years put down. It's painful.

I completely understand your frustration! I am so sick of people acting like it's 'just' a pet.

It's NOT just a pet. Pets are precious. They don't judge you. Ever. They love you, unconditionally. They're there when you're sad, angry and happy. They don't take your for granted.

The way my dogs tails wag when I get home. They're always so happy. It makes me so delighted, and full of smiles.

It's painful to loose a pet. ❤️ and I send you much condolences and hugs.

scarlettsong • 26 March 2012 at 6:59 PM

I'm so sorry!

thursdays_dove • 26 March 2012 at 7:04 PM

@cotton
@pebblestar-nightclan
@whispers
@rileytibbles_side
@kaley
@musicgurl333
@alleykat666
@april__
@scarlettsong

Thank you, all of you. It does make me feel better to know that other people out there also don't think of pets as "just" pets. They aren't "just" pets - they are every bit as part of the family as anyone else!

I think the worst part of this for me is not being able to help her. She has this thing inside of her that's killing her and I can't make it stop. I hate having to stand by and watch someone you love go through this. It makes me feel so helpless... ☹️

I'm grateful for the time I've had with her, but I wish she had been able to live longer.

morgana • 26 March 2012 at 7:09 PM

Im so sorry about your cat. I have a cat named Princess and she is my world. She is alive and well but the mere though of losing her brings me to tears. I can only imagine the pain you are going through. My heart goes out to you!

cotton • 26 March 2012 at 8:59 PM

Wait, has she already passed away or is she still alive? Sorry, just confused.

amunoko • 26 March 2012 at 9:08 PM

@thursdays_dove
I know how you feel. Pets are like part of the family. They are your children and are in a since become people to their owners. It was hard losing Balto and Pongo my two dogs that have lived with me for most of my life. Pongo died suddenly while Balto had cancer and artheritus in his back legs. I know first hand the pain cancer can cause. I hope when the lose happens it will get better over time.

dreamer • 26 March 2012 at 9:17 PM

@Thursdays_dove Aww. I'm so sorry! It must be hard, dealing with all of this right now.

My uncle died a couple months ago from brain cancer, some time in January. I didn't know him well, but that side of my family is really suffering form the loss.
I'd never known anyone who died, so this was my first experience. It's very depressing. </3
My dad got a cat that he's had for 20 years. She died the other day. He had her since she was just a kitten, before my sister and I were even born. He's been absolutely depressed since the loss, and he buried her in the backyard because we couldn't afford to cremate her.
He always says how good she was, and how amazing. I was quite angry and jealous of that little old cat, because my dad treated her like his own daughter, even better than us.
But I'll admit, I do miss her now, and it's so different without hearing her mowing or seeing her curled up on my parents' bed.
I send you my blessings. I can't make this pain any easier, but I can relate to it. ☹️ I'm sorry.

thursdays_dove • 27 March 2012 at 5:02 PM

@cotton - No she hasn't yet. I just took her in for a follow-up visit to the vet today and it's not looking good.. She's lost about four pounds in the last couple of weeks and she has no energy anymore. I'll probably have her euthanized in the next week or so... ☹️