How well do you take rejection?

metaphor • 10 April 2012 at 9:21 PM

And this can be rejection in any form--from a guy/girl, from a university/program, a newspaper/journal, etc.

For me--and I'm talking about rejections from literary journals and such--rejection has become more of a brief annoyance than something that causes me any despair. Oh, they rejected me. er, that sucks...next!
I took my first rejection better than I thought I would. And now I have at least 50 of them floating around on my submittable account. It's part of the growing process, I suppose, and I'm starting to get thicker skin.


How about you?

dreamer • 10 April 2012 at 9:24 PM

Rejection from a guy; not sure... I'm serious about this stuff, so I'd probably de devastated. If I was in a good mood I'd shrug it off and try again next time. ^^

Literary rejection; I was rejected a few times by tnt when submitting stories to the Neopian Times. But they barely even read any of the stories, and they always sent me automated messages to basically say, "You suck." It does get me angry if I've worked so hard on a story, but I don't let it get to me. It's not worth it.

solaris • 10 April 2012 at 9:27 PM

@metaphor

I'm pretty good at taking rejection from the things that you mentioned. (Except the guy one, I've never asked anyone out.)

What gets to me is job rejection. I've applied to a bazillion different jobs and been rejected for every single last one of them!! It really makes me feel worthless that I can't even make money for myself.

metaphor • 10 April 2012 at 9:35 PM

@dreamer

Lol, form rejections. Don't I know how those little nuisances feel.😋 I've waited months for a few. I know most places get too many submissions to say why they're rejecting you, but it still can be pretty disheartening. To be fair, though, I've gotten some nice personal rejections--some telling me that they like my work but it's just not what they're looking for, others telling me what I could improve on to have a better chance. My goal to get accepted by one of the most challenging journals listed on Duotrope by the end of 2012 (yeah, hear that end of the world?! Move over!).

@solaris


Ew, that sucks. It's the kind of thing that makes you wonder, "What did I do wrong?", huh? =/

dreamer • 10 April 2012 at 9:38 PM

@Metaphor When I was writing stories on Neopets, I was still 11, and pretty n00bish with my Interney grammar. 😋 I have an entire new story planned, if I ever get around to writing it, maybe I'll seei f any websites would take it. ^^

metaphor • 10 April 2012 at 9:39 PM

@dreamer


You should definitely try.^^
It could take 1 try or 50 tries...it all depends on how lucky you get finding someone who "click" with it.😊

stellalunagirl • 12 April 2012 at 4:00 AM

@metaphor

Not very well. I'll be honest. I might seem fine but inside I'll be having a mini rage party. Of course, some things don't get me as down as others. I do feel bad a lot when I get rejected or turned down from the things I care about though.

But that's normal.

april__ • 12 April 2012 at 4:00 AM

I don't.

I have extremely low self esteem, am extremely insecure.

In fact, I'm so afraid of rejection, I lock myself in my room day after day. I only speak with my family. And online.

That's it.

I don't handle rejection, not at all.

duchess • 12 April 2012 at 4:08 AM

@solaris, ahaha I've been rejected for heaps of jobs too xP

@metaphor I take it pretty well. I've been rejected for so many jobs it's ridiculous. I was even rejected by McDonalds, at the time they said they were hiring. That was pretty depressing. But I got over it ^^

elluwah • 12 April 2012 at 4:17 AM

Have to say, I'm pretty much identical to @april__ here.

I don't take rejection well at all. I always EXPECT to be rejected, because in society if you're not the perfect human then you're not worthy. I don't agree with it, but it's just what happens.

I've never been rejected by a guy, because my anxiety is enough to put me off even trying to talk to somebody I like. D':

Had a college interview once, one of the worst experiences of my life, and was put "on hold". I wasn't accepted, and I wasn't rejected. That almost tore me apart. D: (was accepted in the end... but that wait was horrible!) Because of that, I can't even imagine what a job interview must be like. That's judgements all over, and I'm terrified. 😱

To sum up?
No. No rejections! Can't handle 'em. D:

april__ • 12 April 2012 at 4:18 AM

@elluwah

I agree. I always expected to be rejected and it makes me a bundle of nerves about anything.

evolutary • 12 April 2012 at 4:20 AM

I haven't been rejected by anything major yet, but when people read/mark my work, I'm expecting them to say something bad about it. Ehehe. x]

plushie • 12 April 2012 at 4:44 AM

Being rejected feels like I got punched in the heart. And the whole world shatters. So I lock myself up.

@Duchess Tough. We had a grade 4/5 school play and I sucked so bad that they had to get a grade 3 to take my spot. I was the only one replaced..

duchess • 12 April 2012 at 4:48 AM

@plushie, Ouch. That would be really horrible.

plushie • 12 April 2012 at 4:50 AM

@Duchess well I'm better now xD They actually put me as a character in every play! (:

karamel • 12 April 2012 at 5:59 AM

I just think, "Their loss".