Any advice to give a friend??

seaangel • 19 May 2012 at 8:44 AM

Well, yesterday one of my friends came to school crying. She was a complete wreck and I didn't know what to do. I told her to go to the guidance consular and she said that she was afraid if she did the guidance consular would call social services.

I was in complete shock after that. Then she told me why. She was in her father's car when he got really mad and threw her and her siblings out of the car and drove off. Luckily my friend had her phone and called her mother and they were taken home, but still!

So, what should I tell her and what should I do. I promised her that I wouldn't tell the guidance consular or any other teacher. I feel like I should go tell someone though and I'm really afraid for her. She was in my class last year and told me that her dad has a criminal record and sometimes hurts her. I'm pretty sure he drinks and that why he hurts her, but I don't want her to lose her dad because even though she goes through all of that. She loves him very dearly.

What should I do??

gggaaahhh1 • 19 May 2012 at 8:48 AM

Wow. My dad gets angry with us, but... Nothing like that. I truly have no idea what you should do. I know, I'm extremely helpful.

seaangel • 19 May 2012 at 8:53 AM

@gggaaahhh1

I know. I told her to call me, but she said that after he found out that she was home and used her phone to come back, he broke it. She's really sad about that too because it was the new iphone and she just got it.

gggaaahhh1 • 19 May 2012 at 8:55 AM

@seaangel

I think that in some way, they should get this guy off of drugs or drinking, or whatever he's on.

cqpkytty • 19 May 2012 at 9:31 AM

@seaangel
I know you promised, but the best way to fix this problem, to me, sounds like to get help from an adult. From what you said, this is definitely abuse. Even if she doesn't want social services to be called, that would actually be a good thing.

meixiaotian • 19 May 2012 at 9:34 AM

I agree with @cqpkytty. Even if you promised, it's the best idea to tell someone, because not telling someone who could help is basically saying "go right ahead!"

cqpkytty • 19 May 2012 at 9:36 AM

@seaangel
Like @meixiaotian said, if you don't say anything to people who can help, you're basically saying that you are perfectly OK with her father abusing her.
Also, you can get help without breaking your promise. Tell your parents, and tell them to tell your teacher or someone else who can help.

seaangel • 19 May 2012 at 9:40 AM

@cqpkytty
@meixiaotian

That's what I think, but if I do tell an adult they will likely call social services.

cqpkytty • 19 May 2012 at 10:12 AM

@seaangel
In this case (as in most), it would be a GOOD thing if social services is called.

Deleted • 19 May 2012 at 10:15 AM

@seaangle

You have to tell a guidance councler.

suikadaisuki84 • 19 May 2012 at 10:21 AM

@seaangel

I totally agree with what's being said about calling another adult for help. Yes, she fears that the Social Services would be called but it is for the best.

We're not only talking about the present, but the future as well. What if it leaves her with a terrible emotional scar? Would her life be ruined just like that? :/

hurts to hear these kind of reality happening day in and day out... even more frequently in the current society. ☹️

leafpelt • 19 May 2012 at 11:45 AM

@seaangel
You have to tell authority. If her dad gets paranoid, he might take them away altogether, and who would know what happened to her and where did she go? Why isn't she with her mom?

seaangel • 19 May 2012 at 12:18 PM

Well she is with her mom. The whole family lives together and in that event they were going to the fro yo place that's in town