Help?

Deleted • 19 May 2012 at 9:46 AM

I have a friend who gets bullied really often. People don't bully her with very big things, but they call her bad names and stuff like that.

She is also a liar. I think, at least. There is this boy she really likes and these two mean girls who have been annoying her. She wants me to think that the girls are really really really mean to her, even though they are. She brought me to her house and showed me an email sent from herself, saying;


Mean Girl 1: stay away from boy he's mine we were holding hands after school and kissing just ask mean girl 2

Mean Girl 2: yea its true



Then she also told me that these people stole her diary from her. She said that there was a note on her desk saying; 'I'll give you your diary back if you stop annoying me.' But then she threw it away.

My third problem. The boy who my friend likes has a crush on me. I don't like him back at all. He is a really good friend, and I would like to be his friend, but my friend who is bullied wants me to stay away from him.


What should I do?

suikadaisuki84 • 19 May 2012 at 10:17 AM

I think you should take a step back and be neutral towards your friend. Yes, it is bad for the bullies to bully your friend but your friend lying is another matter. She's just making it worse and make it seem like the whole world revolves around her. So... Just be neutral, don't side with the bullies or with her. Try to stop the bullies and try to advice your friend.

But I am sure there's a reason as to why she's being bullied... Know the root problem, then decide for yourself. 😊

And for the second part... I'm not asking you to friend-zone this guy but you have to have your stand and tell him that you don't/can't feel the same way as him. Maybe it's just a crush, it'll go away.

At the end of the day, take a step back from all this turmoil and put yourself in the sidelines. See what happens without your interference if you can and make a decision whether to side someone or just avoid everything.

Is the 'friend' the same person throughout? (sorry, got confused).

Deleted • 19 May 2012 at 10:22 AM

@suikadaisuki84 The friend is the same person throughout.


I guess that is a good idea, but I am afraid that next year in middle school things will get worse and she'll attempt suicide! I don't want that to happen...


The whole strange thing about this is that we are still in 5th grade!

suikadaisuki84 • 19 May 2012 at 10:25 AM

@blackdeathkitty

Do you know if there's any problems within her family? Is she getting enough support or is she a single child? Sometimes we can draw some ideas from her background. If this doesn't solve within the year ends, a teacher or a counselor would best suit this problem.

Suicide... Is the problem reaaaally bad until she considers it a way to 'solve' the problem?

Deleted • 19 May 2012 at 10:27 AM

@suikadaisuki84 Her mom and dad are divorced but she has an older sister.

I don't think it that bad. We are in different classes, so I don't see her much. She does talk about suicide often...

suikadaisuki84 • 19 May 2012 at 10:45 AM

@blackdeathkitty

I think she really needs help. Discuss with her and try to dig out the reason why she thinks about suicide. Most likely this problem needs an external help so be prepared to ask help from others. There's only so much I (we) can do here. But never stop believing that she will change for the better.

Sometimes belief is the strongest tool. 😊 But all the more, you should calm yourself down too. Don't stress up too much. Baby steps!