I'm scared.

hayz • 4 June 2012 at 6:45 PM

My grandma's been getting angrier over the past days. My mom doesn't have to work anymore and now cooks and buys the groceries instead of her. My mom also picks me up from school. My grandma has been getting grouchier and I scared.

I feel like I should call medical help to maybe help her, and you know, live a better life. She seems angry in this household, but I don't want to lose her. I'm also afraid that my mom will start yelling at me to not to call.

What should I do?

Note:

I'm 12.

She's.... 76 or 77. GAH! I'M SO USELESS.

icymuffin • 4 June 2012 at 6:49 PM

@hayz

Do you know what might be causing her to be grouchy/angry? It might not be medical problems {then again, it might be but based on what you said, one can't be too sure.}
Perhaps you could deal with that problem :]

22fireboy • 4 June 2012 at 6:49 PM

@hayz you cant do anything about it trust me just tell your mom your feelings

morgana • 4 June 2012 at 6:50 PM

@hazy Im not sure calling for medical help would be the best thing at the moment, before you do that you want to be 110% sure she needs it.
She may be angry because your mom has,in her mind taken over her job. The grouchiness could be her feeling towards that fact that she is no longer doing anything to assert her self in your house hold.

cynt5100 • 4 June 2012 at 6:52 PM

@hayz
Your Grandma might need help when your mom doesn't relize it. If you really want to convince her, reserch your Grandma's problems, and see what comes up. You could also ask a doctor what they think is going on. If all else fails, try staying out of the house, and be kind and respectful towards both of them. Always remember that they still love you.

hayz • 4 June 2012 at 7:01 PM

@icymuffin

No, but she's been getting a bit angrier, and raising her voice at every conflict as if it's everyone else's fault.

@22fireboy

She knows... Kinda. We were at my aunt's house when we were talking about it. I think my Mom saw that one tear.

@morgana

The thing is, I don't know what to do. Should I consult my grandma about it, or leave her alone and stand back at a lower voice? She may catch onto something though. ):

@cynt100

Ok, thanks. (:

spirithawk • 4 June 2012 at 7:04 PM

Everyone has a different personality and different advice works for them.

Tell someone you trust and understand, and someone who listens to you.
Tell your grandma, maybe?
Start doing nice things for your grandma.

I'm sorry, hope you figure this out.

icymuffin • 4 June 2012 at 7:06 PM

@hayz

Maybe something is on her mind & that's what is making her grouchy. And she doesn't really want to talk about it so it doesn't seem like there is a problem? Perhaps you could try asking?

I'm personally not in that situation to know for sure, but giving it a try doesn't hurt does it...? ><"

spirithawk • 4 June 2012 at 7:07 PM

Oh, and good luck.

morgana • 4 June 2012 at 7:10 PM

@hayz Maybe try talking to her about it if you feel comfortable enough. Ask how shes been lately. If she hints that she hasn't been great ask her whats bothering her.

spirithawk • 4 June 2012 at 7:15 PM

Sometimes elders are just grouchy because they're older. She could be mad that now she can't do the stuff she used to do when she was younger. Maybe that's the case.

hayz • 4 June 2012 at 7:24 PM

@morgana
@spirithawk

Ok. Thanks for helping. It made me feel much better (:

spirithawk • 4 June 2012 at 7:25 PM

Any time, hope I helped out a little.

morgana • 4 June 2012 at 7:43 PM

You're welcome. 😊 Good luck!

nkiay • 4 June 2012 at 7:51 PM

@hayz

No don't call medical help. She is angry, people get angry sometimes. She is just like anyone else just older, treat her like a person. How would you feel if when you got upset your mom called the police or some other agency.

If anything this is something that your mom and the rest of the family would deal with. Weather or not she need depression pills or anything. You are 12 this isn't something you should be worrying about let alone making a decision about.

If it upsets you and you feel like you need to do something talk to your mom. Tell her how it makes you feel and what you have experienced. The only time you should call someone is if you are home alone and she starts attacking you, or she falls or stops breathing or something. She isn't that old.

hayz • 4 June 2012 at 8:04 PM

@nkiay


Ok, thanks. (: I appreciate you even considering answering to this thread.

faybaybay • 4 June 2012 at 8:05 PM

@hayz

Why would you call medical help for someone who seems slightly grouchy? Wait, she's mad that she doesn't buy your groceries anymore? ... Don't get medical help, you make it sound like you want to put her in a nursing home, that is NOT a better life. Why would she be happier there alone than with her daughter and granddaughter? Why not just talk to her more, play a game with her, my grandma likes to solve puzzles.

nkiay • 4 June 2012 at 8:10 PM

@hayz

Sure thing hun. 😊