Please... I need help.

isablah • 15 June 2012 at 11:16 PM

So, I sorta am having 'boy problems' as some would call it, I hate to admit.
I sorta have a crush... On a dude... Who I might never physically see ever again in my life...
So I need some help -- I told him, and he won't tell me anything in return. Truthfully, I'd rather he say he doesn't than say he does or nothing at all... But, I don't know, I just really want to know, and I am afraid to ask again... I don't want to make him too uncomfortable (or me) soooooo, just if you have any suggestions, PLEASE share them. I am like, freaking out.

chibidarkness • 15 June 2012 at 11:21 PM

@isablah

Being in love is natural. Give him time, don't rush things. 😊

Deleted • 15 June 2012 at 11:25 PM

@Isablah

Just give him time. How long ago did you mention it? He could just be thinking it over, or he might even be busy. You never know. 😊

I wouldn't worry about it too much.

isablah • 15 June 2012 at 11:27 PM

@chibidarkness But why do I have to be so darn CURIOUS??? He sorta told me he did last year, but I sorta said I didn't... Because i didn't know if I did or not... And now I am speculating, because he knows me and I tend to be a pessimist by the end of the day with him on the phone and every time I hang up I feel horrible about it... But thanks for the advice. Last year I told him to revisit the subject when we were sixteen. Then I went back on that and dropped the subject shortly after. Why do I have to be so... Me! *facepalms and giggles nervously*

chibidarkness • 15 June 2012 at 11:31 PM

@isablah

It's better to be YOU than another girl. He is just as disturbed as you. If you think he ignores you, that's probably because he also feels flustered and embarrassed about the subject, but that means he IS thinking about it. Never give up hope. Someday it will come the time when you are both ready to be honest with each other. There is NOTHING wrong with being anxious and curious. 😊

snowrosehell • 16 June 2012 at 2:19 AM

@isablah -
You know, you just have to be patient. You can observe him to at least a some sort of a clue if he likes someone else or not. It's better that you don't know the answer than to get hurt of the reply you might not expect. But if you are prepared to know, you should take it positively.

Although, I am also curious myself if the person likes me or not, I shrugged it off. I realized that the more I know, the more pain I will feel (emotionally). I am sure that, that person will reveal his feelings at the right time. Maybe not now. Even if you both will be far from each other, you both will wait. The only thing I did is stalk if he had someone else he liked or not and to make sure that MY feelings will NOT be evident to others. 😊

zafeyry • 16 June 2012 at 7:34 AM

@isablah
If you'll never see him in person again in your life, you can't really have a relationship with him. Unless you want to put up with accusations of lying about having a boyfriend...

seaangel • 16 June 2012 at 7:44 AM

@isablah

I was in the same situation! I just stepped on my curiosity and let him answer on his own time. Yes, I know it's hard!

gvantsa • 16 June 2012 at 11:00 AM

If he hasn't given you an answer he might be thinking about his own feelings, so he feels unsure. Or he's unsure how to respond. If he keeps it up for a long time... say a week or two confront him again and demand an honest answer (nicely of course 😋)

ilovethesurvivorsbooks • 16 June 2012 at 7:42 PM

Something from the night before might have still been bothering him.
His mommy's word, most likley