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fuzzykins412 • 28 November 2012 at 9:20 PM
Ugh. So I have this one 'friend' who is asking for a punch in the face. She steals my stuff. At first, it was small things, like bits of candy or food. She's taking more things from me, things that I want to KEEP. She's stolen a glass figure, and claimed she got it from a 'friend of hers' . She took a pencil box I got from my grandma, and said that her mom 'gave it to her. ' I've caught her taking candy before, too. She's stolen a few things I've gotten from friends for Christmas, and then given THAT gift to her brother, claiming the 'innocent sweet sister' title. I'm positively sure she hates me. I dread her every visit to my house, and I can't keep her out of my sight. If I need to go to the bathroom, I'm too scared that she'll steal something else. She makes a mess in my room, and leaves me alone to clean it. At my birthday party, she was the boss there. Controlling every single game we played, how long we played, everything. When my friends are over, she pretty much takes over. She'll be like " Omg, let's go do flips onto the couch! " If I tell her not to, because it's gonna wreck up the couch, she'll roll her eyes and still do it. My friends- and I, are too scared to tell her to stop. I admit it. I am a coward, one who cannot step up to her enemy. She tries to embarrass me, and gossips about me every chance she gets. She'll be chatting with one of my friends, and she'll be like, " OMG, Did you know Jenny talks with *boy name* on chat? " and they'll start talking about it. My friends told me about it, and I'm just like, What, is there a problem with me talking with a boy now? Even at lunch, (we don't have the same lunch period ) , she'll be talking about me. " Blah blah blah JENNY, blah blah blah. " She steals my friends from me. She's like a dictator, she is. I'll be talking with one of my close friends, and she just comes over, COMPLETELY IGNORES ME, and loops her arm through my friends arm, and drags her away, while I watch, completely helpless.I'm really starting to think bad, dark thoughts about her. Help? DX
Deleted • 28 November 2012 at 9:23 PM
@fuzzykins412 Ignore her, as said before.
asi • 28 November 2012 at 9:25 PM
@fuzzykins412Tell her you're freaking sick of her and you aren't her friend any more. Then walk away and continue walking and don't speak to her ever, ever again.It may be hard, but it works. I've done it X3
pandapuffin • 28 November 2012 at 9:53 PM
@fuzzykins412 I would say just to ignore her. She is, obviously, not a real friend to you anymore, and doesn't deserve to think she is, if she does, I think. I know exactly what you mean though, except it's just a tad different for me.
fuzzykins412 • 28 November 2012 at 10:00 PM
@colette :/ I can try.@asi Oh gosh, that sounds really hard. The thing is, believe, me, I always feel super guilty when I do something mean to her, even though she's done things worse. Plus, she is basically the root to all my friends. If I do that, she'll tell all my friends, and they'll ask me why I said that, and I'll be in an awkward situation where they all think I'm a super mean kid, where as it's my 'friend' who is. I can't do cold shoulders. It's impossible for me, as she'll be all puppy dog faced, and asking me in this sad voice why I'm not talking, and I'll give in. We usually have these moments where I really want to punch her in the face, but once in a while, not often though, we have moments where we're best friends again, like we were 5 years ago.@pandapuffin I'll try that. I think she knows that I hate her, and she knows that I know that she hates me.
asi • 28 November 2012 at 10:17 PM
@fuzzykins412Hahh, well, I guess you could say that I don't have much of a conscience ^^"The thing is, there isn't really much else you can do with these kinds of people. Like, if you try to ignore them, they'll just keep bugging you and bugging you...I tried cold-shouldering that friend so many times, and she'd follow me around CONSTANTLY until I forgave her >w<If you try tell them what you don't like and stuff, they'll make light of it or say that they will, but they won't.Talk with your friends about it. Seriously ^^"
fuzzykins412 • 28 November 2012 at 10:19 PM
@asi Eh, that's what I'm doing right now. Thanks. C:
candyluver6789 • 28 November 2012 at 10:38 PM
@fuzzykins412I understand that she is being bossy and mean, although if she STEALS your stuff, then you really need to step up and tell your parents about it. Your parents are the most understandable and nicest people you know, and the worst and/or best part is that they are the ones in control.If you're having problems with your parents, then perhaps you should go over to your friend's house and tell her parents. And if they do not listen, then just suck in all your gut and tell right her right there, alone if you can when she is being rude, that you are utterly annoyed by her actions and do not wish to be in the small relationship you two are still in.If you have tried all of the above then just ignore her as much as you can. If she still follows you around then perhaps you should glare darkly at her and, if she is being somewhat violet (Making you turn around, grabbing your arms harshly, etc.) then slap her, right there, in the cheek.If your friends seriously only like you because you two are friends, then get some new ones because they probably don't care about you completely.I'm sorry if all of this seems very dark and cruel, even mean, but you cannot let someone take over your life. Only you and your parents are in control of what you do. Do not ever, EVER, let someone make you do something you do not wish to do.
Deleted • 29 November 2012 at 8:16 AM
@fuzzykins412 Jenny, like I said before, if she's the root to your friends, they aren't true ones. You guys aren't building blocks, with her at the bottom and you at the top, pull her out and the whole thing tumbles- but you are making it exactly like that. I'm pretty sure you have real friends that don't revolve around her, and the others are not really true.