I'm seriously getting sick of jerks on Youtube... :(

dreamer • 9 December 2012 at 8:13 PM

Long story short. I watched a parody for a song. Someone posted that they understood the joke, but that it wasn't funny. I agreed, stated my reasoning, and talked a bit about how I'm more serious about a music career because of said singer that was being parodized (is that a word?). I kept getting a bunch of emails from my Gmail acount saying that people replied to my comment. Doing something RIGHT for once, I deleted them. And a few minutes ago, I went through my Trash and looked through the emails again...

First I found people who were like, "It's a freaking joke!" except with some harsher words. Some people accused me of lying (I discussed my poetry writing, my hopes in music, my grades, etc.). Those didn't bother me, because it's no one's business to say whether I'm lying or not.

But there's one post that's making me upset. THey basically said "Don't get your hopes up, kid," and went on to tell me I was never going to make it and that I'm going to end up jobless in a ditch. They also said my source of inspiration is "not right," as if they can choose what's right or not. This is making me want to burst out in tears, but I'm so blurred by rage that I haven't cried at all for around 10 days...

Now I feel like crap, and I'm just freaking stupid, and I'd like a little help here. ☹️ I can't go into more detail, though. I already KNOW I'm going to fail at life, why do these jerks have to remind me??

And my comment got flagged as "SPAM." Give me a break. Icing on the cake, huh? There was LEGITAMITE spam on there like 'post this to three videos and you will..." but was that flagged as spam? Nope. The Media is invalid now.

seaangel • 9 December 2012 at 8:25 PM

@dreamer

Ignore those *beep* idiots. If you have hopes and dreams then you should not let a person behind the screen tell you what's right and what's wrong. They aren't true and you shouldn't let a stupid little e-mail get to you.

Look Dreamer, if you think that your going to fail at life, then your going to fail at life no doubt about it. /Unless/ you start thinking positive. Don't let a mask get you down.

Take it from me, I've been there and done that. To be honest, I'm still lucky to be typing this.

misa-misa • 9 December 2012 at 8:27 PM

The media has become invalid since probably when Facebook became popular and memes.

Since then, human stupidity has been made bigger since people would post stupid crap to get likes.

Don't take any notice to these comments, everyone can share their own opinion, though many do not care about others than their own.

Don't worry, you're the bigger man/woman for stating why you don't like it

@dreamer

dreamer • 9 December 2012 at 8:30 PM

@Seaangel I'm having mixed emotions, so my body is twitching like heck. But things like this still really get me down... Sometimes I wear this facade on the Internet. Only very few people in RL have supported my goals. And for people to tell me online that I won't make anything of myself... I know they're virtually invisible, and it shouldn't bother me, but it hurts in ways I can't describe. It doesn't make me want to hide in a closet with a bag over my head, but it doesn't make me want to reply to them with bitter comments, either. It gives me some unknown emotion. But it's an unpleasant feeling.

I can have boosts of confidence, but they fade once I reflect on myself again. I don't know. It would probably me smart to stay away from Youtube, right? It is way too overwhelming for me already.

seaangel • 9 December 2012 at 8:44 PM

@dreamer

I do know how you feel. Though, that doesn't mean you can let the people in RL tell you what you can and can't do, especially when it involves what /you/ want to do. Yes, this is easier said then done, I mean, I'm still having trouble with this. You still need to get through it, and don't let your emotional side grab hold of you and let those negative thoughts get in your head. Why? Because, they AREN'T true. You can do ANYTHING, you set your mind too.

What, I'm saying is, it'll be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end.

spirithawk • 9 December 2012 at 8:49 PM

@dreamer Some people on Youtube are stinking jerks. Don't listen to them. Mean people on the internet just do that because they have no lifes and they're too stupid to realise that doing that doesn't make them feel any better. At least you have a heart and know what's right or wrong.

And I've read your poetry before. You're amazing, and everyone on EggCave knows it. Including you. (; I bet you that you're going to have some kind of career that you love sometime in your life. Even if it doesn't come as early as you think it will. 8)

Don't let people like that get to you. They have absolutely NO idea what's going to happen in your life. Who knows, someday you could be a famous poetry writer or something. Not even you know that yet. You can still dream about it. Dream. You're a dreamer. (;

meta_knight_lover • 10 December 2012 at 10:59 PM

@dreamer

Yeah, this is why I rarely comment on YouTube. XD How old are you anyway? Because my advice and encouragement will differ depending on your age.

pebblestar-nightclan • 10 December 2012 at 11:04 PM

@dreamer
You have a right to state whatever you'd like on YouTube. Just don't listen to them. YouTube allows the idiocy and rudeness, and so we have to learn to get by.

However, discussing something else; don't give up in life. Why, your username is "dreamer". 😉

crescentfeather • 10 December 2012 at 11:25 PM

The person who told you you would never get anywhere in life? I'd bet all my money that person's just bitter because he/she's dropped out of high school and is now working at a sewage treatment facility. 😋

Haters gonna hate. The people who become successful in life are the ones who rise above adversity and prove them wrong.

silver_winged • 10 December 2012 at 11:57 PM

@dreamer

The word is parodied. c: Now, onto my actual message . . .

I'm sorry you got your feelings hurt on the Youtube comments. You have all my sympathy. It is completely okay that you are feeling upset by this. Your emotions are valid. Cry if you need to.

The internet is a scary place. When people are anonymous, they feel free to say whatever they want because there's no punishment for it. Lots of ugliness surfaces anywhere with a comments section or message board.

You're 100% entitled to your opinion, and you're free to share it wherever you please. However, you have to remember that everybody else in the world is entitled to their opinion, too. When you post something on the internet, some people are going to disagree, and a few of them will feel the need to reply. They feel threatened by your dissenting opinion, so they want to invalidate it by whatever means they can.

That one insult stung because it aligned with one of your personal insecurities. It's really painful to have a fear and then see someone affirm it. If you want to feel better about this, you have to do something very, very difficult: don't let anyone else tell you what is valid and what is good.

Your aspirations are valid and good. Believe in yourself. If that particular artist inspired you to make music, then it is a valid and good source of inspiration. If you want to be a singer, that is valid and that is good. You and I have the same problem; sometimes, we need to remind ourselves that what we think matters to us.

dreamer • 11 December 2012 at 3:27 PM

@Silver_winged. Wow. Thank you so much... 😊 I guess that's true.
Whenever there's a comments section, some crap is ALWAYS going down...
And I feel like I could never make it in the music biz. Because of emotional, physical, and political reasons. It's so hard... But no one's straight-up told me that I would fail like that. I've been critiqued and insulted, but no one has told me that I would just be a *loser*...
I know what I like, and what I think is right or wrong. My father introduced me to politics when I was 8 years old, so I know crystal-clear that a LOT of people are going to disagree.
Another problem is some things here. My sister struggles in math. When my dad can't cooperate with her, he just sarcastically tells her not to do it. And he tells her she can just get a bad grade and fail. For that reason, she had C's and B's in all classes, but she had an F in math. My sister was told she'd fail math, so she did (but I'm trying to tutor her now, because I can put up with her attitude). So being told I'll fail... It just makes me think of that.
Anyways, I haven't been on Youtube since Sunday. I'm refusing to go back there, because it is 'dangerous'...

@meta_knight_lover 13. ._. I'm really mature for my age, mentally and physically. But things like this still scare me...

whitefall • 11 December 2012 at 4:30 PM

@dreamer
People state their own opinion, and you don't know how they think. ^^

And plus, they are thinking realistically, sort of ^^;
It's okay~
Don't let it bother you xD

I usually get annoyed when haters come over and spam YouTube videos.

awesomeness365 • 11 December 2012 at 5:15 PM

@dreamer =.= I really don't like people like that. They try to put others down, and make themselves feel superior over other people.

Don't listen to them. c:

Youtube lets people post things like that, so yeah. c: That's why I only go there to listen to music. xD Youtube lets most comments like that through, so the poster doesn't get in trouble.

And, don't let a random stranger dampen your self-esteem. c:

silver_winged • 11 December 2012 at 6:13 PM

@dreamer

Hm. The way I see it, in the case of your sister, it wasn't being told she would fail math that made her fail math. It was only when she started believing it that it became a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The music industry is rough, especially because music is so subjective. But you're a tough person. You're thinking this through. If you were weak, you would have accepted that criticism and completely given up on yourself. But you still want to make music, don't you?

My advice is not to worry about whether you succeed. I'm going to draw a parallel with school. In any given class, you can bet there are at least a few people there who aren't in the class to learn. They're there to get the grades. If you focus on really learning whatever material you're working on, however, good grades on tests are bound to come from it because of your knowledge of the really important stuff. I think music is a lot like that; you shouldn't have to worry about appeal, or image, or any of that. Write and perform songs that ring true to you and success should follow. The best thing about that is that even if you don't get to be a professional musician, you still get to BE a musician. That's more than a lot of performers nowadays can say. c:

Really. You can do this. Just keep putting in the work and believing in your personal truths.

skylark • 11 December 2012 at 6:26 PM

"Everybody is a genius.
But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid."
-Albert Einstein


No idea how this would help, but it's an awesome quote.

meta_knight_lover • 12 December 2012 at 8:08 AM

@dreamer

Ah, I see. Well it's good you've got a good head on your shoulders. Though you shouldn't worry so much about stuff like this now. I mean, when I was 13, I wanted to do all kinds of crazy things. And eventually my tastes got toned down enough through experiance that people started to actually like what I was doing. Just remember that people may percieve you as young and wishful. And that's where you're getting the critism from in life.

But you can take this and turn it around. Prove it to them that you can do what you want and be happy. Don't let yourself grow up too fast either. Give yourself time to enjoy your dreams and planning out how you want to pursue them. The wait will be worth it, trust me. ;D

And I think you already know this from the other posters, but I should mention YouTube is probably the last place you should take critism seriously from. LOL

stellalunagirl • 14 December 2012 at 2:59 AM

@dreamer

I think that if you are as mature mentally as you say you are, you would not let that comment bother you as much as you say you have.

You would know that people who just blatantly slam you or criticise you non-constructively are not worth listening to as their opinions do not help you in any way.

You would also need to understand that people sometimes have good intentions, they may just put out opinions that they think are realistic in a blunt way.

Perhaps I have a thicker skin than you, as I would just brush comments like that off. (Not that I comment on Youtube anyway)

Also, I think that you should not avoid Youtube just because of that particular incident. The Internet is full of dangerous and scary things, things that are hurtful or inappropriate and that includes Youtube. But Youtube is also a place full of great things and great people. I don't think you should stay away from a great place like that just because of that incident.

It is almost like you have let those commenters "win" because you allowed yourself to be affected so dramatically by their comments.

asi • 14 December 2012 at 4:45 AM

@dreamer

D'aww ): Think about where they must be in order to write something like that ^^"
What I think is that... That comment would be hurtful to practically any human being who's had a dream ^^" But there are always going to be doubters; unless your dream is really, really boring X3 And there's really nothing you can do but look past those people for ones who support you (: I hope you have some already ^^"
Good luck (: Oh, and in the future, perhaps not post personal things like grades on YouTube? Yeah ^^"

metaphor • 14 December 2012 at 3:22 PM

@dreamer

Lol, YouTube is ridiculous. I don't even bother reading the comments on videos involving something just slightly controversial, because I know I will be greeted only with a massive headache. This is about as eloquent as the typical youtube commenter gets:

Commenter 1: /insert group of people, religion, person here/ is stupid, lazy, worthless, etc.

Commenter 2: I KNOW YOU ARE BUT WHAT AM I LULZ

it's just like...shuddup, darn it.

These people don't know you, and you don't know them. They don't know anything but you or your work and so there is no reason you should feel that they are attacking you personally. As stated above, Youtube is kind of notorious for its asinine comments. Seriously, you're more likely to have a compelling, literate debate about any subject in a remedial composition class.


So...yeah, what @stellalunagirl said.

candyluver6789 • 14 December 2012 at 5:08 PM

@dreamer

I know that just about everything I'm going to post is probably not going to help, but hey. It's worth a try.

About 65% of the Internet is just idiots, "trolls", and wannabes acting like morons to try to become "famous" on here. They throw annoying and very hurtful comments at people who are much more mature and smarter than them in hope of making him funny to other people who are just like them.
Listen, because this is probably the thing that'll be the wise words in my horrible post.

Do not listen to any of those jerks.

Seriously. If you choose to ignore them then you'll end up feeling much better.
I've been hurt on the Internet before; in fact it was on this very website.
(You probably don't want to read below, because it's just a stupid rant unless you really care.)

When I was on a roleplay and I had just joined, the owner had accidentally misspelled my name. So I just go over politely and point it out nicely and, guess what.
Someone said "Your name is already misspelled, dude." with a face they made up that had a hysterical look on it.
I know my name is misspelled, but that is just so rude to me. Especially since this username is the one I use on just about all the websites I'm on.

End of rant that wasn't needed.

Yeah, I failed. Horribly.