a fight at school

neko-chan • 16 March 2013 at 7:30 AM

so there are a gruop of girl in my class that are best friends, and one of them is 2 of my friend BFF's. but my friends have started fighting with that group and telling that girl that they are forcing her to be with them and hate us. a few days ago my friends started fighting with them and the others just made XXX sad (im not gonna say her real name. and the person that is getting forced is YYY) they fight all the time and i can't do anything because i'm the shy girl in this class and that group would start hating me too if said that they should stop telling YYY what to do. ☹️ and yesterday a guy in my class started hitting XXX and calling her REALLY bad words and i'm worried that XXX and her BFF will go to another school. She even said that she will if she gets more sad. 8O

I don't know what to do and i just can't stand here and watch when my friends get hurt ;-;

can someone help me think of a way to stop this?

otter • 17 March 2013 at 2:24 AM

Teens will be Teens.
Best you can do here is to be there for your best friend. Support her no matter what and if things do seem to get out of control, sacrifices are meant to be made if you know what you're doing is the right thing.

In the end, you'll learn from these experiences and that life isn't so nice, that you gotta take painful actions. Become a hero when times are tough.

Hope things get resolved, remember, if your close friends are in trouble, let em know you're there for em.

sarahzafirah • 17 March 2013 at 3:07 AM

@neko-chan

If you really feel that sad about them, so to a person you trust like your teacher or your parents. I agree with @otter - you gotta be strong. 😊

trish • 17 March 2013 at 3:08 AM

@neko-chan Teachers are also the guardians of the school. If this is getting really serious, don't be a bystander. Be the upstander, the one who does something about it, and go tell a caring & responsible teacher or the principal. And if you're really worried that your reputation will take a hit, don't tell anyone you were the one who told the school staff. Do it by yourself alone, when you know nobody will be watching and ask the teacher to remain anonymous about you.

This is a typical problem in school bullying. Everyone should be aware on how to approach this, and if you're brave enough, ask the principal to have an assembly on bullying if your school hasn't already done so.

neko-chan • 18 March 2013 at 10:52 AM

@otter
@sarahzafirah
@trish

thanks guys, but i think it's getting better now (:

this fight between XXX and one of the girls in the other group started in 3rd grade and they are still hating eachother. so the teacher probably know about this. they just don't do anything about it ._.

and that day i tried to cheer her up and she just said that she was fine and happy even if she was really sad ):

sarahzafirah • 18 March 2013 at 7:56 PM

@neko-chan You're welcome. 😊