Advice?

blackfawn • 25 April 2013 at 10:36 PM

I have been feeling a little sad lately, i find that what used to bring me joy/happieness/comfort isnt now. I have been trying to talk to my mom about it but end up in a missunderstandment or argument. I have found that even in school i feel like this (i used to think of school as a way to get away for my issues). Recently I have been having disturing thoughts and day dreams. I have been testing my limits with my mom on stuff that other kids have complained about like (grades, cerfews and sneaking out) and found that either way i wont get introuble. With all this freedom i feel even more ignored. My family isnt mine anymore, i miss my dad, I miss when everything was happy, my friends dont talk to me anymore and i feel terrible.

any advice out there?

rainbowkitty • 25 April 2013 at 10:55 PM

@blackfawn

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Okay. Just take a deep breath and hang in there.
I know this might feel scary, but I'm sure you'll get over it.
You should do something to let out all of your nervousness!
Maybe take a walk?
Talk to your teddy bear? (Really, that helps XD)
Draw a picture?
Write a story?
I don't really know what to say ☹️
I hope you get better and just remember that we care ❤️ 😸 (us Egg Cavers XD)

newlife • 25 April 2013 at 11:03 PM

@blackfawn
I always feel like that. I guess it's with growing up. But you should read manga. xD Just saying. It's like comics, but there are so many different things.. I'm a humorless person, but that actually makes me laugh.
But remember, everyone loves you deep inside.
I love you dear stranger.
[Note: I give hugs to strangers, so if I give you one, you'll know it's me]
*hugs*

blackfawn • 26 April 2013 at 11:31 PM

@rainbowkitty : Thank you for the advice i have been going out more, maybe it will help in time


@newlife : I do read manga and fanfictions =), i try reading at night or when i feel borad/lonely. Thank you for your advice and hugs =). I know that stuff will get better..............................................................sooner or later

gabrieltaft • 27 April 2013 at 12:31 AM

@Blackfawn

Dear, sometimes I go through times like that. It's no good. It could be a good idea to talk to a councilor at your school. It can feel really good to talk to someone about what your feeling and get it out of your head to someone who can understand where you are coming from. It sounds like some of your family issues are causing you to be a little depressed in other aspects of your life.

You can still be stoked on life you just need to face the family issues bringing you down.

Hope this helps a little. You might feel bummed now but give it time and you will get that spark back 😊

blackfawn • 27 April 2013 at 12:38 AM

@gabrieltaft - Thank you
i have been battling my self weither or not to go to my councilor but i dont want to make life at home worse for my mom. Thank you again and i will wait for the spark to eventually come back.

gabrieltaft • 27 April 2013 at 12:40 AM

@blackfawn you can go to the councilor and say you just need to talk to someone and you want it to be private. They won't tell your parents as long as you don't say you want to hurt yourself or others.

blackfawn • 27 April 2013 at 12:45 AM

@gabrieltaft
i will problebly chicken out like most/all of the times i do near the councleing office. I will try to go in for a appointment but im just afraid/nervoius.

trish • 27 April 2013 at 12:46 AM

@blackfawn Develop a hobby, such as reading or playing an instrument or anything really. I also faced a dark time a few weeks ago and I turned to EggCave for help, and it did help out. During those days, my mother ignored me and my dad and didn't cook for us, didn't talk to us. It was horrible. She said she hated us. I was already dealing with enough, I was sensitive and faced depression because I lost a loved one that I really wish more than anything was still here. So with the added trauma, I developed Borderline personality disorder. It was very severe for the first week or two, but my mother cooled down (she also repeated she hated us because this isn't how families work a week ago).

Anyways, I turned to EggCave. It was a safe zone where I tried to calm myself down. And maybe instead of testing it, be blunt and just tell her how you feel. Your friends don't always have to start the conversation right? Just go for it and tell a close friend what your going through. I did.

gabrieltaft • 27 April 2013 at 12:47 AM

@blackfawn yeah that's fine I chicken out too/ am lazy but if it ever gets really bad know you got that option.

blackfawn • 27 April 2013 at 12:57 AM

@trish wow i know how that feels, i know my mom doesnt mean certain things when we argue but it still hurts. Im happy your doing better with your stuff and hope i will be the same. I try but then she argues and i get caught up and end up not saying everything.

@gabrieltaft okay thank you =)