My girl is leaving me, what to do?

bad • 28 April 2013 at 4:44 AM

Okay so I know I shouldn't bring this up but my girlfriend is leaving me apparently for no reason! All because she's mad at her mom and ends up bringing the anger on me. She hit me once today well slapped across the face (it don't hurt me) it just makes me more angry. I know jujitsu and karate so pain really don't bother me that and I've been disciplined lets just keep that subject out. Any way I've never harmed her what so ever and I've learned to never hit a women I did hit a women once an ex girlfriend I'll never do that again, went to jail for a week. Okay back on subject! All I did was grab her arm not hard and pushed her away on the wall (pushes her against the wall what ever). Now the big question is, would you leave if someone brought their anger on you? Especially the one you truly love? I'm actually thinking about it, I can't stop tearing up even asking this question and thinking about her, ugh make it end! I've cried once yes a grown man crying hush! So, what should I do?

- Akio

jirachiwishmaker • 28 April 2013 at 5:01 AM

@bad

Sometimes relationships end because they don't work out, in this case maybe it's best that it ends since it's not going so well in the first place. And you'll move on to a better more stable one, I know at the moment you might not feel that way the choice is yours to make let go, or hold on. Only the heart knows what it wants, and it's okay to cry even if you're a man.

bad • 28 April 2013 at 5:06 AM

@chloelove: I agree with you chloelove. It always seems this relationship is always about her and not "us" I'm not sure if you know what I mean, but she's the spoiled one. I live in my own apartment and she lives in a house and we really don't see each other much since I work 2 jobs both full time to pay bills and such, and she has one job to take care of her bills and stuff. I'm thinking that could be something that is ruining it too. I'm not going to just quit one job! Both of the boss's actually like me and I'm a manager at one job soon to be boss. I hate getting upset and crying but I was with her for 4 1/2 years - it always seemed the same and I never left her then why now? I can't hold on to her forever I just hope that 'right' girl would come into my life and marry her one day plus kids. I just worry since I'm 23 years old I feel like that will never happen, and if she's around where? Life is tough.

jirachiwishmaker • 28 April 2013 at 5:10 AM

@bad

Well you're still young yet in your 20s and your in a high position for a job, home life shouldn't be stressing you on top of what you deal with at work. If she's not appreciating you for what you do for her then it's sure time to move on. I believe in life people should have gratitude for their relationships even short term ones because it's all about what you make in your life. Gosh how do you find time for martial arts on 2 jobs.

bad • 28 April 2013 at 5:12 AM

@chloelove: I'm not in martial arts now I was in martial arts ever since I was 8 years old and did that for 5 years. xD Ahh all of the good times beating all of the opponents up and they would cry and I was the tough one! I never cried when I got beat up I just got up and beat the crap out of them right back! Ha! I learn how to stand up for myself my father has taught me a lot, R.I.P respects for my father. Any way, I agree I'll just leave her and wait for that right one.

april__ • 28 April 2013 at 5:18 AM

@bad

I'm sorry to hear you're going through a tough time.

I know how it feels. When my boyfriend of three years left, I was devastated, but in the end, I let him go. Sure, I tried to stop it in any way I could but really, it was making it worse.

It sounds harsh, but the best thing to do is let her do as she pleases, and if she really does leave, then that's her loss.

I'm sure there's plenty of other girls that would appreciate you.

Actually, I came on EggCave to give myself a distraction from my bad break up. It really helped, so my advice, is to find a new hobby or take a bigger interest in old ones and do things for yourself.

Much luck to you.

bad • 28 April 2013 at 5:20 AM

@april__: Thanks, good luck to you too! I'm sorry to hear about that.

gabrieltaft • 28 April 2013 at 5:35 AM

@bad Sometimes two people are right for each other but they are not at the right stage in life to be able to be in a relationship. You have to have something to give the other person and it sounds like your girlfriend needs to figure out these issues and get to a good place before she can give out that love a relationship deserves.

Sorry your going through this. Can't make it better just time and if you really care about her/ still want to have a connection after this all went down give her space and support.

That's my two sense.