Need help with a guy xD

neko-chan • 29 May 2013 at 1:37 PM

need no more help 8P

whitefire • 29 May 2013 at 1:45 PM

@Neko-Chan
Find out things that people do that he REALLY hates, then do as many of them as you can. As long as they're not offensive or mean or anything, you'll be able to get out of that situation without having to hate yourself.

Deleted • 29 May 2013 at 1:53 PM

@neko-chan

Just buck-up and:

1. Confront him and confirm the fact that he is into you. Don't go off of rumors that your friends told you. Your friends my be trying to play a joke on you, to make you aggravated like this.

2. If he is interested, then just tell him you are not. You don't have to be mean, just simply tell him the truth. You will have to deal with the guilt, and you both will feel bad for a while, but then it will be over quicker than if you guys hated each other for eternity.

I would not try to do things that you normally wouldn't do, trying to make him hate you. Such as whitefire said. Just because, if he likes you for you, that is a compliment. Take it as one, but explain to him that you just don't get along like that. and apologize. and move on.

EDIT: most of all, don't try to beat-around-the-bush. Nobody likes drama, so just get it over with quick, like a band-aid.

Also, I wouldn't recommend trying to make someone hate you. In fact, don't try to make someone like you either, just simply, be you, and be confident in your decisions. Sometimes it's hard, and sometimes it's easy, but it has to be done.

blueclaw • 29 May 2013 at 1:54 PM

@neko-chan

I was in this situation once, I just ignored what everybody said. I knew he still liked me but after a while it got old and people stopped talking about it. But it's like, then it kinda gets a little worse cause if we're sitting next to each other the people start making fun of us, so this doesn't help that much. Good luck, I guess.

puppymaks • 30 May 2013 at 6:54 AM

@neko-chan I don't have much to say, just... al boys are jurks and idiots 😋

karamel • 30 May 2013 at 10:14 AM

@puppymaks Not necessarily. Please don't be close-minded about boys; gender has nothing to do with who they are. D:

@neko-chan I agree with darthvader. Don't procrastinate, don't try to hide it, and be yourself. Confront him (not like the cliche grab-the-collar thing) and ask him if he really does like you. If he says yes, then just say (politely!) that you don't feel the same way, apologise, etc. 😊

If he says no, then brush it off and talk to your friend about it. If she annoyed you, tell her that and explain why it annoyed you and ask her not to do it again.

Tell it to them straight. Sometimes a negative answer is better than no answer at all. 😋
(And good luck. x3)

briseis • 31 May 2013 at 7:12 PM

Be mature. There is no reason why you should change your behavior to deter this person from liking you, and there is no reason to call him names, regardless of whether he knows it or not.

Ignore him or tell him directly that his actions are bothering you. Be an adult, even if you are not one. Saying that you hate him is extreme. Has he ever done anything particularly harmful to you? Has he done you a great wrong that cannot be forgiven? If he has done neither of these things, I do not believe he deserves your "hatred", regardless of how "annoying" or "idiotic" you think he is. The best way to handle this situation is get it out in the open as soon as possible if you feel it is necessary. Any delays or roundabout ways of dealing with this will only cause more harm.

If you have no solid evidence that he likes you, then I would not even bring it up. Do not put words in anyone's mouth because it will only muddle the situation even more. To avoid hurting his feelings too much, I would either completely ignore him or I'd be open about his behavior bothering you (without using name-calling or angry words/tones) and leave it at that. Avoid telling other people how much you dislike this person; why should you poison other people's feelings towards him just because you do not like him yourself? Be respectful of his feelings and thoughts. That's what I'd do.

bot • 31 May 2013 at 9:54 PM

@neko-chan

Annoy him. Start hovering around him and tease him to get his smelly self away from you... You're innocent, right?

Either be a wimp or do as the unhumans do.. Be brave, strong, and strange!!

whispers • 31 May 2013 at 10:21 PM

@neko-chan

I was in the same exact situation back in December. But now this guy became my best friend, and my boyfriend. *shrug*

You could just ask him if the rumors are true. That's what I did.
Or, you could find out things that he doesn't like in girls, and preform those actions, or find things that just annoy him in general.

jess11y • 31 May 2013 at 11:05 PM

I know this isn't nearly as much help as what these people posted. But if you are shy and you don't think you could confront him, What i usually do is i just start to get distant from them. I slowly stop talking to them and they just get the idea a little. I hope this doesn't sound mean. I really don't like being mean to people but i just don't have the guts to ask them if they like me or tell them i don't like them. I did this technique to a guy in one of my classes and now he just treats me like a friend. I'm sorry if this isn't helpful ☹️

blueskytoday • 1 June 2013 at 9:53 PM

Well, you could just start acting awkward around him, For example, he comes over and sits by you table. You spill lunch all over yourself (try to plan it! Don't do it on your favorite shirt or what ever.) Also, you could as others suggested and just confront him.

neko-chan • 4 June 2013 at 1:55 PM

@whitefire
@darthvader
@blueclaw
@briseis
@karamel

ok thx guys for the help c:

@puppymaks

I have to agree with you. cx but some guys are nice, right? xD

@whispers

and whispers happy with that?cx c:

@bot

The problem is that, if I am a unhuman when he's around, he'll just annoy me more because he likes to annoy me when I'm a neko ._.

I wish I didn't hae to do this, but... *turns demon powers on* This is the only way I can annoy him O: mwuahahaha c:


@blueskytoday

OMG u so awesomesaucey 8D imma try that >83

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I guess I could act a little emo when he annoys me. (Since he hates when I look depressed and have hair covering half of mah face) And the best part about this is that I usually do look like that (but I'm usally very happy n nyan cat in school) so I wouldn't look like a poser

leafpelt • 5 June 2013 at 12:42 AM

@neko-chan

@darthvader is right. Be direct. You'll only hurt more in the end if you avoid it. Just talk to him and tell them what's going on. Perhaps even try to be friendly to him. Figure out why you hate him in the first place?