Somewhat of a rant.

briseis • 15 June 2013 at 5:08 PM

This is somewhat of a rant, so please read at your own discretion.

I have come to a point in my life where I have realized that appearance matters more than anything else. I could be the most intelligent woman at my university, and receive much less recognition, respect, and attention than women who are more attractive than me. Trust me, being one of the most unattractive women at my university has been difficult. I do have a boyfriend who loves me very much, but even he seems to favor more attractive women simply because they're beautiful or hot. It's very frustrating.

What bothers me the most, however, is that these women love the attention and feed off of it. They know they're better off than other people because of their appearance. It makes me seethe with anger inside when I see how they leech off of people's silly inhibitions and think they deserve the attention. Sometimes, I regret living on this planet.

End rant. Add your comments, questions or whatever here if you wish.

Deleted • 16 June 2013 at 7:16 AM

@briseis dont worry about it, if you're a nice person then you dont even need looks 😊

neko-chan • 16 June 2013 at 8:13 AM

@briseis

I agree with eldnew, if you're nice then you don't need looks 😸

But one thing I hate with those girls is that they become very rude. And only the girls notice that and not the guys because they only care about the appearance .__. (at least it is like that in sweden)

Deleted • 16 June 2013 at 8:44 AM

@neko-chan if all a guy cares about is appearance i dont think he's any kind of worry 😊

newlife • 17 June 2013 at 2:31 PM

@briseis
I know how you feel. I actually pull my hair up and wear glasses so I don't get hit on. But who cares if you aren't the prettiest! The ones that are truly beautiful are the kind, honest people. I know that your boyfriend loves you, and men always crave attractive women. If he keeps doing this, you might want to sit down and talk with him.

whitefire • 17 June 2013 at 2:55 PM

@Briseis
You're right. Appearances, in this world, this era, are what matter most. Nobody cares if you get good grades, nobody cares if you let everybody else go first, nobody cares if you hold the door. In this era, all that seems to matter is that you are a good-looking Christian. I am overweight and Athiest and because of it I get tripped and criticized. I am the last to be chosen for anything. Nobody cares how often I hold the door for others, nobody cares how much I comfort them when they are hurt, nobody cares about what grades you get, nobody cares if your voice is beautiful, nobody cares about your art. All that matters is appearances. And what's worse is that the advertising agencies promote this state of mind. They tell you that if you want the boys to look at you, you must be fit and trim and have long, silky hair, perfect eyesight, wear mascara and lipstick, and wear clothes that show off your body. They tell you that you must remove all of your blemishes and shave your arms. Wanting people to look at you isn't the right reason to want to be fit. You should want to be fit so that you can be comfortable with yourself.
And I've noticed that a lot of the girls who act and dress like that have "Daddy issues" -- either they grew up without a dad, or their dad didn't treat them right. So in place of fatherly attention, girls look to the boys their age for the attention they so crave. It's stupid, really.

metaphor • 19 June 2013 at 3:29 PM

@briseis

You just have to find your niche. Trust me, I am far from attractive, and on the first day at Uni I was nearly in tears because all of the other girls seemed to just feel right in with each other and guys, and here was awkward me.
Now I really do love it. I was on the lit journal selection committee, and people respected me for my work, and not because I'm the most beautiful thing in the world or have the best body or anything like that. I'm still shy, but I felt like I belonged.

And I highly doubt your boyfriend feels that way. It just seems that way because you don't feel comfortable with yourself. Trust me, I've been there, and I'd be careful. Ironically, that very insecurity tends to be what drives people away, not your appearance as you tend to think as it's happening.

@newlife

haha, me too, and everyone is always telling me to put my hair down. It's just too much trouble.☹️