Comparing yourself to others.

metaphor • 6 January 2014 at 2:45 PM

I've probably posted something like this before, but I just need to get something off my chest before I start classes again on Monday...

Doesn't it really suck to not be able to stop comparing yourself to others? Like, sometimes people you don't even know personally but just have heard people talk about?

I know this sounds terrible, but it makes me really angry when I hear someone talking about (usually someone I respect, like a professor) how this person is the best this or that. I feel like, "No fair, that's supposed to me."


And then I feel guilty for feeling that way. And then I start comparing and seeing how much I come up short and how incompetent I really am.

This makes me a bad person, right? I mean, only narcissistic brats feel this way---the constant need to be the best?

And then there's this feeling of perfectionism, where I'm not even sure if I'm a real perfectionist or just lazy, and then I start hating myself for that.

Pre-semester blues. Merp. Bring on the unbearable stomach pains and breakouts...

lightning01 • 6 January 2014 at 4:47 PM

Tht sometimes happens to me a teacher or another adult will just keep talking about tht person i hate tht feeling it makes me sad and mad at myself

metaphor • 6 January 2014 at 5:08 PM

@lightning01


Yes, exactly. And I just can never convince myself that I'm good enough, even adequate. Someone's always better, and while I rationally know that's a reality, it's hard for me to accept, especially when such a person is so close.

lightning01 • 6 January 2014 at 11:04 PM

Sorry its so late but I'm glad we agree on things i just hate it when tht stuff happens like u said even if there so close to u

Deleted • 6 January 2014 at 11:12 PM

@metaphor i think we all compare ourselves to another person sometimes 😊 this doesnt make you a bad person at all!
you just need to stop worrying about it and do the best you can 😊

lightning01 • 6 January 2014 at 11:19 PM

Yah i guess ur right if we worry i guess tht turns into stress but sometimes u can get carried away

jubjubloversboy • 6 January 2014 at 11:42 PM

@metaphor

I'm kinda with you on this. >.< I mean, when a person is comparing you TOO MUCH, of course it's very annoying and gets you mad.

But, if someone talks about YOU that way, you would kinda feel good, right? And also, if they just do it once in a while, just think that it's something to live up to- To beat them!

And if you beat them, that's something to usually be proud of, right?

metaphor • 7 January 2014 at 9:42 AM

@jubjubloversboy

You're right. I see what you're saying completely. And really, I should be grateful for all the support, encouragement, and even praise I get for just being me and doing what I do. But sometimes that doesn't feel like enough. And honestly, I'm really not smart or hardworking or anything; sometimes, I just get lucky and manage to pull something off.

lightning01 • 7 January 2014 at 10:08 AM

All of us are right there are different points in comparing u to someone else