Issues.

briseis • 10 November 2011 at 10:13 PM

I'm having issues. Personal issues.

There's someone I like in my Honors 9-10 Spanish class, and I'm sitting right across from him now in our table group. This is the second time we've been put together. He's quiet and nice and he isn't obnoxious. Plus he's attractive to me despite the fact he isn't physically appealing (if that makes any sense whatsoever).

The problem is, I'm probably not going to attract him the same way he attracts me. I'm big-boned, broad-shouldered, short-legged, overweight and overall unattractive, especially in the face. Plus I'm not exactly the most funny or talkative person. I'm nice to him and I'm not fawning over him or trying to creepily hit on him; I treat him like a normal person. Still, I wish I'd have a chance with him, even though I know that's basically impossible. My luck with guys will always be at 0%.

Sigh. What to do, what to do...I'll have to sit with him until December 17th.

unebra • 10 November 2011 at 10:17 PM

iif he is the right guy for you he wont care if u arent pretty but im sure u r ! 😃 he will accept u for who u r on the inside @briseis

briseis • 10 November 2011 at 10:17 PM

@unebra but...this is a guy we're talking about. A male. So...loving me despite not being pretty seems...unlikely.

unebra • 10 November 2011 at 10:20 PM

@briseis well its always hard to find the right guy ! but im sure u will it just takes time no guys ever like me cuz im soooo weird and then nobody likes me unless they get to know me

briseis • 10 November 2011 at 10:25 PM

@unebra maybe. Maybe someday a guy will like me. But I'm sure this particular guy won't have any attraction to me whatsoever. I can basically guarantee that...

unebra • 10 November 2011 at 10:26 PM

@briseis i had a crush on a guy but it never really worked out cuz im sooo weird !!!!!!!!!!!!!

briseis • 10 November 2011 at 10:27 PM

@unebra did you ever talk to him? I'm not exactly "weird"...I'm just...not normal. Not attractive, not really worth much. I'm not very unique either.

balletninja • 10 November 2011 at 10:30 PM

I really don't think we can help, last time the whole helping you idea didn't work.

unebra • 10 November 2011 at 10:30 PM

@briseis ya we were freinds but it never really worked out though.

and ur a really nice person even though i just met u but still 😃 someone will like you 😃 u just have to wait for the right guy 😃

briseis • 10 November 2011 at 10:31 PM

@unebra I guess so. Maybe someday. Probably not this year, probably not in college. Maybe I'll have to resort to a pathetic dating site or something.

unebra • 10 November 2011 at 10:33 PM

@briseis im sure i will everyone thinks i have mental issues !!!!! its kinda fun though so i dont think i will change just to meet a guy 😊

briseis • 10 November 2011 at 10:33 PM

@unebra how old are you?

unebra • 10 November 2011 at 10:35 PM

@briseis im in 8th grade how bout u 😃 😃 😃

briseis • 10 November 2011 at 10:36 PM

I'm in 12th. I guess it's different when you're 13 or 14 as opposed to 17-18.

unebra • 10 November 2011 at 10:37 PM

ya cuz i dont worry about much i just forget about dating and focus on my besties and school and of course eggcave !!!!!!!!

briseis • 10 November 2011 at 10:39 PM

@unebra it's different in high school for sure, especially for seniors...

unebra • 10 November 2011 at 10:41 PM

@briseis ya i wouldnt really know 😃 cuz im still in middle school 😃 😃 😃 hope every thing works out ❤️ i gotta go to bed got stupid school tomaro at least its friday 😃DDDDDDD

Deleted • 10 November 2011 at 10:51 PM

@briseis if i could get a date, you can get a date.

briseis • 10 November 2011 at 11:09 PM

@deannablanco3 that...doesn't really help me? Do you have one, and why would I be able to get one if you are able to get one?

Deleted • 10 November 2011 at 11:14 PM

@briseis
one) i look completly like a male, im just not 'equiped' to be one
two) yes, i have one.
three) im just trying to tell you to be patiant.

meg • 10 November 2011 at 11:15 PM

Don't worry @briseis , there is a someone out there for everyone 😊

briseis • 10 November 2011 at 11:15 PM

@deannablanco3 how old are you, if I may ask? Age makes a big difference.

Deleted • 10 November 2011 at 11:16 PM

@briseis im a senior too XD

briseis • 10 November 2011 at 11:19 PM

@deannablanco3 ah, I see. Well some people are just better off than others. It's too bad I'm worse off in this category. But maybe it's just what I deserve.

cqpkytty • 10 November 2011 at 11:28 PM

@briseis
I am not normal too 😸
(i.e. Randomly bursting out into song, etc)

toy • 10 November 2011 at 11:42 PM

@briseis
If he doesn't you because you don't look good,
he isn't worth your time.
You say your in 12th grade?
Grow up and face the facts that your really pretty.
If you had any self confidence at all.

balletninja • 10 November 2011 at 11:48 PM

@toy yes. Just yes.

toy • 10 November 2011 at 11:55 PM

@balletninja
Yeah.
I know(;
But it sucks because I know she'll just ignore my comment like she did to yours.
We're only trying to help her.

metaphor • 10 November 2011 at 11:57 PM

Oh, have a little more confidence!
Who cares if you're not really thin? You can make yourself look nice regardless of size. Sometimes all it takes is a little time with your hair, a nice outfit, even a smile to make yourself seem all the more attractive.

Really, I hate to sound blunt, but...I learned the hard way as well, whining about what you perceive you are or are not won't change it. You either have to accept it, work with what you have, or do something about it. And judging by how you post so regularly here, I don't really think you're trying to improve yourself or to be attractive.

I'm an insecure train wreck, too--most people are.
But the difference is that people who want to feel better about themselves make it happen somehow, whether it's exercising, going for a walk, etc.

cafe • 11 November 2011 at 5:41 AM

@Briseis


I'm short [4'9".5], and feel like a balloon [I'm chubby, and have 40D breasts.] Short legged [I'm short overall] but that doesn't make me unappealing, why should it make you?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so you can't say you're ugly. Because ugly is a term that differs from person to person.

Feel fat? Work out.
Feel unappealing? Go shopping for cloths/look for stuff that flatters you. Don't be like my mom [Wearing tight pants] that causes a pooch. Wear a size bigger, so that it doesn't squeeze you.
Feel like you have short legs? Wear thigh high socks and shorts [If it's warm enough there] It causes the illusion of longer legs.

It's all about attitude. You can be big, but if you carry yourself like you're beautiful, people will respond positively. [But don't be annoying about it]