Body insecurity. =/

metaphor • 30 November 2011 at 1:52 AM

And no, this isn't a thread about being fat. It'd be silly to complain about being fat when I could easily put my negative energy into exercising. This is more about not liking the way my body is shaped. Like...the general mold, I guess you could say. =/ I used to kind of like some aspects of it, but the longer I look in the mirror, so many things seem off about it. I wish my butt were a little bigger. It's not flat and it has some kind of shape, but I really wish it were...maybe bigger isn't the word. Idk.
But other than that, I just feel kinda blah. Right when I thought I was beginning to like my body, the critic begins. I'm sure some more working out could help a little more, but it's just...ugh. I kind of want to cry. What was I looking at for so long that I found acceptable?

crescentfeather • 30 November 2011 at 1:56 AM

You look fine. Really.

Plus, the pictures you see on magazines and ads are all Photoshopped, edited, and perfected. They aren't real.

Supermodels and other "perfect people" have plastic sugery. 'Nuff said. Also, they starve themselves. Not recommended. e.o

metaphor • 30 November 2011 at 2:13 AM

I suppose you're right.😋
I think I need to get away from this stupid site, comparing my body to every woman's. I mean, what do they all have in common, after all? They're different! There's more than one type of body and all.

angel_star • 30 November 2011 at 2:26 AM

@crescentfeather

Not everyone has plastic surgery. They still look really pretty..

@metaphor

Don't critiicise yourself. Accept yourself.

crescentfeather • 30 November 2011 at 2:27 AM

@angel_star Yes, but most do. ☹️

angel_star • 30 November 2011 at 2:30 AM

@crescentfeather

O_O Really? Cos I heard you can't be a model if you had plastic suregery.... O_O

crescentfeather • 30 November 2011 at 2:31 AM

@angel_star Maybe it's different in different areas or something. o_o

They still have to starve themselves, though.

metaphor • 30 November 2011 at 2:40 AM

I think it kind of depends who you model for. I've heard all kinds of weird stories about people being unable to model for things as simple as a chipped tooth.

icymuffin • 30 November 2011 at 2:59 AM

I remember reading that a model was too skinny, so they refused to hire her.

Strange, eh?


It's weird to me. Skinny models make us think it's pretty/the norm to be skinny, and by us wanting to be skinny & spreading that idea around, we make more people think that we have to be skinny and on and on making it even more normal... o^o

miomar • 30 November 2011 at 3:55 AM

I *cough* need to lose weight *cough* and found a workout on Youtube. It's heavy but works really good! =^)

lunarstarz • 30 November 2011 at 6:27 AM

Questions like these are rather normal 😃
Also you tend to tell yourself that you are too ugly/fat/stupid/etc.
when you examine yourself closely.
But when you think about it everyone else might say your beautiful and smart and that you are not obese like you depict yourself to be.
What I'm saying is stop looking at yourself and 'pointing out negative parts'. Because sometimes people would never even consider you that.

Look around you for once and tell me what you see.

You see that everyone is different. No one is exactly the same. And yes, not even identical twins;they may have different behaviours.

I should also point out that if you look at yourself one way you will keep looking at that perspective unless you change it. Try looking at yourself. Think of all the horrible and bad things about yourself. You begin to think you may want to suicide if you find a lot.

Then think of the positive sides. You can use friend's compliments to put more positives. Soon you may begin to love yourself because you have a more positive perspective

Love yourself because you are you
As long as you are you
You will be okay 😃

stellie • 30 November 2011 at 6:40 AM

My mom said kid modeling would be perfect, but tey didn't let me in because I have braces ☹️
Don't blame yourself blame the people, asif it seems like everybody's a critic

Deleted • 30 November 2011 at 8:38 AM

Modeling is only a curse. :c I feel bad for the people who have it as a career. Everyone is pretty and special. 😸

macosten • 30 November 2011 at 8:41 AM

Same about everything. The longer you look, the worse it becomes as you deconstruct it in your mind. It's human nature.

metaphor • 30 November 2011 at 4:49 PM

The funny thing is, it's not so much that I want to be skinny even (I'm not). In fact, my ideal body is pretty thick, solid thighs and butt and a bit of hip. In other words, some kind of shape that is a bit on the heavier side, but not obese (if that makes sense).

rileytibbles • 30 November 2011 at 4:54 PM

@icymuffin
@crescent_feather
@angel_star
Skinny people get made just as much fun of a ''larger'' people do. Trust me, I would Know

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 5:47 PM

I've never seen or heard of someone skinny being made fun of. Maybe it's just because of where I live, but no one here makes fun of skinny people. Only fat people/unattractive people, such as myself.

seaangel • 30 November 2011 at 5:57 PM

I know what you mean. I mean this is my first year in middle and it's like everywhere you turn everyone is making fun of you. I mean I think that only my best friend and my boyfriend thinks I'm beautiful.

metaphor • 30 November 2011 at 9:17 PM

@briseis

The truth is, everyone gets made fun of. Seriously, every single one of my friends including myself, and we range from stick thin to rather heavy. High school is n awkward stage of life for everyone. Everyone is insecure and so desperate to get the attention off them so they try to project it on someone else. I used to think that this was just something anti-bullying programs said to make kids feel better about themselves, but you know, after hearing how catty girls talk about their so-called "friends" when they're not around and they put down everyone from the pretty girl who they think is trashy to the overweight girl who rarely talks to anyone all while whining about their own insecurities...I've kind of begun to realize that this is true.

macosten • 30 November 2011 at 9:20 PM

Not for me. But that's because my high school is very small.

briseis • 30 November 2011 at 9:22 PM

@metaphor you're right, most people are just self-centered and want to keep the spotlight off of them because they're so insecure about themselves. But other people actually believe what they say, and that makes it harder for the person being made fun of or ridiculed.

metaphor • 30 November 2011 at 9:30 PM

@macosten

Mine is small too, but big enough for everyone to get in each other's ways and get on their nerves.😋

@briseis

But even if they do, what does one person's opinion matter? I mean, they're one, maybe two or three, out of millions and millions of people?

dreamer • 30 November 2011 at 9:33 PM

The business of modelling is full of conceited women who show off their bodies, thinking that they have amazing love lives, just to make other people feel bad about themselves.

Picture a girl. She wears makeup, all the boys like her, and she is very popular. Turns out, she is snobby, conceited, and only has good friends for about a month until they stop being near her.

And then picture another girl; Sitting all alone. This girl isn't the best looking, and is often depressed because of it. But she has a few friends that have been with her for a while. She has low self-esteem, maybe she likes a boy, but is afraid he'd like the conceited girls. So, this lonely girl is a person who is so damaged by the pressure of popularity that she's hating herself.

Who would you rather be friends with? Who would you rather give your support and comfort to?

Now, I am *definitely* not the prettiest face you'll see. Not the thinnest or cleanest. But everyone has those moments. And, I do like a boy, a lot. But I'm worrying he'd hate my looks.

Now, I have some people who have been my friends for years. They always compliment me. Depending on the mood, I can look in the mirror and hate my face, other times I might smile at the sight of myself.

But since so many more people tell me I'm kind, smart, friendly; Shouldn't that be what matters? But alas, no one else sees it.

I wished we lived in a kind society where people were judged by what's on the *inside*, not the outside.

macosten • 30 November 2011 at 9:43 PM

@dreamer

...

THATSTHEPOINTIFWEALLJUST (Core corruption at 76%)


Yes. In all seriousness, American society is really HORRIBLE!

We pay people WAY more to hit a ball with a stick that we pay the people who teach our (as a country) youth.

We pay WAY to much attention to people who are on TV for bad reasons.

We care WAY too much about money.

ANDTHATSONLYTHETIPOFTHEICEBERG *GRRR* (Corruption at 81%)

qwaszx • 30 November 2011 at 9:43 PM

I'm girl number two... I miss a lot of school, so when I am there I sit alone...☹️ I have a crush on a guy that doesn't notice me. I feel stupid, alone and weried. :/ I can eat like NOTHING so I'm skinny and I'm made fun of that. I wear glasses that make me look nerdy. I'm the opposite. I look weird. All my friends tell me otherwise but I feel otherwise. No one cares or pays attention to me...☹️

That was my depressed side talking.. 😉

dreamer • 30 November 2011 at 10:01 PM

@Macosten

Yeah, it's pretty bad how most people these days treat eachother.

Of course, there are stil some good, nice people out there who can see through the outside and find absolute beauty on the inside. However, it's pretty rare, which is a sad thing.

Maybe one day, with enough support, we can make it happen. We can eliminte the 'normal'. We can stop grouping people as nerds, dorks, fatties, and popular girls. Maybe our outsides can become metaphorically invisible one day, and maybe some day everyone will think wisely, with a pure heart and good intentions.

Becaue I believe strongly that every single person on earth still has a kind, smart, sensitive, lonely person in the middle of their heart. There just may be other things that bury it and deceive other people as so they can't see it unless they are still pure in heart themselves.

Now remember, these words are coming from the bottom of the heart of an 11-year-old girl, who is stronger now, but still has her innocence, her maturity, and who stands away form the popular crowd. I could lie about who I am if I wanted to; But I'm entirely open to myself.

I *know* there are more people out there like me; I just need to find them.

metaphor • 30 November 2011 at 10:08 PM

@dreamer

I don't know, sometimes it can work the opposite, though.
There's this girl at my school, relatively new. She's very charismatic and I personally would describe her as pretty, so naturally she does get the attention of guys. She really doesn't seem at all conceited either and likes to talk to everyone. However, other girls seem to like to put her down for this, calling her the usual degrading females names that probably shouldn't be said here.

So while I agree there are loads of attractive women who think that it's all they need, I also think it's easy for other girls to take their insecurities out on this type of woman (not saying that's what you're doing, just generally speaking).

rawrcookies08 • 30 November 2011 at 10:15 PM

@rileytibbles you too?? People call me a stick and tell me that I need to eat more and I'm all tiny and stuff. Like what the heck?! Grr.

balletninja • 30 November 2011 at 10:28 PM

Perfection.
MAGAZINES ARE PRETTY DANG STUPID!

rileytibbles • 1 December 2011 at 9:08 AM

@rawrcookies
I absolutely HATE it when people tell me to eat more!!! I eat until I'm full and they needc to mind their own business! I CAN'T CONTROL MY METABOLISM!