Help with RL; this has happened far too many times...

celeste • 4 February 2012 at 4:37 AM

@duchess
I really hope so ^^ But she's been known to be EXTREMELY spaced out... Which, in comparison to my concentration span... seems... well... yeah 😋

@squeakers
Don't feel bad about stalking a topic! ^^ It's normal~ ^^ And, from reading your message, I feel compelled to reply as well 😸

I'm not sure if what I'm feeling is forced or natural, really... I naturally have some outbursts of weird behavior (especially anger) and the usual signs of this are lots of sarcastic remarks and threats (Actually, she didn't seem to mind the fact that I was putting this on EC e_o)

It's a coward's way out, but it's much easier. As hardened as I get when I'm angry, I still have some sensitivity, and keep thinking "What if I hurt their feelings, hard? I don't want to see their reactions..." and if I put it bluntly (I've had, before) she doesn't seem to care that much either. Yes, she's that flippant; out of the two, I'm definitely the more serious (about studies, school, homework, stuff like that 😋)

Well, I actually remembered her socializing quite well with my friend (near the end of the lesson) and she seemed pretty social with all the other people as well. I don't think it was just an accident...

And don't worry! ^^ It's not a rant if people learn something from it ^^

inhabitant • 4 February 2012 at 4:44 AM

@celeste

the best thing you can do is to talk to your friend... I mean she's your friend right? She'll understand because if you don't you'll just get hurt over and over again...

I know how you feel because that happens to me every once in a while (a lot)

I'm not much of a talker to... but you should try or you might end up like me... having an epically believable fake smile every time you are hurt inside no one will know...

I'm here bud, and trust me all you have to do is talk ^-^ yes it is easier said than done...

You should start of like... tell your friend how you feel and you get a bit insecure or something... then start being mushy >_________________<

celeste • 4 February 2012 at 4:52 AM

@inhabitant
After the lesson I did make some threats, which, she, once again, treated as a laughing matter. No, seriously, I said something about treating me like dirt, and she then said that she would have stepped on me, threw me out, etc. (which i pointed out were all done to me metaphorically anyway XD)

Really? It you too? :c *pat pat* I guess I finally broke down, I guess...

I've always tried, but I'm sometimes extremely shy >.< Whenever I'm upset, I tell myself to smile, even though I know it's not from my heart. I've only ever truly smiled in my younger years... I guess this must be the age where my personality develops..

I resolve to talk! D8< (But, how? <: 3)

I've somehow always started with a threat whenever something serious like this happens. Like this time, I told her I was oging to put this on EC (which I did) 'cause none of my other threats ever work, and I don't think she's getting the message. I just played with her mind a bit today. I'll try being a bit more... mushy XD But the next time I'm seeing her is, like, a week away e_o

lunarstarz • 4 February 2012 at 4:53 AM

Hello @Celeste

So you're saying that there's a really good friend of yours and you meet her weekly at Chinese class, but today, someone else sat where you usually sat, and she did nothing about it.

If it is a new person, well yes, I would believe she was trying to welcome the person. I'm not sure if the student her/himself chose that spot, but I don't know. And according to you, she is somewhat considered a 'weirdo', right? I have a friend considered like that as well, but after a while, I started noticing she had problems inside herself. She was cheery and all mischievous, but once she confessed that she really didn't know how to make friends as easily, or that she could make friends, but maintaining a weird behaviour or a certain behaviour to someone for a long time is rather difficult. Your friend might be experiencing that.

Also, it could be the fact that she is growing, and her thoughts are being muddled a bit as well. Whilst in the changes of being a teenager (I am assuming that she is a teenager, or an early teen) her feelings and thoughts and all might change, muddle up, or go completely insane/different from what it was before. I could remember a girl, who was rather shy, who later turned out to be extremely outgoing, and vice versa, although it's more outgoing to quiet, tired, and ponderous.

I will add the rest of my post later.

celeste • 4 February 2012 at 4:54 AM

@lunarstarz
I'll give you room 😸 And, BTW, everybody in my old class admitted to being a weirdo, so that was my informal nickname for them 😋

Deleted • 4 February 2012 at 4:54 AM

Continuing from LunarStarz, @Celeste

Lying about your mood. Smiling outside and crying inside. If she is a really good friend, then she must have noticed, but doesn't know what to do with the scenario, perhaps because she hasn't experienced something like this, or any other reason possible.

" Am I just plain boring? Did I go wrong somewhere? Am I not god**** nice enough? Hey, I work hard to be perky everyday! "

Did you go wrong somewhere? To be honest, is there a 'wrong'? Is there a 'right'? In my opinion, the 'wrong' is working HARD to try being perky. And being nice all the time, I admit, doesn't sound 'normal', even though there's no specific meaning for normal. Her opinion of you may have changed, and you trying hard for it to be back might be slightly futile. It is hard to overcome change, no doubt, but I believe that you should try find a way to go past this and let the change go. Who knows, you might find she goes back to who she is. Maybe not. No one will know

All I will say is good luck for your situation

pastelfeathers • 4 February 2012 at 4:55 AM

@celeste
Hoorah I switched accounts like a creeper-

No...wait.

That's not a good thing. ;_____;

Thank you for the reassurance, I feel better knowing you don't think me nosy for giving my two cents. 😊

Hmm, well, I suppose it's up to you to figure out how you truly feel? I simply assumed that, since you mentioned you act nice when you don't feel like being nice, you're forcing yourself to act a certain way to make sure people like you. Sorry if I misunderstood. ^^;
I have to admit, everyone has their own little quirks, I myself tend to be rather...snippy/cynical in my remarks at times. And ahaha, really? That's rather nice of her, I'm not sure I would feel the same if I was in her position.

Aww sweetie, don't ever be afraid to discuss things with your friends, that's why they're there. Friends are meant to be there for each other, not be mind readers, it's only by talking things through that you become closer. ❤️
And hmm, well, I know how that feels. I used to be quite like you so I sympathize greatly, and I can assure you, just because you guys have different personalities, it doesn't mean you can't be good friends still.

Well now, that is rather odd to hear. Still, I stand by my suggestion, perhaps next week you can go up to her and introduce yourself.
Don't over think about the situation and psyche yourself out before you try. 😊

Bloop. Sorry if I'm kind of overstepping my boundaries, but I really don't want you to be upset over something like this. D:

inhabitant • 4 February 2012 at 4:59 AM

@celeste ^-^

Uhm.. lets see... a week from now?

Since girls are mushy... (no offense I mean it in a good way)

just go to here and hug her... she might understand, if she doesn't then she asks why? then you start talking but don't use threats... u start off with like... saying how you feel about being out of place...

wait for her reactions... then if she laughs, say to her that your friend rain will be mad at her for making you feel sad ^-^

*well of all the disagreements I have watched in school it all stops with girls hugging each other...

celeste • 4 February 2012 at 5:02 AM

@everybody
I'll reply later, 'cause I'm tired and I want to draw now 😋 I feel slightly better by what you've said (although I still really can't let such a thing like that slide :c)

celeste • 4 February 2012 at 5:02 AM

@everybody
I'll reply later, 'cause I'm tired and I want to draw now 😋 I feel slightly better by what you've said (although I still really can't let such a thing like that slide :c)

lunarstarz • 4 February 2012 at 5:03 AM

If she is a good friend, perhaps considered from other points of view as a best friend, then she would know you enough to understand what you're saying, for example, your dirt metaphor, but can't put to words what to say to comfort you. It is extremely difficult to comfort someone and explain things to someone who is trying to imply that they are feeling unwanted.

I should know. It happened to me and a few people.

It almost happens to everyone @Celeste.

I blame puberty 😋
But anyways, I'll subscribe to this thread so I can reply or help with whatever happens.

Oh another thing.

Try not making the mistake of saying something along the lines of "I sometimes think about suicide" or "You make me feel unwanted, with depression" or "Eh, don't worry, nothing matters anymore. Nothing ever mattered to me. I will just sit here and cry for the rest of my life". No. It is already painful that she knows what's happening and doesn't know how to react. And what she might say to comfort that, if she tries to jokingly reply, because she is trying hard to make sure you aren't feeling bad, even though she can't say the words, a 'happy' reply to a sad explanation with a heart poured out might leave to a devastated friendship.

I'll try helping the best I can with this

Deleted • 4 February 2012 at 5:39 PM

Out of curiosity as well, have we helped you?

😊

@Celeste

Edit: As well as that, I remembered you were collecting New years Creatures and Terrons as you told by PM. They are already in my trade lots. If you're not trading since you don't have enough room, don't worry, I'll keep them until you need them 😊

Deleted • 6 February 2012 at 1:36 AM

*facepalm*

i h8 when at times like these i cant do anything but agree to other pplz answers T^T which doesnt help at all the fact that it looks like i cbb to say it myself :/

buut i pretty much agree to majority of wut pplz sez. no idea wtf goin on with me either, and it annoys me too T^T

just to point out @celeste

YES. I DID NOTICE. BUT IDK WHAT TO DO :S
cuz idk wut will comfort u and wut wont sumtimes ._.

tho one thing bothers me no offense :/
dont try too hard to be nice :S i can tell you do it often and it just doesnt look right >.<

(then again, dont end up like me and slap people sumtimes)

to make it clear, im somewhat different (omg the horror)
just sayin, u dont have to have a fake smile and try being happeh and such. cuz i know that u arent smiling ._. aaand yet idk wut to do when that happens *headdesk*

someone help me too T^T...

lavender • 6 February 2012 at 1:42 AM

@celeste does she (your friend) play eggcave? If yes, maybe you can PM her how you feel.., that way you are not talking to her in person, so you are more confident? Or you can just tell her how you feel, privatly? Hope this helps!😃

trish • 6 February 2012 at 2:17 AM

@celeste Sometimes I feel that way too. There were two guys that I'm friends with, and there was a substitute. I sat down in my regular seat, ASSIGNED SEAT*, and one of these guys sat down next to me, which is not his assigned seat. Then the other guy, who's seat is taken by guy1 (Lol. 😋) was like, to me: 'Hey there. Get out of my seat.' In a joking way. They both were like that. Even though I know they were joking, I felt almost like I needed to cry.

Deleted • 6 February 2012 at 3:58 AM

@lavender

i ❤️ how u write that after i wrote my post
"does she (your friend) play eggcave?"

hello there

lavender • 6 February 2012 at 4:06 AM

@fujibaka
You mean it sarcasticly?

Deleted • 6 February 2012 at 5:27 AM

@lavender
:/
half
honestly right now i cant decide what offends people and what doesnt

its horrible ☹️

whispers • 6 February 2012 at 6:54 AM

@celeste
I'm sorry about what's happening. But about the seating, if it were a new person, the teacher could have made her/him sit there. They do that all the time at my school T~T

But the way this sounds is maybe you two are growing apart, if you don't feel that way, maybe she doesn't feel 100% sure about your friendship.
Maybe you should tell her how you feel, a nice e-mail, or call her.
I hope this helped 😊