I've never really talked about this, but I think I need to talk to someone about it.

Deleted • 1 March 2012 at 4:17 PM

It's about like, realtionships.

So, I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years (Well, in November it will be two years, so not that close to two). And for about a year now, it's been rather, unhealthy. We're watching a movie about unhealthy relationships, and I'm able to relate to a lot of it. Is there any way to reverse it, or SOMETHING? I don't want to be in an unhealthy relationship, but I couldn't bring myself to break up with him if I had to.

Deleted • 1 March 2012 at 4:29 PM

@dawnie Well, if it's something really bad, then maybe just talk to him about it? Maybe you can resolve some of the problems by talking some things out with him. c:
I'm a terrible advice giver... a LOT of the time I try to give some advice. xD
So, I'll wrap this up. Good luck. c:

meixiaotian • 1 March 2012 at 4:32 PM

Well you could try to resolve some problems out, just smooth them out, or you could try pressing a little harder to keep from drifting apart. If that fails, well... *shrugs* maybe you might want to let you drift before it gets harsher than that.

Deleted • 1 March 2012 at 4:37 PM

@Rin I've tried, but he's pretty convinced there's nothing wrong.

@Meixiaotian I've tried to make things better, but he's so stubborn. I can't convince him anything.

meixiaotian • 1 March 2012 at 4:42 PM

Then, maybe, you could try to adapt to the current situation?
Yeah I'm bad with situations I've never experienced yet.

Deleted • 1 March 2012 at 4:45 PM

@Meixiaotian Maybe, but I have enough to worry about already.

meixiaotian • 1 March 2012 at 4:48 PM

I don't know, then.
Good luck solving things though!

zafeyry • 2 March 2012 at 3:02 PM

@dawnie
Earlier this week I realized my relationship isn't healthy :/ My girlfriend's a lot more popular than me and her friends call me g@y and always tell her to break up with me. I went to talk to her today in the cafeteria and she said "Get out of here" in a nasty voice. I'm giving her one more chance this weekend even though she doesn't deserve it. If she doesn't, I'm bringing a box of my stuff from her to school on Monday and breaking up with her. And I'm changing the egg named after her to Breakup. I love her, but it's not a good relationship ☹️ I feel your pain :'(

star_daragon4810 • 2 March 2012 at 4:17 PM

@dawnie

I think the best thing you can do is just talking to him about it...and discussing what is healthy for you guys, and what isnt...😱 If you guys like..find a flaw, find some way to fix it and make it better for the both of you! Or maybe you guys just need to spend some time together...or alone. It depends...Do you feel like...you need a break from him or anything? :/ If so, maybe..take a short "i need time alone" time...and if you still feel like you dont want to go back to the unhealthy relationship...maybe then you know...you can decide if you want to break up with him or not...:/ If you come back and really miss him though, and him missing you, well...good for you! 😱 Then you guys can work on a healthier relationship together! 😱

zafeyry • 2 March 2012 at 5:01 PM

@dawnie
My girlfriend said she was sorry for being mean to me; she had gotten grounded and that's why she was ignoring me. I'm a softy -__- But I really love her. Hope you turn out okay 😊

jaywesomeextra • 2 March 2012 at 8:22 PM

You shouldn't think your in an unhealthy relationship because you saw it in a film, it makes you overthink everything.
If you're happy, you're happy, (:

If you feel unhappy in your relationship, you should first look at yourself and try to make changes that benefit to your relationship.
If this works you could talk with your boyfriend about a few things that bother you, not large stuff or all at once, because than he might think you are overreacting.
If that works, hopefully he will see what you see, and try to work out any issues you have too.

Ofcourse this is a bit general, because I don't know why you think your relationship is unhealthy, but I hope it helps, even if it's just a little bit 😊

morgana • 2 March 2012 at 8:28 PM

@dawnie I think it depends on what exactly is happening that makes your relationship unhealthy. Though the fact the he is in denial isnt a good sign.
Talking to him doesnt work, if i read what you said correctly, so maybe see if there is something you can do as an individual to make things healthier?

james-bond • 6 March 2012 at 3:16 AM

@dawnie is it really you?!

Deleted • 9 March 2012 at 3:47 PM

Jordan. Already been 2 years. It'd be three in November, you know, if you didn't doubt me constantly. We started dating in 7th, not 8th.


Who's the one with amnesia, again?

Deleted • 9 March 2012 at 3:51 PM

@_Batman Who's the one who pushed who against the wall, again?

Deleted • 9 March 2012 at 3:55 PM

@Dawnie Who's the one who talked about who's dead mom, again?

You knew that'd make me mad. So don't act innocent. Like always.

Besides, at least I didn't throw a LAPTOP, I'll leave that to you.

Deleted • 9 March 2012 at 4:01 PM

@_Batman I'm about the only one who HASN'T.

Go fall in a well and learn the truth.


OK. Life lesson.

You DON'T call someone who was just pregnant fat. Hormones IDIOT.

Deleted • 9 March 2012 at 4:08 PM

@Dawnie Really? I'm sure I'M not the one that said, "Well, I'm actually going to see my mom before I die."

I'd LOVE to see YOU live without meeting your mom, ONCE. And you know, that hurts. Especially coming from you. But, I guess you don't care, so why should I?

Deleted • 9 March 2012 at 4:18 PM

@_Batman Cry me a river. You said my mom will probably die from lung cancer soon anyways. So loving, you are. I'm so glad to call you the father of my children.

That's funny, the capitals says "LOVE YOU."
As if.


OK. Don't care. Just walk around acting like you're so fine about everything, like always. But I bet everything is fine, to you. Like always. NOTHING can bring Jacob down. Ever. That's like dirt being cool.

Deleted • 9 March 2012 at 4:24 PM

@Dawnie Well chances are, she will. How about you appreciate people for once and be glad she STILL IS ALIVE.

You're right. I'm such a horrible father that I dropped everything in my life for them, and you. Yep, I'm the bad guy.

You're the one who can't recognize love, not me. Or maybe you're so absorbed with yourself you just don't love anybody so you can't even understand.

I'm going with that.

Because I already knew. But I dealt with it.

Deleted • 9 March 2012 at 4:29 PM

@_Batman I do appreciate people. People that don't give me bruises.

Maybe if you care so much you should stop complaining. If that really IS the main focus in your life.

OK. Absorbed with myself. I HATE myself. I have low self-esteem. I throw away every freakin' mirror I get because I hate the way I look. And I try too hard to look good, so you don't look at me the way I look at myself.

And I'm going with that.

Because it's me. Not you. I know who I am, and what I think. I don't need YOU telling me who I am.

We're in High School. I don't need this crap.

Deleted • 9 March 2012 at 4:37 PM

@Dawnie I've never given you one bruise. I've never even slapped you. But you've dislocated my shoulder. Yeah, I'm the abusive one alright.

You're right. I should stop complaining that I run off of 3 hours of sleep, while you sleep in class, and then expect me to give you the notes.

Thank you. Thank you for admitting you think our relationship is crap, that's all I need to know.

Deleted • 9 March 2012 at 4:44 PM

@_Batman Really? Gonna bring that one up? You tickled me, and I accidently kicked you. Lemme guess, you accidently pushed me into a wall? Didn't think so. Maybe Mr. Temper should be alone for a while. It helps see the truth.


Right. Let's compare.

You taking notes=making me give birth

Yep. that evens out.

NOT.

I'll be honest. It is. I was happy when we first started dating, and now I feel even more alone than before, and stressed.

Deleted • 9 March 2012 at 5:04 PM

@Dawnie Oh, trust me. I've been alone enough. But you, you've ALWAYS been with someone rather it's a friend, boyfriend, cousin, any family, too bad I didn't know anyone in my family until last month. But I guess I'll never know my mom.

Mom. You know the one you yell at when she tries to help you? I bet she can tell you love her. I guess her and I have something in common afterall.

I didn't MAKE you do anything. If you don't like it, why'd you keep 'em? Eh? Why'd you stay with me? Why? I'm sure Bobby would just LOVE to be the father of your children. Because, he would have stayed after he found out. Right? Just like Shane. He would've too right? Because they're all just SO MUCH BETTER THAN ME. So they would've stayed. Right?

Deleted • 9 March 2012 at 5:10 PM

@_Batman Just because someone is around, doesn't mean you're not alone. Family doesn't mean anything unless there's LOVE.

Family, you know the man and woman who loved you like their own son, and you really showed how much YOU APPRECIATED THEM. For taking you in, giving you a family, and loving you. And I'm the one who doesn't appreciate?

And the 10 year old boy that looked up to you since the day he could walk. The boy that tried to be just like you. The boy that cried after you left. You really showed him how to be a man, how to treat people, how to react in bad situations. We can only HOPE he found someone else he wants to be like.

luv • 9 March 2012 at 6:02 PM

@Dawnie
@_Batman

What is going on?
I'm probably stupid, and I know that. Who is who here, because I've read this conversation, and I don't understand.

So you love(d) each other? And you've hit a large problem. I know I'm some girl you haven't met on the internet, but it shouldn't matter who gives you advice, as long as YOU know what's good for you. Reading over these snippy messages, I honestly don't see a problem. Accusations, but they seem false every time. If you love each other, be kind to each other. It's only unhealthy if you believe it is.

Hope you agree, and that I helped change SOMETHING here.