I'm an idiot.

briseis • 1 April 2012 at 2:32 AM

@asi what do I have then? I'm ugly, I look like a man, I'm overweight, I'm too nice and too generous, I have only four friends in a massive school of over 3000 people, my parents think I'm an idiot, I AM an idiot, people feel sorry for me because of how I look, and I've had three boyfriends, all of them dumping me because I'm just not good enough. Well f***. What else could I possibly have?

And please, spare me the time of having to read some kind of response such as "you have food, water, shelter, a car, a phone, a computer, you have more than many other people" because I've heard that before, and it isn't helpful at all. I may sound ungrateful, but how would you feel if you were led on, dumped and replaced in one day? Three times?

evolutary • 1 April 2012 at 2:33 AM

@Briseis There is nothing good about thinking negatively. Sure, if something doesn't happen the way you want it, your hopes wouldn't be crushed as bad as if you had high hopes. But knowing that it didn't happen your way and you knew it was going to happen, it just reinforces the fact and brings you down further.

That's why thinking positively is better. Not reassuring-yourself-positively, just don't dwell on things. The more you dwell and think about something, the more your brain realises about all the extra details that you wouldn't have noticed if you didn't think about it.

Don't kill yourself because who knows, something good's bound to happen! Even if it's a small thing, it just means it's still possible.

pebblestar-nightclan • 1 April 2012 at 2:39 AM

@briseis

Just because one guy hurt you, doesn't mean you have to give up entirely on dating. There is someone out there for you, you just have to find the right person for you. He obviously just wasn't the one.

It's not your fault. It's his, and he lost you. You didn't lose him.

hedwig68 • 1 April 2012 at 2:39 AM

@pebblestar-nightclan is right
@briseis I know this will sound harsh so I apologize before hand

You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. It isnt doing you any good. So today eat some ice-cream and just get all of it out of your system but tomorrow get up. Then go out and show people that some stupid boy isnt bringing you down. That is my advice.

briseis • 1 April 2012 at 2:47 AM

I've been hurt three times, not just one. High school is one big s***hole for me, but why wouldn't it be?

Why do people keep repeating that phrase? The "he's the one who's worse off, because he lost you" kind of thing? It's such a ridiculous turn of phrase. Who REALLY thinks that everyone is amazing and special? Who REALLY thinks that people who are dumped aren't the ones who are worse off, because they're SO special and the other person just didn't deserve them and wasn't worth it? It's so ignorant and ridiculous, it makes my head spin.

MODS: PLEASE LOCK THIS THREAD. I am tired of arguing. Please lock this thread to prevent anyone else from responding.

trish • 1 April 2012 at 2:48 AM

@briseis I know it's not the perfect phrase for this situation, but 'What doesn't kill you makes you stronger'. 😊 Once you grow up to be a beautiful woman, your gonna laugh down at him.

I've faced a similar problem, except we weren't together, he was just drawing me in. Actually, I'm still facing it, but I'm mostly over him.

Do you like music? c: Listen to 'Stronger' by Kelly Clarkson.

It doesn't mean your over when he's gone, because thanks to him, you can start fresh again. Stand a little taller. 😉

briseis • 1 April 2012 at 2:49 AM

PLEASE LOCK THIS THREAD.

@zac
@ian

hedwig68 • 1 April 2012 at 2:50 AM

@briseis cause the phrase is true. The boy was stupid and didn't see the girl for her true self so they are the one worse off.

Deleted • 1 April 2012 at 2:58 AM

Since you are still being negative even when people tell you what is really happening, maybe you are ugly.
Maybe you just are?
If you think you are, then you are.

I dont wanna be mean, but that just seems like what you want to hear >.<

briseis • 1 April 2012 at 3:04 AM

PLEASE CLOSE THIS THREAD. DO NOT RESPOND FURTHER.