Should I lie to my friends??

seaangel • 9 April 2012 at 7:11 PM

I'm just wondering. I don't want to tell my friends everything going on in my life. I don't want them to feel excluded.

april__ • 9 April 2012 at 7:12 PM

Lying isn't good. But not telling people things is okay. It's your business. They don't need to know.

silverserpent • 9 April 2012 at 7:12 PM

@seaangel

I don't think you have to tell everyone everything. You have right to your personal life and it is yours alone. 😊

seaangel • 9 April 2012 at 7:18 PM

@silverserpent
@april__

Yes, but my friend (Nicole who joined then just sorta stopped) tells me everything. I mean once she got her very first boyfriend she told me, when she had an infection she told me...didn't need to know that!

april__ • 9 April 2012 at 7:19 PM

@seaangel

Doesn't mean you need to tell them anything. ^.^

silverserpent • 9 April 2012 at 7:22 PM

@seaangel

@april__ is right. If you don't want to tell her something you really don't have to. It is your life and you have every right to be as private as you like.
If your friend likes to tell you everything on the other hand, that is her decision, but she can't force you to do the same if you don't want to. 😊

I once had a friend that told me all sorts of private stuff - just so I would tell her something private in return. She was very curious about everything and talking about herself was her way to open people up so she could know more about them in return. Didn't really work on me though. I want to keep some things to myself. And some other things I really just don't feel the need to know about people. Like infections or what not. xD

Deleted • 9 April 2012 at 7:23 PM

@seaangel

If you don't want to tell them, then don't.
You have the right to make your choices even i your friends tell you EVERYTHING.

They may not tell you something really really embarressing...

In my opinion, you should only tell them the things you want them to know about.

but... it's your choice

seaangel • 9 April 2012 at 7:28 PM

Thanks everybody. I'm glad that there is people who support me...

Deleted • 10 April 2012 at 2:28 AM

@seaangel
You do not have to act like your friends do. You can tell them whatever you want. If they probe about somethig personal, though, lying is not the answer. A simple "That's private, I don't want to talk about it" should get them to back off. If they keep up, walk away. If it goes on for a while, you may want to stop being friends.

Deleted • 10 April 2012 at 2:30 AM

some things you can share, others you cant.

just because you know someone, no matter a friend or best friend, does not mean you have to tell them every second of your life

lavender • 10 April 2012 at 2:39 AM

@seaangel
I personally think you don't have to tell your friend everything! You pick and choose what to tell/what not to, but don't lie. EXAMPLE: Like say you have a boyfriend, and your friend asks you, "Hey! Do you have a boyfriend" and you don't want her to know, then don't say, "I don't have a boyfriend" Say something like,"Sorry, but I kindof want to keep it to myself"

snowrosehell • 10 April 2012 at 10:29 PM

@seaangel - Lying won't do good. You don't really have to tell them EVERYTHING about you. They're your friends and I'm sure they'll understand. But, the decision is up to you. If you spill one thing most private about you're life to them FIRST, it may not do any good to you. You may be conscious on how things are going like 'what does they thing? Are they keeping it or spreading it?' I don't know what kind of friends you have but there are tendencies that it will spread. SECOND, you could regret it as time passes by. And THIRD,you won't have any privacy. And, curiosity kills the cat, right? You would totally get curious on how thing are going in them. It could definitely totally change you. Trust me. 😃~

univea • 10 April 2012 at 10:31 PM

You don't have to tell them things, but don't lie.

Tell them things- OK
Don't tell them things- OK
Lie- NO.

alex1212 • 10 April 2012 at 10:33 PM

Well, you shouldn't lie. BUT! You can tell half the truth. Like if you knew something and they asked who did it, you could say I dont THINK anyone did it, because you did it. You dont think, you know. But you can and should not tell them things you dont want to.

Deleted • 10 April 2012 at 11:12 PM

*after having read what everyone else said*

.... Or you could just say 'nun ya buisness' in a playfull manner. My friends tend to laugh and not ask anymore questions after I say that ^.^

stellalunagirl • 12 April 2012 at 3:57 AM

@seaangel

No. NEVER lie to friends. You may not tell them everything but when they ask, don't lie. I suppose not telling them everything is lying by omission, but don't lie when they ask.