Bullies

Deleted • 21 May 2012 at 8:17 PM

I had an okay day at school today, and there are popular people and one person is the leader. And she gets mad REALLY easily. And I did something to make her mad, and it is making me feel guilty, and eventhough I know I didn't do anyhting wrong, I still feel guilt.

Does anyone have any stories or advice?

P.S. I didn't feel THAT guilty to cry or take my anger out at somebody, but it is bothering me. ☹️

Deleted • 21 May 2012 at 8:20 PM

@skibunny9

There are bullies in my school who bully my friend, but I have some mixed feelings about it. I have a friend who gets bullied really often. People don't bully her with very big things, but they call her bad names and stuff like that.

She is also a liar. I think, at least. There is this boy she really likes and these two mean girls who have been annoying her. She wants me to think that the girls are really really really mean to her, even though they are. She brought me to her house and showed me an email sent from herself, saying;


Mean Girl 1: stay away from boy he's mine we were holding hands after school and kissing just ask mean girl 2

Mean Girl 2: yea its true



Then she also told me that these people stole her diary from her. She said that there was a note on her desk saying; 'I'll give you your diary back if you stop annoying me.' But then she threw it away. I'm not sure if she's lying or not :/

meixiaotian • 21 May 2012 at 8:26 PM

You did nothing wrong. Maybe you're just feeling like since she's her, it is worse. Logic isn't always too potent, but use it anyway. If it was small it was small. Maybe apologizing will make you feel better but it might not be a good idea to get snapped back at.

chibidarkness • 21 May 2012 at 8:33 PM

@skibunny9

The thing with bullies is that you should just ignore them. And not all popular girls are bullies. They can be popular but actually quite nice inside. Some, yes, are totally obnoxious, but you know, they do it for attention.

This is something basically human being does. If you have attention, you will keep doing whatever you did to have attention, in the case of bullies, they WANT you to feel bad and scare you.

But just ignore them, do whatever you do, AND BE YOURSELF. Who cares if you have tomboyish interests or etc. That's who you are, and NOBODY can change it.

Deleted • 21 May 2012 at 8:34 PM

@skibunny9 The best thing to do is to ignore them. Give them the exact opposite reaction that they would want.

bunnyshadow • 21 May 2012 at 8:36 PM

I might seem a bit shallow saying this, but there's always a reason why certain girls are mean. Whether they were bullied when they were little, or beat by her parents. Personally, I don't think popular gitls are all that mean. All you have to do is get to know them a bit better 😉

Deleted • 21 May 2012 at 8:36 PM

@chibidarkness
Sorry, I didn't mean to make a stereotype about popular people, because honestly I was friends with a popular person who was just very nice, but fed off of attention, but would automatically get jealous of you, if even have the slightest of attention. Sorry.

@meixiaotian
@blackdeathkitty
Thanks! 😃

@bunnyshadow
No, you don't sound shallow at all! 😃

chibidarkness • 21 May 2012 at 8:39 PM

@skibunny9

It's ok. It usually is though, because mean people are popular due to others avoiding them, making these people "popular". I know, not all popular girls are mean. 😉

hay7199 • 21 May 2012 at 8:43 PM

I get bullied alot by my BFF's (I call her my sis) freind and it is making me feel really guilty.

chibidarkness • 21 May 2012 at 8:47 PM

@hay7199

Wait, you get bullied by your BFF?!?! How can you guys be BFFs if she bullies you? 😱

hay7199 • 21 May 2012 at 8:49 PM

@chibidarkness No HER freind bullies me... :'(

chibidarkness • 21 May 2012 at 8:50 PM

@hay7199

Ooooh, cuz' you wrote your BFF bullies you. 😋

Hmm...it's true that the statement "my friend's friend is my friend" is false. Is it because she's jealous of you?

bunnyshadow • 21 May 2012 at 8:54 PM

@Skibunny9 try to befriend her, and if that doesn't work, stand up for yourself ^^

Deleted • 21 May 2012 at 8:58 PM

@bunnyshadow
I don't think that will work, see its not that easy because she is one of those type of bullies that like to say," Oooo, I'm gonna jack her up!" And then call her a cuss word. And honestly at m school, there is no such thing as sticking up for yourself verbally. So if I stick up for myself, I would be in a center of people, screaming out names, yelling,"FIGHT,FIGHT,FIGHT!"

So I can't. ☹️
I don't like violence.

cynt5100 • 21 May 2012 at 9:51 PM

@skibunny9
When people bully me, or attempt to make me feel guilty about something, I make them feel guilty (fake crying usually works) act like I don't care, or tell them to go )$@& $&@/ &$@/ @$$&$ or to plss off. All of those work fine for me (jk. Mostly) (:<

Deleted • 21 May 2012 at 9:58 PM

@cynt5100
LOL XD

cynt5100 • 21 May 2012 at 10:05 PM

@skibunny9 why thank you. Many people say that I'm rather lolish.

Deleted • 21 May 2012 at 10:08 PM

@cynt5100
Hehe, lolish. 😃

cheetahlove • 23 May 2012 at 11:41 PM

@skibunny9
If you did nothing wrong then you shouldn't feel bad....is there somebody you tell about the bully to?
Usually if I feel bad then I do something that I like to do.
I know it's been said many times....but what I do is just ignore them. 😊
One time there was this girl bullying me (not as bad as you are) then the next time she did that to me I asked her why she acts like that to me.It turns out she just wanted attention and she was having hard times with her family.
That's my advice/story. 😊

leafpelt • 24 May 2012 at 12:49 AM

@skibunny9
Ignore them. The more opposing you become, the more ticked off they get. Yes, they'll try to make it worse, but you're only giving them sastifaction by giving them a reaction.

stellalunagirl • 25 May 2012 at 3:57 AM

Why do you feel guilty when people bully you? (Addressed to anyone really)

It's not your fault you're being bullied so why the guilt?

snowrosehell • 25 May 2012 at 5:47 AM

@skibunny9 -

Well, I also felt the same MANY times when I was in school before.. >_>" I did something to a person and then I felt guilty. Of course they are on different stories but still, same situations. *sighs*

It depends on what situation you are in and I have no slightest clue on what you did though. I am not sure if this is the right thing to say but here's mine... (P.S I'm not forcing anyone to read this)
It was on class a few months ago,

Long story short: I did something and made her mad. This person is also considered as popular and sort of the leader. After that I felt guilty that even when I got home, I still felt like it was s little horrible and I knew I did nothing wrong so.... When I went to school the following day, I just stare at her more or less observe her when she's not looking even on the next day and when I feel that she's not mad I will smile and say hi to her when we meet and apologize and then forget it ever happened. 😸~ (Actually this also happened to a him and a different her TT^TT)