Relationship Help

zafeyry • 12 June 2012 at 6:38 PM

I posted this almost 3 weeks ago and I've already decided to stay with Jenna, so I don't need any more advice.

Deleted • 12 June 2012 at 8:17 PM

@zafeyry

That sounds really complicated. I'm no help, sorry. I wish I could help!

april__ • 12 June 2012 at 8:20 PM

@zafeyry

My advice really depends on how old you are...

If you're under 16, I say stick with Jenna, if you do say you like her and Alyssa is moving then don't act on it. It'll pass, you'er young.

If you're older than 16 and you do like Alyssa, it all depends on whether she likes you back. If she does, talk to her.

Though, in general, I don't agree with Long Distance relationships in teen years. If you were an adult that'd be different. So my advice does remain the same I guess. Forget about Alyssa.

It may seem hard, but trust me, it really isn't. I thought I was in love when I was 15. I wasn't. I realize that now. It WILL pass. =D Just hang in there!

meixiaotian • 12 June 2012 at 8:31 PM

Do you really enjoy one of their company more? Think about who they both are to you and try to figure out who you think would work with the most.

Deleted • 12 June 2012 at 8:35 PM

@zafeyry well that's a doozy >.o

Unfortunately Alyssa most likely won't work out. I'm sorry to say it, but it won't. ☹️ If you want to tell her how you feel, right a sentimental note to her, and attatch a rose to it. Put it in an envelop and hand it to her before she leaves. That way she'll know.


Or, another thing to think of is does Jenna really love you. I mean, is she somebody you'd spend your life with, or just a teen 'a few dates then break up'? If you find doubt in yourself you may have to rethink your relationship, and perhaps tell Alyssa face-to-face awhile before she leaves. If you find no doubt, then just do what I said in the "Unfortunately" section of my post...

zafeyry • 13 June 2012 at 6:05 AM

I decided last night that I'm staying with Jenna and I'm gonna tell Alyssa that I don't like her anymore. Thanks guys 😊

james-bond • 30 June 2012 at 2:40 AM

@zafeyry WHOOT! 😃 That's great.

chibidarkness • 30 June 2012 at 2:43 AM

@zafeyry

Do you truly love Jenna? If so, stay with her. 😊

snowrosehell • 30 June 2012 at 8:39 AM

@zafeyry -
Well, I like April's advice. But, I don't know if who of them you liked most. You're dating this girl Jenna but you liked Alyssa who's moving back to France. If you liked this girl, Alyssa more than Jenna, I suggest you put Alyssa in a private conversation, just the two of you. Make sure that no one is around. At least admit that you liked her.

Oh waiit, just asked her first if she ever liked a guy. If she tells another guy's name or if the guy is you (however) just tell her that you like her in a completely calm and natural state. I'm sure it'll be an effective way. You don't have to break everything between you and Jenna since Alyssa is pretty much moving. If you and Alyssa are really for each other time will come that both of you will be together. 😊

zafeyry • 30 June 2012 at 8:53 AM

@chibidarkness
@snowrosehell
*pokes my post a few up*

stellie • 30 June 2012 at 9:50 AM

@zafeyry

I know just how u feel, right now (or used to) Im dating this boy named Joe, Hes funny, cute, has a lot in common with me, but then there is this boy that I met in the begginning of the school year, Marc, he has Joe's qualities, but treats me more like a real person, Joe started to change at the end of the year, and Marc started liking me, I actually really liked him, too. But now I found out that I was moving, very far away, Marc was devasted, Joe not so much, I never got to tell Marc I really liked him... And I feel horrible, I say break up with Jenna

chibidarkness • 30 June 2012 at 9:51 AM

@zafeyry

Ah. Well good to see your problem solved. 😃

zafeyry • 30 June 2012 at 10:02 AM

@stellie
*pokes my previous post that pokes to my post a few up*
I'm staying with Jenna, her actual name is Torre 😋 It's been 6 months next week, and I even named an Eeriek egg after her. I really like her xD

luv • 30 June 2012 at 10:54 AM

@zafeyry
Okay, people say I give good advice. I say it's just long:
So, my friend was in this same dilemma. You still like Jenna, but you also like Alyssa. If you are under 16, then you might want to stay with Jenna. Five months if you're under sixteen is pretty good, relationships go fast. If you're over sixteen, I recommend get Alyssa and Jenna in the same room. Start off by saying, "Jenna, I really like you. We've been in a relationship for a long time, and I think it's going really well." Give her the biggest smile you can, and make sure you're looking in her eyes. Then say, with the kindest voice you can, "But, nobody has total control over their mind. Lately, I've been kind of noticing how nice you are, Alyssa." Lock eyes with her and smile, but maybe not as big as a smile as you give Jenna. "I know this is kind of weird, but I just don't know about our relationship any more." Make sure at this time, you're looking kind of in the middle of both of them, then look at Alyssa. "You're a really sweet girl, and everyone thinks I should go out with you. I know I'm gonna miss you when you leave, it's a fact. But Jenna," Look at her. "I'd miss you if I lost you too." At this point, give them a minute to say something. Then say. "So maybe I should take a little break? Then I can figure all this out. Just know, it isn't your fault, no matter who I choose, and I still want to be friends with both of you."
*Sorry, just noticed your other post, have fun with Jenna!*

zafeyry • 30 June 2012 at 11:02 AM

@luv
Thanks 😊

vanilla • 30 June 2012 at 11:05 AM

@zafeyry - Hope everything worked out! 😊

kalateevolk • 30 June 2012 at 11:34 AM

@zafeyry

Good for you 😊 I hope you guys have happy times together!

luv • 30 June 2012 at 12:25 PM

@zafeyry
Yeah, have awesome times with your girl!