I think we should change our attitudes a bit ^^;

1992firebirdgirl • 27 June 2012 at 9:29 PM

@balletninja I agree and once again i didn't mean to accuse you of bashing . I totally see where you were coming from and i was on edge at the time . we all have our moments 😊

icymuffin • 27 June 2012 at 9:30 PM

@balletninja

That last part. Rosey-eyed retrospection.
We typically miss things & remember mostly the better things.

But really?
In my opinion, it's not that bad here. And if you think people hate you, it might be just your opinions how you state things & how you may strongly stand against everyone else. It's the internet. It's hard to express how we really feel through only text & smilies and even harder to interpret :]

Be true to yourself. Have some hope. If it doesn't work for you, then leave & don't put effort into what you think can't be changed, bluntly put.
Still like it anyways? Then put some effort and give a shout. There are other people who may share your opinion.
*pokes current thread*

But I digress. This isn't really totally what this thread was starting off talking about.
Just what I think of it.

balletninja • 27 June 2012 at 9:39 PM

@icymuffin

Sometimes we have the better outlook on the past but the trading was wonderful in the past to be totally honest. A lot more circulation.

I am true to myself, and that is why I go on the forums less. People don't like that, so I just stay to myself and look elsewhere.

Eggcave isn't awful, I like it this way but people need to accept that it isn't that bad and maybe getting a bit more of a rough skin might help.

Anyways, I just don't go on as much. I am usually not one to give up but eggcave just doesn't have the same place in my heart as it used to. But that is just my two-cents on this mini conversation.

april__ • 27 June 2012 at 9:47 PM

I completely agree. It's okay for people to disagree, but it should be done in a respectful manner.

I've been in many debates, and even if I don't like the opinion of the other, it doesn't make me act harshly to them.

People are also so quick to say having other opinions is okay. I have a friend that doesn't think people should be in same-gender relationships. Always, people are attacking her. They're always saying she's a bad person. She has a religion. She ISN'T telling people what they should and shouldn't do. She just has an opinion, but guess what? She's still friends with those in same-gender relationships. I think it's amazing.

It was an extreme example. But...

Over 75% of communication has NOTHING to do with chosen words. There's body language, and tone to include as well. On the internet it's near impossible to tell what someone means.

So take good care when choosing your words, and think about what others have said as well.

EDIT: Also, getting a rough skin? I tend to have a 'rough' skin. Nothing really bothers me. But when I come on here in a bad mood, because this site NORMALLY makes me feel better, I could get upset a lot easier. It all depends on the situation.

That being said, I don't think I've ever really been bashed on here. *shrugs*

cat • 27 June 2012 at 9:49 PM

@mrsgiggles

That's very true, but if a user really is being rude, and Ian, Meteoroid and Annapashminna aren't here, then what would happen?

But anyways, you are right in a way. I respect your opinion.

mrsgiggles • 27 June 2012 at 10:05 PM

@cat Then we wait until they are online and do something. In the meantime, ignore that person.

Words on the monitor are just that - words. You don't know the other person, not really. So don't let them get to you so much.

cat • 27 June 2012 at 10:09 PM

@mrsgiggles

Seriously! Your point doesn't make sense. I bet you're just saying that to make me feel bad. EVERYONE on Egg Cave is being mean to me! It sucks. I'm gonna quit because Egg Cave SUCKS! >:[


Wasn't that annoying? I didn't mean any of it, but really. I don't like it when people do stuff like that. But honestly, Egg Cave isn't fun with people who are rude. And there are people who take things super seriously.

But you are right. People need to grow a thicker skin (including me XD)

schusteralex2 • 27 June 2012 at 10:29 PM

I think one of the problems is the complete monetary mindfix of most players. I honestly think the community would have more together-ness if people traded creatures, not money.

kurochi-akuma • 27 June 2012 at 10:30 PM

@balletninja

I'm sorry for prolonging your madness. D:

*goes in corner, leaving this forum* :/ ._.'

pendulum • 27 June 2012 at 10:41 PM

@shadielle

YES. I agree with you and that's all I am going to say.

mrsgiggles • 27 June 2012 at 10:55 PM

@cat Actually, no, lol. But I'm a veteran of some of the most argumentative and flame-heavy forums, so my skin is thick (and scarred!) where online drama is concerned!

whispers • 27 June 2012 at 11:00 PM

*derpface*
Sorry! XD
I missed reading a post or two o3o

balletninja • 27 June 2012 at 11:04 PM

@whispers They were agreeing with each other...

sunshinecat • 27 June 2012 at 11:46 PM

I agree that people shouldn't be rude to each other in debates. Occasionally, I do make posts in out of hand threads trying to get people to be more civil but no one ever listens (yet if I make a post about the argument topic itself I get tons of replies).

I don't like it when people blow things out of proportion though, or get offended at nothing. Like, using words such as 'troll', '[yeep]', 'flame', 'bash' or other words with extreme meanings which don't usually apply. Or getting offended when you make an argument back which isn't offensive to them as a person.

All in all, don't resort to name-calling, just put your opinion out there and argue against someone else's if you want. But never directly to them. It's easy to misinterpret words, so try not to assume the worst.

stellalunagirl • 28 June 2012 at 4:33 AM

I agree with @sunshinecat,

But also, I think that a lot of the problem comes down to the lack of moderators active in the forums. Yes, we have a sign that says, moderators online, but when it comes to actually MODERATING the threads, they don't seem to do anything about it, Mods need to be more active, or get MORE mods on the forums, ones that actually have common sense and the maturity to know what should be allowed on the forums and what should not be tolerated.

That being said, about the title of this thread, it is a good idea, but not necessarily obtainable. Just saying that we should change our attitudes or perspectives will not make it happen overnight. And agreeing or supporting the idea does not really do anything to help.

Personally, I think if you want change to happen you should start with YOURSELF, make an example that people can follow.

sanibel_18 • 28 June 2012 at 4:55 AM

I TOTALLY AGREE!

whispers • 28 June 2012 at 6:46 AM

@stellalunagirl
I do agree that we need more active mods on threads. There are some days were you just wish they were there, but they're not.

And the third part. When people are ganging up on a person. How is that person being ganged up on supposed to be a role model? How can they set an example when they are already not doing it?

@sunshinecat
I'm not meaning that everybody is rude, thought they can be sometimes. I'm trying to say that people are ganging up on a person usually not liking the idea. ^^;
This has happened to me several times. I say I'm not a fan of the suggestion, and my reasons why so they understand. Then like 7 people who disagree with me come and start typing rude words. I never reply, but it's kind of rude.
Then one time after one suggestion was closed, the creator came over to my wall to agrue his point ☹️

I'm not saying your points aren't valid. It's just sometimes it's not one person being rude to someone. It's several.

zafeyry • 28 June 2012 at 9:16 AM

It could always get worse. Just look at Neopets 😋 But seriously guys, we need to learn to take some hits. We're people, not glass.

whispers • 28 June 2012 at 9:24 AM

@zafeyry
I know. But the thing is, it's against the forum rules to do it. And EggCave is supposed to be suitable for kids. We shouldn't be scaring new members away. I've talked to some newbies that have quit. And they were telling me they were quitting because everybody is rude and acting like a jerk to them. And two of my bestest friends are going on hiatus because of it. ☹️

I'm not saying that we should completely rid of it. But we need to lower the levels. Cause lately, the number of people being rude has skyrocketed o_o




Am I making any sense xD
Or am I sounding like a hypocrite o3o
Cause I"m just typing what coming out of my head

snowrosehell • 28 June 2012 at 9:45 AM

All here are right. 😊

But don't you guys think it's also right to be at least be considerate a little and be nice to others. Nice, not to the extent of giving away creatures or something or even in trade like taking in offers. xD Everyone has their own point when it comes to that/ ^^ But, the way people act when talking in the forums or to another user. In my opinion, it's becoming a bit overboard or should I say harsh? I don't mean harsh. HARSH. It's just around 22% of harshness.

I don't see the point of being a little hard on someone here. I think we all should think on how someone feels. Even though, it's a virtual site or a site on the web, we still meet people... though it may not be in person but still, we all had feelings and some people just misunderstood what another typed in. With that, started this whole 'awkwardness' and being a bit meanie. Not all people can take the words of others even if they don't mean it.

I mean, why can't people be a little nice instead of being gawky or being stern when there's NO ABSOLUTE REASON for doing so? I am not pointing at anyone or trying to offend someone here. I didn't even mention names. This is just my opinion based on observations. Sorry for the words. 😊

lily- • 28 June 2012 at 9:47 AM

I also agree with this topic.
I know I haven't started Egg Cave from the beginning, but since I've been here I have seen a lot of change and increase in these situations. It's relevant to consider others feelings before posting anything - we are only human and since many of the people here are kids they can get hurt easily. Therefore if you don't agree with someone, try constructing your words so as not to offend them. (I'm not really great at this, so I generally don't post on topics I don't agree on 😋 😊 )

zafeyry • 28 June 2012 at 10:14 AM

@whispers
You're making sense. Some of the newbies I've seen are demanding creatures from older users and adoption agencies because they're new.

whispers • 28 June 2012 at 10:26 AM

@zafeyry
Yeah. But besides those beggars who quit.
The ones that actually try are being scared away.
But I'd be happy to scare away the beggars who don't follow rules e_e
I'd scare them with insaneness though XD

zafeyry • 28 June 2012 at 10:41 AM

@whispers
And it's not just newbies, it's stubborn people too. Some oldies, some not. Change is enevitable (sp?) guys 😋

mightyeglantine • 27 January 2013 at 5:30 PM

@shadielle
I totally agree with you....
like I joined a month after you and I remember the kindness of eggcave and how people I didn't even know helped me learn about topics such as Rarity, Trading and Bargaining. I also remember how creatures weren't looked at for their rarity or value but for their overall beauty. Even though I've never really been bashed on this site (because I avoid topics where I see many rude comments) I still have been bashed in reality by strangers for very dumb things such as having stated my opinion, having long nails, being a Vegetarian and even because of my shoes etc. and these were all from adults, People who should know better or even just be mature enough to keep their bad opinion to themselves. I personally think its funny when people complain about youth nowadays being rude, I wonder who they learned it was appropriate from? most Adults.

P.S. None of this was directed towards you, Just kinda going on a little "Our generation" rant. 😸

@whispers Agree with you too!

bluebelle • 29 January 2013 at 6:22 PM

@whispers
I agree,I'm not pointing fingers but I've had people god-modding and then being a total hypocrite,some will spell something wrong or not understand and the other will totally bash out and literally kill the other by telling them how wrong thy did. I agree totally with you,everyone is just getting so...mean all the time.