*fumes*

metaphor • 19 December 2012 at 3:48 PM

I'm sorry, but I have to rant...

Listen, whatever dumb middle school kid called my sister fat:

Since when is being at a healthy weight fat? She's taller than short me and weighs far less and yet somehow she's fat?
I'm so sick of this crap. Yeah, it's horrible when kids who actually do weight issues are ridiculed for this but here's a kid who's at a healthy weight and who's really upset about it. She's genuinely afraid to eat.

This is just freaking fantastic.

april__ • 19 December 2012 at 3:54 PM

The whole girls being called fat thing disgusts me.

Especially when girls call themselves fat and they're not.

I've been staying off Tumblr due to the mass amount of posts saying, "All I want for Christmas are collarbones and a thigh gap," and I'm sitting there just feeling sick.

I've NEVER thought of myself as fat or even overweight but now suddenly I'm feeling self conscious and wondering if I should have a thigh gap.

I'm a 19 year old girl and still influenced and pressured by society.

Let's not even bring up the fact that I wear awesome ties that have rainbows, and polka dotted patterns... XD


Sorry someone called your sister fat though. When my cousin was nine, just nine, someone called her fat and she refused to eat snacks because 'they had too many calories.'

It's sad. ☹️

faybaybay • 19 December 2012 at 4:01 PM

Im on the skinny side & do have collarbones & thigh gaps but I dont get why people want to be that skinny. Id give anything to gain 10 pounds, I dont want to see my ribs & I dont understand why any girl would. I look like a 4th grader at 14. Girls out there that think theyre fat ( but are a healthy weight ) just because they arent twigs should be thankful because it isnt that great.

dreamer • 19 December 2012 at 4:21 PM

@Metaphor Honestly, I don't know what's fat and what's thin nowadays. All I know is that I'm not on the small side. If you're talking about my height, then yes. But weight, nope. The toothpick Barbie girls are the reason that healthy kids refuse to eat. Apparently, the thinner you are, you are deemed "almight" in the middle school society. Basically, that's the reason I get shoved off to the side.

Seriously though, I would kill for a thigh gap as well. >.< I'll get a pair of jeans I love and two months later, they're all shredded up near the inner part of my thighs. I've been self-conscious since third grade, when some kid called me fat. And all the little kids would lay across the end of a slide and slide down to knock eachother off. I'd join in and when I'd slide down they'd be like "Oh no, it's The Big One!" and then I'd end up knocking three second graders onto the ground.

I had a health kick last month, lost 1.5 pounds, and then gained three more back before giving up. I'm like, 164. I try dieting, excercising, but it is so. Freaking. Hard. The only advice people give me is "well, suck it up and DO IT." That just makes me feel even worse, so there's really no answer for me.

The best thing I can tell *you* is to compliment your sister. Tell her how you like her hair, or her clothes, or anything about her. I feel like a fat mess all the time, but I felt so happy for one day after one girl in my chorus class said I had a great voice. One positive comment can block out all the negative ones. 😊

luv • 19 December 2012 at 4:28 PM

@dreamer
How tall are you though?

I've felt fat before, but I'm over that. There was a website I went on, and a picture I saw that changed EVERYTHING.

@metaphor
I can't believe people even have the NERVE to call someone fat! IT DOESN'T MATTER! Being overweight can be JUST AS UNHEALTHY as being horribly skinny is!

dreamer • 19 December 2012 at 4:32 PM

@Luv Around 5', 5'1", so I have no excuse for obesity. :/ We did BMIs in school last month and mine was like 136 or something. My mom got an email and everything.

One of the main reasons I keep getting so big is because I want to oppose society. These stupid people saying "go eat healthy, excercise, it's so easy and beneficial!" This just causes healthy girls to feel like crap, and gives toothpicks the right to ridicule everyone else, whether they're overweight or not. And since these idiots make it seem so 'easy', most kids assume that unhealthy people are just lazy lowlifes. I get stereotyped for being so. ☹️ Biggest lie I've heard in my life.

I NEED TO LOSE LIKE 5O POUNDS to be at a healthy weight. I don't think eating granola bars and learning how to ride a bike will make that go away within the next few years. Just saying. Like, what do these people think I am, seven years old? These 'kid-friendly' health routines are hypocritical. I am disgusted with my own generation for being so cruel... yet I still want to be thin. :/

neko-chan • 19 December 2012 at 4:41 PM

i'm sorry that your sister is being called fat.☹️ but she should just ignore the people that call her that! a lot of people has been calling me ugly, but i'm okay with that they do that.>8O (as long as they don't think i'm the opposite of pinkie pie. that would make me sad.☹️)

*pokes as dreamers comment* nice comments always make you happy.83 once i had a really bad day in school but then my friend came to me and said that i where one of her best friends.😊

luv • 19 December 2012 at 4:45 PM

@dreamer
I'm sure tons of people want to be thin, and I know how you feel with a BMI above average. I had that too, and it made me feel fat...

But I still had talents and stuff and (This applies to the rude people who said that thing to your sister too @metaphor ) any person who thinks that looking pretty on the outside is more important than being BEAUTIFUL on the inside, they don't have a very big brain.

dreamer • 19 December 2012 at 4:55 PM

@Luv But I really want a musical career when I'm older. I LOVE music. I love gothic rock songs with slamming guitars, powerful vocals, and haunting voices that hum the most spectacular words and braid together emotions into a chain of fascination. I love to see the beauty and meaning in ALL music, ALL genres, ALL over the place. I would be so committed, but how often do you see overweight music artists? There's every once and a while, but there aren't many. So, how am *I* supposed to make it if society won't accept the way I look? I have amazing friends who oppose that rule and accept me because of my abilities and my personality. I would already be dead without them. Still, either way... I'm going down, sooner or later.
I always look online for tips on, say: getting motivated, not stress-eating, and easily losing weight. I'll find some advice that ultimately fails, and then people start posting about how they "don't get" overweight people. The eighth graders at my school have to make a poster about an issue in the world they want to change, for art. All the people who wanted to see weight loss made posters with... pictures of healthy food, and a bunch of bikes, and crossed out everything else. One even said "it's easy!" and I want it to tear it off the wall. It is NOT this blatantly easy, and I shouldn't be locked in a closet because I can't lose freaking 50 pounds...

I don't know. I'm rambling. The whole weight and bullying thing really brings me down.

whispers • 19 December 2012 at 4:56 PM

People do that to me all the time. I'm not a twig like the so called "cool"/"popular" girls at my school, and I don't exactly want to be twig thin 😋
It gets on my last nerve, but I tell them to shut up and move on.

seaangel • 19 December 2012 at 5:39 PM

@metaphor

Okay, before I start rambling on and get off topic, know this. I've been on your sister's side of the 'your fat' comment. It sucks, but she can't let that stupid little comment get to her. Being at a healthy weight is great, but it won't be that way if that comment gets to her and she doesn't eat period.

I hate bullies, but there might be something behind their mask.

stellalunagirl • 19 December 2012 at 5:41 PM

@dreamer

I think "opposing society" by getting bigger is not really an excuse or a reason to get bigger. You want to oppose society so you get bigger but you also want a thigh gap?

I know that bullying people for their size is not okay, and that people should not be encouraged to be stick thin, but that being said, there is a reason why people are encouraged to slim down and it is because it is healthier and beneficial to every day life.
Granted, girls and guys alike should accept themselves and not beat themselves up about their weight, but they should strive to get healthier.

Now, I can't say much about weight loss because I don't really have expertise in that area, however, the goal really, should be go get fitter and healthier, not drop the kilos like a sack of potatoes.

@metaphor
I think you should talk to her about this. She needs to know that there is nothing wrong with her weight. Good luck!

panda-chan • 19 December 2012 at 5:58 PM

@metaphor
People are just rude and mean. You keep telling your sister that she is fine and looks great.

@dreamer
Truthfully I wish people would not be jealous of skinny people. I'm 5' and weight 98 lbs. But I have to stay small because blood sugar doesn't process right in my body. If I don't stay between 95-100 lbs the problem could get worse and turn into type 2 diabetes. I've even had some people ask me if I'm anorexic just to try and embarrass me.

Just eating a bar for a meal is not healthy. If you want to try and lose weight then try cutting your bread and high carb foods down. Also just dance to a song for about 10 mins a day or every other day. You dont have to do a grueling work out. Or just put together your fav band play list and listen to 3 songs and workout that amount of time

briseis • 20 December 2012 at 12:07 AM

There's no reason for people to be calling other people names. It's an obvious character flaw and I can't honestly think of a single person who thinks it's truly acceptable to be nasty to others. People normally act this way because they feel threatened by the other person - not at all a good reason, of course.

I've been called fat and ugly and whatever you can possibly think of, but now I just scoff. Who are they to judge me? I have a wonderful boyfriend who loves me, a scholarship, a great roommate, and two great friends. Why should their opinion matter to me? I have all I need.

cynder5 • 20 December 2012 at 12:10 AM

My sister is just skin an bones she literally has no fat on her she looks like a starving dog or cat or whatever. but she still gets called fat. Oh yeah being dangeriously skinny nad on hte verge of death if you don't gain weight is fat. WHATEVER!

Deleted • 20 December 2012 at 12:28 AM

I get called fat every day by some loosers who throw up their lunch every day. Its just gross really. I am also teased for how "ugly" I am. I have learned not to care though. What is beautiful? What is fat? Who even really cares? I do know being able to see your cheek bones is not attractive. Covering yourself in makeup is definatly not true beauty either.

@briseis Exactly 😸

ems • 20 December 2012 at 12:44 AM

@metaphor
Dreamer was right: compliment her. Don't over-do it, but be sure to try and make her feel good.

I'm better now guys. 😋

Deleted • 20 December 2012 at 1:05 AM

@metaphor
One day, some boys called me fat and also some vulgar slangs o.e I just fumed up there. I couldnt do anything against it.
I narrated the situation to my brother who was in the same school.
He, and 2 friends of his, made a complex plan. They cornered the boys in a isolated part of the city
They thrashed that boys outside the school o.e and threw one of those boys into a rubbish bin (the big ones, greenish-brownish color, large type) It was near a small alleyway, the other boys ran, and I was there to see the whole incident.
O.e
It was scary, they threw one boy into a small lake. And the third boy was attacked and he was fitted into a wheelbarrow. O.e [this made of laugh as well, but lol freaked out]
I got punished according to the three boy's complaints that they were beaten over a small issue. o.o
After this situation, nobody teased me or so, also, i learnt a lesson, to never discuss my talks with my brother. O_e He follows the path of violence [while I thought he was peaceful o'e]

rainwater123 • 20 December 2012 at 4:05 AM

@metaphor
Gosh, people these days... calling people fat or thin, it's ridiculous! You know what, try to convince you sister that it doesn't matter whether or not people call you fat. Just ignore them! Just keep eating healthy and be yourself no matter what. I don't really care about appearances, a person's personality and traits are what I look for.
😊 Hope this message helps.

@ems
Wow, you nearly made me cry! How could people treat you that way? I'm a crazy and random person too and I love making people smile. But, I suppose I may not be much of a person my friends want me too be. I'm the odd one out sometimes, but I don't care. I do understand what you mean though.

whitefall • 20 December 2012 at 3:35 PM

@dreamer
131? o.o
Are you sure that's right?

dreamer • 20 December 2012 at 3:44 PM

@Whitefall Idk. Something that ended with a six. I'll just check online, the school nurses are so stupid.

Well online, it says 31. Just take off 100 points. I DON'T KNOW THESE THINGS. D8

whitefall • 20 December 2012 at 3:46 PM

@dreamer
Okay, I was worried there. x'D
But you should try to exercise :]
Okay, I'm not trying to be mean Dx
It's just that people with higher BMIs get a lot of diseases when they're older and die young. ☹️
I don't want you to die young~ ;~;
I'm 19~

ems • 20 December 2012 at 11:42 PM

@rainwater123 Woah. Sorry, didn't get your ping. xD

It comes and goes, I guess. Things have been getting better. I like being funny, and my favorite thing to do is laugh. 😸

I found later today that I've been caring less and less about what people think. Why should I care anyways?

Today I remembered about all my awesome friends who notice me a lot, and I remembered that I'm not all alone. I felt a lot better now, and I'm really glad that I have amazing friends like the ones who wished me a 'Merry Christmas' today. ❤️

panda-chan • 21 December 2012 at 12:19 AM

@ems
After reading your post I was in shock for a few moments. You described the way I used to feel all the time. I would never wish that feeing on anyone else.*hugs soul sister*

I don't know what it was that made me stop, but at some point I think I decided I was going to be me. The nerdy, quirky, random, funny and sometimes random person that I am was embraced. Now I honestly think I could care less on what people think about how I dress or act. They will have to except the way I am - love me or hate me. Because of this I now have much stronger bonds with my friends. Now I still do have those days where I just want to go curl up in a nice dark corner and cry, but I think that just comes with life.

ems • 21 December 2012 at 12:26 AM

@panda-chan

*pokes post above* I'm feeling a bit better now, I guess I was just really blessed today. 😸 I was all whacked-out for a while there. 😋 I dunno what changed today, but I guess it doesn't really matter anyways. I have really good friends and lots of people who care, but I guess I just didn't realize it. ❤️3

I still have REALLY bad days, don't get me wrong, but that's okay. Sometimes I cry for no reason at all, which I find odd. I think that sometimes people just need to let some stress out, and we do it differently. -huggles- I'm glad that I have good friends to bring me up when I'm feeling down. 😃

panda-chan • 21 December 2012 at 12:34 AM

@ems
Friends are always good. I now play video games or get on eggcave to kinda escape life at the moment. I also think it helps that I do little video blogs at random times in the week if I have time. Noone else but me is ever going to see them but it makes me feel better. Some days I insults from my mom really get to me. Well they are not ment to be insults but sometimes I take them the wrong way. I don't like to cry, but mom is the one that will make me cry the fastest. This is funny noe but one day I just started bawling in my room b/c of some pants she returned for me the week before. I had not warn them on a trip and see got mad for some other reason and stormed out at me for not wearing them. For some reason I connected that with me some how letting her down. My thoughts were depressing after that but now I can laugh about it.

leafpelt • 21 December 2012 at 12:53 AM

@metaphor

Tell your sister to ignore them. Those people are fools and they'll regret it sooner or later.

@dreamer
...That's normal...I'm about the same height, but people call me fat. DX I'm only 110 pounds. All my friends are 80...and that does not help.


@bothofyouguysandeveryoneelse

Besides, it's better to just keep it at what you are. My sister is so skinny, you can see her bones. In fact, we really worry about her.

ems • 21 December 2012 at 1:18 AM

@panda-chan

I do that a lot now too. Now the stress is really on to get straight A's, and it sometimes is really hard. I stress so much, and it only gets worse everyday. But usually at school, my friends are really supportive and kind; they always seem to make my problems dissapear. My friends are really my rock. I've never really appreciated it before.

I hope things get better for you though. 😸 If you need anything, PM me.

Deleted • 21 December 2012 at 5:21 AM

In my class I am called fat and skeleton. That depends in which mod are my bullies. I am also called "Devil worshiper" what's not true. I am Catholic and I go to church every Sunday and pray and everything. They beat me up every day. They insult me every day. They make me feel like dying every day. But only I know that. My mum or teachers doesn't know anything about it 'cause when I say something to my mum she goes in school and tells that to teachers. Bullies always get away and beat me up again. Our school has zero tolerance on any kind of violence, but still there are so many bullies. I just can't stand them so I defend other kids they are teasing or beating. But bullies then wreak their anger on me. I am not afraid to tell my opinion and I tell it every day. They don't agree with it and they force me to change it. I don't and 'cause of that they insult me or beat me up again. Some bullies even think I am their friend and they call me on my phone every day to go "hang out" with them. I say them that Anita (Hemester) is at my place and then she (the bully) finds some excuse to not hang out with Hemester. Hemester is sometimes only person who protects me from hard words and insults. I defend her when the are insulting her or badmouthing her. Even if she says she hates me I know that we are best friends 😸 (we are just joking that way XD). Real friends are the best protection from bullies. Be sure to find some 😉

Deleted • 22 December 2012 at 4:06 AM

Bullies are a pathetic type of person. What is true is that everything they say and do is what is being done to them or has been done.

The longer that happens they put their own twist of rage on things but it is still what's at the heart of it.

I find an honest twist of topic is to ask who does that to them- mother brother sister father uncle cousin... Of course mine is to poke at the heart of them and it's an aggressive self defense. Generally makes them the topic or target of future issues.

I simply say, 'I wonder which member of the family wishes you were not."

Verbal and physical are two types of violence. I was reviled in school and withdrew into myself. Going from a private school into a public school was very hard and I could feel myself getting dimmer by the classes and socially inept by seclusion. Ugh, I hated school when I use to love it.

It did not help that I went from Junior High into Sophomore classes. Oh yeah, no dif between private and public (my ass) only an entire grade.

I see things have gone so far down hill since then. I vote to make it better but people have not paid attention for so long that I wonder if the dumb in society can ever be challenged.

The most important is the schools, I have no children but I will be ruled by other people's soon enough so I want them to be the best but not at just A's or just making money but at being happy. Without that last part the rest only makes for the same society we have and it sucks. Well, less dumb but smarter at making it harder isn't a blessing either.

Sorry for the ramble, all your stories brought back the days. IF you obsess make it about your happiness and what makes you happy. I do that and I am a lucky person, stress is the creativity killer and it is a way of thinking that only keeps you at the mercy of what your obsession is.

You all seem so much braver than I was, you all rock