Depressed :(

briseis • 21 October 2011 at 12:36 PM

Homecoming is next Saturday and I have no date to go with. Dances are always problems for me because no boy ever wants to go with me. I'm single and I'm not exactly attractive/pretty so I don't think there's even a guy in my school of 3200 students that has a crush on me. I guess I'll just have to weather through it again ☹️.

Sigh.

orange • 21 October 2011 at 12:39 PM

@briseis
aww....thats so sad!☹️

Did you ask anyone?

briseis • 21 October 2011 at 12:41 PM

No @orange. There's no point in embarrassing myself and being even more depressed because the guys I would ask would all say no.

orange • 21 October 2011 at 1:11 PM

@briseis
Well i dont think ALL the guys will say no....you just have 2 belive in yourself! Give yourself a makeover!

My motto:
If you say something like you mean it...less will doubt.

briseis • 21 October 2011 at 1:31 PM

@orange Trust me, no amount of makeup will make me look better. Even plastic surgery or lipo wouldn't really do me any favors. And trust me, no matter who I asked, I'd be rejected. Even the most desperate senior wouldn't say yes to me.

orange • 21 October 2011 at 1:39 PM

@briseis

That is really depressing...im so srry☹️

briseis • 21 October 2011 at 1:42 PM

@orange it's alright. I know that guys in high school won't ever have an interest in me. Maybe in college next year I'll have a chance at going out with someone. I'm pretty sure I won't, but maybe by some sliver of a chance I will. I might as well not even bother with homecoming or prom this year.

Deleted • 21 October 2011 at 2:48 PM

@briseis

My approach is to not worry about having a date, but find a group of friends who don't necessarily have dates either and go together and just have a good time. Or just don't go if you don't really want to.

And trust me, I've heard that lots of people never really went out with anyone in high school and met somebody in college. Don't focus so much on the negative and just roll with the punches. 😊

And don't be so hard on yourself. You don't have to be gorgeous for someone to like you.

briseis • 21 October 2011 at 4:20 PM

@qwerty732797 I want to go to prom, but my friends don't so I couldn't really hang out with them there without a date. I'd basically be completely alone if I went. So I'm thinking of passing on the whole senior prom thing.

On the topic of not having to be attractive to get someone to like you?well, I have yet to see that actually be true.

whitefall • 21 October 2011 at 4:26 PM

Ah. If you really want something, you can never look like a fool. Go to prom with/out a date. Doesn't matter. (:

lola622f • 21 October 2011 at 4:27 PM

Maybe you can just hang out with your friends at some kind of restarant

briseis • 21 October 2011 at 4:34 PM

It does kind of matter whether or not you have a date. Quite a bit, actually. I'd be better off not going at all than showing up without a date. It's not as if anyone would miss me if I didn't go. I'd rather save myself the grief and just not ask anyone and just not go at all. I know I'll be rejected, so what's the use in unecessary pain?

whitefall • 21 October 2011 at 4:39 PM

Why so negative?

Deleted • 21 October 2011 at 4:45 PM

@briseis

Not to sound rude or anything, because I don't mean it that way, but why are you bothering to tell us if you are just going to shoot down every idea we have? It seems like you want to be miserable because you keep refusing to see any bright side or take into consideration your options.

I know sometimes life sucks, but don't tell everyone else that it does if you don't want them to try to help. Life gets better if you want it to be better. You have to think positively sometimes otherwise life will suck because that's the attitude you take.

And I seriously do mean this in the nicest way possible. I don't like to see people perpetually sad and tell everyone they're sad and then refuse help. Fine if you don't even want to take a chance and ask someone, but don't complain that you can't go to prom because no one asked you because you won't ask yourself.

And don't cause yourself unnecessary pain. If you are so absolutely sure there is no person on Earth who would go to the dance with you, don't ask anyone. It's your loss for not trying and at least you are making decisions for yourself and leading your own life.

Sorry this post is kinda long. I just really needed to get this off my chest. And I seriously don't mean to sound rude. I'm trying to be helpful, and the only way to be helpful is if you're honest. 😊

briseis • 21 October 2011 at 4:45 PM

I'm not really being negative. It's one thing to be negative and another to be truthful or at least accepting of the truth.

@qwerty732797 I wasn't exactly asking for help. I was just venting, I suppose. But you're right, I'm not going to cause myself unecessary grief. I'm not asking anyone because I'm 100% sure no one would say yes to me. So I won't even bother with it.

james-bond • 21 October 2011 at 4:47 PM

Don't wallow in self pitty! Be strong and just talk to/hang out with some people there. If there are 3200 students, try and get to know some more. There's no WAY that all 3200 people will have a date, you're certainly not the only one.

Deleted • 21 October 2011 at 4:50 PM

@briseis

Fine. I always say everyone is allowed to make their own decisions. To each their own. At least enjoy the life you got even if everything doesn't go the way you hoped, though.

And I guess everyone needs to vent sometimes. I prefer to do it in long, nonsensical rants that end up not having anything to do with what I'm angry about by the end. 😊

p3flteng • 21 October 2011 at 4:56 PM

@qwerty732797
agree'd

briseis • 21 October 2011 at 4:59 PM

Well only juniors and seniors are allowed to go to prom. But yes, all of those that go to prom normally have a date. They may hang out with friends when they get there, but they go with a date and normally spend time with the date too. I'd stick out like a sore thumb by myself.

@qwerty732797 life is pretty enjoyable sometimes. I just hate where I live. The people here are all beautiful and thin so I stick out a lot because of my unattractiveness and the fact that I'm overweight. I'm hoping to move to a small town where people may be nicer and maybe not as critical of an uglier person.

whitefall • 21 October 2011 at 5:01 PM

@briesis

Okay, I really hate today's image of "beautiful".
I admit I think people are more attractive than others, but never ugly.

Beautiful, as dictionary.com, means having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc. NOT HOW YOU LOOK. You seem really nice, and I'm sure there's a guy that likes you for who you are.

p3flteng • 21 October 2011 at 5:03 PM

@briseis
Maybe you could wear reebok easy tones, people can't tell that your wearing thopse, and maybe your not as overweight as you acctually think, i'm sure you can find a dress, that makes you feel beutiful.

briseis • 21 October 2011 at 5:03 PM

@whitefall there is a standard of beauty, or a collective vision of beauty, in society that dictates on who is perceived as attractive or "beautiful". I don't fit that standard in any way. Most people have aspects of that standard in them, and very few have all of them, but rarely are there people like me that don't match that modern vision of beauty. I'm just an outcast.

I'm really skeptical of the fact that there's "someone out there for me" because, as of yet, I haven't seen any type of guy out there that would ever have any type of interest in me. Although I want to be and I try hard to be, I'm not feminine or womanly. I'm really just kind of out there, not really a normal person. I'd be lucky if I dated once in my life; that'd be more than I could ever wish for, and I'd be grateful for it even if it only lasted a day.

p3flteng • 21 October 2011 at 5:08 PM

Maybe you just are looking at things the wrong way. I can venture to guess that i am one of the popular people at my school, and there are things that i would like to improve ,but i love myself the way i am, for who i am, you should too.

briseis • 21 October 2011 at 5:12 PM

The popular people really have nothing to worry about, at least that's my take on it. They're popular for a reason, it isn't as if they have to fight to be recognized and normally they aren't left out either. But like I said, maybe that's just my perception of a "popular" person.

eternaleyes • 21 October 2011 at 5:14 PM

@briseis if I had a picture of you I probally say yes it doesn't matter what's outside its what's inside

Deleted • 21 October 2011 at 5:14 PM

Today, people define beautiful as popular, and popular as better than everyone else. I still don't understand half the fashion out there today 😋 I'm perfectly fine just wearing my favorite clothes, which are like scourge of the earth to my sister, but I don't see anything wrong with them! D: I have a school dance tonight*BLERGH!* and my sis wants to like tease my hair, or straighten it and whatever. I want to wear it in the simple ponytail I always wear X3 I think it's pretty, but I guess no one else does, otherwise I'd get some kind of compliment at least once a year XP I say just go. You don't HAVE to dance(I'm sure not!) Just try to get at least one of your friends to go😊

briseis • 21 October 2011 at 5:15 PM

@eternaleyes what do you mean by that?

p3flteng • 21 October 2011 at 5:16 PM

@icicle_9510
popular isnt about fashion more than it isnt about beliving in your self and strutting down the hallway like theres no tommorow

eternaleyes • 21 October 2011 at 5:18 PM

@briseis I could care less about the looks of a girl unless they look tottally trashed. It is all about who feels about you not the looks.

briseis • 21 October 2011 at 5:20 PM

@eternaleyes it's hard to attract any guy without being somewhat physically appealing. I have no physical appeal, so it'd be very hard for me to find a guy who was more interested in what's on the inside. I doubt any self-respecting man would go for me in that respect.