My parents adopted 3 kids =.= (Sorry to get my 'anger?' out on here, I just need advise)

redstar-fireclan • 30 December 2011 at 7:24 PM

My parents adopted 3 kids. =.= two girls. one boy. One girl 16 I think the other is 12. The boy is 7. =.= great another brother to deal with...


Any of you know what I should do?

Some details:
They are my age...
:'(
Their mom was a drug abuser, and their father died, so uh, *sigh* let's hope I won;t be mean...I hope they love space, cats, and computers....

Any advise?

Thanks,
Redeh (I love signature)

balletninja • 30 December 2011 at 7:25 PM

Give them a chance? 😊

redstar-fireclan • 30 December 2011 at 7:27 PM

@balletninja
Yea...
I'm supossed to meet them tomarrow..

Any others?

gvantsa • 30 December 2011 at 7:40 PM

Don't ignore them that's for sure. Or be all mean 😋 Try and be as friendly and welcoming as possible. First impressions are important after all.

petpet55 • 30 December 2011 at 7:41 PM

@redstar-fireclan

First off:
You say they been through A LOT. Why would you even consider being mean to em? I mean, I'm sure they are grateful for home your parents provided them. Besides, since they adoped them, your parents must care deeply for these kids.

I'm an only child, I grew up without siblings (meaning I'm spoiled to oblivion) and I would love an brother or sister. Trust me, give them a chance and I'm sure you will warm up to them after some time. 😊

redstar-fireclan • 30 December 2011 at 7:41 PM

@gvantsa
Oh, okay. Wasn't thinking of that...I wonder what my friends will think of them...

HOW DO ALL YO PPL KNOW WHAT TO DO XD?!?!

EDIT:
@petpet55
I hope...I will

Deleted • 30 December 2011 at 7:43 PM

Just try to remember where they came from.. they didn't have people to love them. Maybe you can teach them love and how to be strong for themselves so they don't end up like their parents. All it takes is one person to change someones life for the better, maybe you can be that person. I don't know if you believe in God but i do, and i believe he brings people into our lives for a reason. They need you, and your parents. 😊

redstar-fireclan • 30 December 2011 at 7:45 PM

@tashabell989
I never heard of you, but yes I belive in God...
But how can I be that person? What if they don't like what I like...?

Deleted • 30 December 2011 at 7:47 PM

@redstar-fireclan be nice to them, trust me, NOBODY expects some big heartfelt reuninion. The first few moments will be awkward. I should know, my grandma finally just got reunited with her long lost niece who was taken from my grandma's sister because my grandma's sister wax very very sick. You gotta warm up to them😊 It's like making a new friend, things don't all go smoothly at first, you need to break the barriers and rough patches😸
Play some stupid silly goofy game that'll loosen the tension😊

redstar-fireclan • 30 December 2011 at 7:50 PM

@irdescent
Hm..OMG you guys are so nice! ^.^ LOl, sorry..
But when I meet a new friend, I'm usally...shy...It takes me a week or so to talk normal to them; I mean I talk quietly when I talk to new people, so..I don't think I'll do good with that; But I'll try ^^

Deleted • 30 December 2011 at 8:00 PM

@redstar-fireclan so am I, but when you just really need an arm to hold for support, you form an unbreakable bond😊 I've felt the way you feel when it's like a really awkward moment. You know how I broke the silence? Just let it go. Let the stress just go away. Avoid asking questions about their personal life past their names, it'll make them uncomfortable. Talk about, I don't know, but something. Ask them to play a board game, or card game with each other. Goof-off;)

redstar-fireclan • 30 December 2011 at 8:01 PM

@avelaingia
Like I said, I'm shy, or mean....*doesn't say it* at times.
Like I said also, I hope they like cats (😋), computers, space(unlikely).

I sure hope I won't be shy xD

Thanks for the advise everyone; But I still need more, because my parents are talking to someone xD

EDIT:
@iridescent
Hmm..Asking questions? Why? I mean, I do somethimes, but not a lot...What if they don't want to talk?

Deleted • 30 December 2011 at 8:10 PM

@Petpet55 Same here.



@redstar-fireclan


Just try to do things they like. The 16 year old will probably just hand out with other people her age so you dont have to worry about that. They might try things you like and you can try things they like.

duchess • 30 December 2011 at 8:11 PM

@redstar-fireclan, Don't worry, I'm sure that when you meet them, everything will go just fine 😊

redstar-fireclan • 30 December 2011 at 8:14 PM

@avelaingia
Thanks, That does help.

@bluegirl80
LOl, why do I say this pver and over (said it in a funny/nice way)
What if they don't like cats, computers, space, or writing stories? What if I don;t like what the 12 year old girl does? Or the 16 year old girl?

@duchess
I hope so too 😊

diana_may • 30 December 2011 at 8:16 PM

@redstar-fireclan

Introduce them to Egg Cave! Sorry if this doesn't help... 😋

redstar-fireclan • 30 December 2011 at 8:18 PM

@diana_may
Lol, I'll try xD

pjbuzzy • 30 December 2011 at 8:19 PM

Just try to help them, teach them about your life and house, be gentle and kind to them, they are probably going through a lot right now!😋 @redstar-fireclan

redstar-fireclan • 30 December 2011 at 8:21 PM

@avelaingia
SKILLET ❤️ LOL, but okay, O.o how did you know I love skillet/rockish music 😋 ?

@pjbuzzy
I'll try! Again, I'm shy xD

pjbuzzy • 30 December 2011 at 8:23 PM

@redstar-fireclan im shy too!😋 just give them time to adjust. Maybe if you just let them have some alone time to get used to their new home

cqpkytty • 30 December 2011 at 8:24 PM

@redstar-fireclan
Do unto others what you would like others to do unto you 😊

If you were in their position, what would you want them to do?

redstar-fireclan • 30 December 2011 at 8:25 PM

@pjbuzzy
Hm..I'll give it a go!
@avelaingia
*Blushes and hides in corner.*
You, uh..*hides all eggs with rock music and skillet names* *comes back out* I don't see any ^.^"

ghost • 30 December 2011 at 8:25 PM

your parents are doing a great thing 😃 but its going to be really hard for them (trust me there are 8 kids in my fam) and its going to be hard for them... so my advise is just be nice to them and help ur parents when u can the best thing you can do is give support 😃

redstar-fireclan • 30 December 2011 at 8:26 PM

@ghost
Okay...😊

Deleted • 30 December 2011 at 8:27 PM

@Redstar-Fireclan Try to be nice, seems like they have been through a lot.
Try to find something in common with them, You'd be surprised.
I know, because my boyfriend is adopted, you could really never imagine the pain those kids are probably in.
Try to welcome them, so they can heal ^o^
Have a like family night or something!...(:
Sooner or later they'll open up to you.❤️

redstar-fireclan • 30 December 2011 at 8:30 PM

@dawnie
Thanks! ^^ but what if one of them is alergic to cats 😱

Deleted • 30 December 2011 at 8:32 PM

@Redstar-Fireclan ...That might not be good. 😱
How many do you have?

pebblestar-nightclan • 30 December 2011 at 8:32 PM

@redstar-fireclan

Perhaps just... be welcoming... First impressions are always important! 😉 Also, once you're not as shy around them, just act like they ARE your blood siblings! Fight with them like siblings do, and then be all nice... I mean, eventually you'll forget they were ever adopted, probably. 😊

redstar-fireclan • 30 December 2011 at 8:34 PM

@dawnie
4. Two stays, two pets. One pet stays in, the other one goes in and out.


@pebblestar-nightclan
But how will I forget?

Deleted • 30 December 2011 at 8:35 PM

@Redstar-Fireclan Yeah, that might not be good...☹️
*Fingers crossed they aren't*