How do I tell him?

whispers • 4 September 2012 at 6:51 PM

So I have a crush on this guy at my school. And my friends keeps saying I'm desperate for him. And my friend says it's bad that I dreamed I got my first kiss from him >.>

Sigh, and they keep telling me to get the guts up to tell him. But I can't find a way to >.<

Help?

#Connor

morgana • 4 September 2012 at 7:00 PM

@whispers Do you guys talk or have any classes together? Also do you know if he has any feelings towards you?
I don't see why your friend would think it's bad that you had a dream about him.

whispers • 4 September 2012 at 7:03 PM

@morgana
We only have Science and Gym together. And I have caught him starting at me .o. But I really don't know if that's good or not xD And whenever I look back at him he turns away quickly and I can still see him looking out of the corner of his eye.

The dream...my friend doesn't really like anybody so she doesn't really think that it's normal xD Cause she's never dealt with it. I guess

morgana • 4 September 2012 at 7:06 PM

@whispers Hahaha. About him looking at you, that could be a sign he at least finds you interesting (don't worry, I bet it's in a good way xP )
I would try to collect as much information as you can on his feelings towards you before you go professing your unending love for him. Ok well, I'm sure you would go about it a bit less dramatic then that. But you know what I mean. 😊

whispers • 4 September 2012 at 7:13 PM

@morgana
LOL, I thought I looked bad or something xD

So I'll get some of my friends to get that info for me ;D Cause I am a total shygirl xD

I am not dramatic. I'll be all quiet and whispering, "I like you" xD

morgana • 4 September 2012 at 7:16 PM

@whispers Hahah! xDD I can just picture that.
The friend thing is a good idea though, I'm the same way.

whispers • 4 September 2012 at 7:18 PM

@morgana
Oh yeah. It'll look even better when I'm a lot taller than him XD

And my friend makes me buy her cookies if she wants me to do things for her like this xD

morgana • 4 September 2012 at 7:21 PM

@whispers You're taller than him? I'm short. -_- Well almost 5'5 but still shorter than everyone else.

Your friend is making a fair trade in my opinion. Haha. Cookies for information. Maybe if you get her one with extra chocolate chips or something she will dig a little deeper. 😋

whispers • 4 September 2012 at 7:23 PM

@morgana
I'm 5'5 and he's at my chin xD
I always fall for the shories xD

Yeah, but one time my mom saw how much I was spending on cookies ^^; That didn't go out well XD

morgana • 4 September 2012 at 7:28 PM

@whispers Hehe shorties can be fun xP. I think they have more energy then taller people.
Maybe you could buy a pack of cookies when your parents go grocery shopping and give her one each day. Or only when she gives you information and hold it for ransom if she didn't get enough info. Heheh.

whispers • 4 September 2012 at 7:30 PM

@morgana
Yeah. I've had 4 crushes and all of them are short xD So my friend says when I'm older my husband will be shorter than me xD

Perfect idea ;D *goes to make cookies* Better idea 8D

morgana • 4 September 2012 at 7:32 PM

@whispers Yes, baking is an even better idea! 😃
I can't cook/bake. I cant even make brownies from a box...
It's ok, we all have our types.

pebblestar-nightclan • 4 September 2012 at 7:38 PM

@whispers
Since you already have some advice (and honestly, I have no idea. xD), let me know how it goes. 😉

stellie • 4 September 2012 at 7:51 PM

@whispers

Just tell him, the sooner the better, I should have told Marc that I really liked him, but now its too late and Im moved ;-; Tell him as soon as possible, you never know what will happen the next day

whispers • 4 September 2012 at 8:06 PM

@morgana
My mom burns garlic bread that has a TIMER SET XD

@pebblestar-nightclan
Okay 8D Although it won't happen until I get some info. But I really don't know who has classes with him o.o So it'll take a while, unless I can keep up with him in gym (no I can't xD I am such a slow runner 8D)

@stellie
I don't think he's gonna move this year because he just moved here o.o And we just started the 2nd week of school
But I'll make sure to get it done as soon as possible

lexicon • 4 September 2012 at 8:07 PM

@whispers Personally, I don't think you should not rush things. Especially if you have a good friendship, you don't want to ruin that or make it awkward until you're positive he shares your feelings.

I actually fall for the opposite type. The guy I like... *^^* Is six feet tall. A whole 9 inches taller than me lol.

And call me old-fashioned, but I think the guy should confess to the girl. Not saying you shouldn't have the confidence to do it yourself becuade that's great! But I have none whatsoever. Like, I wouldn't do it if you put a bullet to my head. I'm a sucker for cute, romantic & chivalrous guys 😊

whispers • 4 September 2012 at 8:25 PM

@kimichanx3
Well I have to develop a friendship first, so I'll take your advice in ;D

lexicon • 4 September 2012 at 8:29 PM

@whispers Yes. A good friendship is the basis to a good relationship. You should know what you're getting into. /look at me talking like I've ever been in one 😋/ But yeah, don't make sudden confessions. It'll most likely scare him. Work up the courage to say hi! Make idle conversations in whatever classes you have. Be friends first & fall for his personality first 😊

The guy I like, I've known him since last year. We have a great friendship, so I see him often and we talk A LOT. As opposed to just seeing him from a distance and him not even knowing my presence. Lol, friendship is key.

cat • 4 September 2012 at 8:29 PM

@whispers Urp. I have to disagree with whatever anyone else is saying.

First of all, does your school have dances? If so, wait for one, and wait for him to ask you to it or, if he doesn't, he's probably shy, so you should ask him.

But DO NOT rush things. It will make you seem desperate. Talk to him, hang out with him, and sloooowly drop hints.

dreamer • 4 September 2012 at 8:36 PM

@Whispers The only advice I can give you is PACE YOURSELF. Last year, I had a REALLY big crush on this boy (he was in my class the year before as well). He found out, and EVERYONE found out. I was so embarassed that I was afraid to walk down the halls at school. I tried asking him to dance with me at dances, but once I was finally about to, I saw him dancing with another girl. And he was with the same girl at the NEXT dance. This year, he switched to private school, so I'll never see him again. I don't like him anymore, but I still get a little sad when I hear his name. I was a 6th grade and I had no advice whatsoever. He barely ever noticed me, or knew me, and I was very sudden. I can only warn you not to make the same mistake.

Make sure he's your friend first. Take more time to get to know him. If he acts too much like a BOY, or if he ever seems rude, then you might want to back out. Boys like that can crush your spirits eithout even knowing or giving a care in the world. Get a little closer with him, and try to find any signs that he might like you as well. If he thinks of you as just another girl, and then BAM! You have a crush on him... That will make him start to avoid you.

Just be careful; But once you're completely confident that he's nice, and he likes you, you'll be fine. 😃

whispers • 4 September 2012 at 8:43 PM

@cat
Our school does have dance. But it's bombarded with 6th graders. They're usually terrible. But I'll see if he goes ;A;

@dreamer
I made that same freaking mistake when I was in 6th grade XD And last year too about everybody finding out xD

I'll try talking to him tomorrow in gym or science or in the halls.
Thanks for the advice. Yours, I have to say, was really helpful. 😊

dreamer • 4 September 2012 at 8:50 PM

@Whispers I know a lot of people who screw up in 6th grade. 😋 But you know, it was my first year of middle school, my hormones were all over the place... I remember how AMAZING it felt when I realized that I really liked him, but I wouldn't want to have to go through it again. It was humiliating. 😱

I know exactly how you feel, as well. You're not DESPERATE, you've just fallen deeply in love. It can be overwhelming, and it can engulf you, so be careful. My friendw warned me over and over that the boy I liked was rude, and they told me why, but I kept making excuses for him. He didn't say a single WORD to me when he found out that I liked him, and people lied to me. I want to stay out of the relationship crap until high school. I know a few boys who are friendly with me though. If they asked me, honestly I would like to hang out with them. 😊 But I don't have a crush on them, or anything. They're just nice (and the best chance I'll ever have with getting a boy XD).

mib666666 • 5 September 2012 at 4:27 PM

@whispers i know how you feel ☹️ right now i like my swim coach! (yes my swim coach ☹️) he is 4 years older than me, hilarious, SO NICE, and of course hot. i think he has a girlfriend too but that doesnt really bother me cuz i think thats his first girlfrien and you know how that can go. my friend thinks im insane. the problem is (or was) that i wont be seeing him until summer because he is my summer coach not my year-round coach so the most i will see him is passing by at the other swim team because he does it too but is in a different group ☹️ oh and did i mention i think he qualifys for the olympics?

whispers • 5 September 2012 at 6:04 PM

@dreamer
I really am the opposite. My crush is ubernice. Even my friends who have classes with him say so. But the people the guidance counselors have tried to make him friends with are comeplete jerks :/

stellie • 5 September 2012 at 6:07 PM

@whispers

Remember to feel confident, be yourself, dont get stuck in a relationship where you constantly hide your inner self, if he doesnt like you, youll move on easily, I thought id never find a boy like Joe, and even better, I met Marc, who Ill probably never hear from or see again </3

solaris • 5 September 2012 at 9:41 PM

@whispers

Good luck! I actually have no idea how to handle that. I don't think I'd be able to ever say anything, so I hope you're braver than me.

There's a guy I like too, but he's so much older than me! And I'm not sure what to do about that.

whispers • 6 September 2012 at 7:57 PM

@solaris
I'm not brave. I still haven't got the guts to start a convo xD I've only said hi ;A;

solaris • 6 September 2012 at 10:15 PM

@whispers

Well, at least you're considering it!

whispers • 8 September 2012 at 12:40 PM

@solaris
I guess xD

zafeyry • 8 September 2012 at 12:56 PM

@whispers
How do you tell him? You spray paint it on his locker!