Help? :(

whispers • 15 March 2013 at 9:50 PM

So, it's the flu season at my school. And my boyfriend got it, and he's been out for a week now. Thing is, his recovery isn't improving. He's just getting worse and worse. He just got admitted to the hospital because the bacteria that infected him were immune to his antibiotics, so he's really sickly. I'm still trying to get his room number and all to visit him and such...

But I need help so I don't break down in front of him. He told me that he can't keep things down, so they may have to put a feeding tube in. I'm scared to see how sickly and gaunt he'll look. But I want to comfort him... but I don't want to scare him by crying at how bad he's gotten. My mom has told about some of her patients and how some have gone into a coma because the bacteria was immune. So I'm especially worried for him.

Does anybody have any ideas so I can keep my cool when I see him? When I found out he was admitted I cried for an hour... can somebody please help me? ;__;

rileytibbles_side • 15 March 2013 at 10:01 PM

@whispers
Oh gosh... That sounds tough... Nothing like this has really happened to me. Except the coma part. My mom was in a coma for 9 days. My best advice is keep your mind sane. Say to yourself that he's just got a bad case of the flu and that he'll be better in no time. If you go in and fell like crying, just walk out. Or at least just cry softly so you don't like fall to your knees just bawling. I don't think you'll scare him. You'll just let him know how much you care about him. In fact, he'd probably be more scared if you didn't cry. It's ok to let your emotions out. Just don't over do it. Make sure you reassure him, because he's probably scared as well. Good Luck!

chapus • 15 March 2013 at 10:04 PM

@whispers God, that's horrible... I'm terribly sorry for you. ☹️

I never lived any tragic moments like this in my life, so I don't really know what to tell you. But I can tell you one thing, let your emotions out, at least at home. Maybe you will feel a bit better and you won't cry too much when you go visit him.

iceyfira • 15 March 2013 at 10:14 PM

@whispers well, when I'm stressed, I clench my left fist and it helps me calm down, cause I concentrate of just clenching that fist. Try it. Unless you're a lefty, then clench your right fist.

You can also tell yourself he WILL be okay. He won't die or anything. And tell yourself that he needs you to be strong for him.

whispers • 17 March 2013 at 7:59 PM

@iceyfira @chapus2009 @rileytibbles_side
Thanks for the advice guys. I took it. And when I saw him today, he was sleeping, so it was a lot more easier to see him that way. I didn't break down or anything, but his breathing tube scared me.

But thanks guys, it helped. A lot.

chapus • 17 March 2013 at 10:19 PM

@whispers Welcome. c: Hope your friend gets better. 😊