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crazyfeline • 8 August 2016 at 10:21 AM

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lykhaos117 • 8 August 2016 at 11:03 AM

@crazyfeline

Hi, I hope you feel better. ❤️ *hugs*

First off, it takes a lot of strength to admit something like this, and remember that you're not alone!!! From what you said, you have friends and family that love you, and here, you have the Egg Cave community. 😊

While appearance is one of the things people notice about others immediately, there's much more to a person than that. I have no idea what you look like, but if you're unsatisfied with your appearance, you could try something new like a new outfit or makeup or haircut if it matters that much to you. But remember that looks fade eventually, and they only bring temporary happiness. There's nothing wrong in and of itself with wanting to look nicer, but think of your physical features you like. And if people you don't know compliment you, it's very likely they mean it.

As for socializing, think about how you and your friends started to care for each other. Friendships normally start from somewhere, be it from an event, a shared interest, or similar values. Your friends must like something about you! 😊 There's more to a friendship than being funny or being a good conversationalist. Maybe you're a good listener, maybe you give good advice, maybe you have an interesting perspective on the world, maybe you're funny and a good conversationalist and just don't realize it!

It's also very good to ask questions. Questions can help people learn and improve, and they foster a community of seeking knowledge and insight. It's also better (at least in my opinion) to ask a question and appear hesitant than jump to conclusions and get something wrong. And some people like hearing ridiculous questions. I ask all sorts of ridiculous questions (when I took Chemistry, I asked my teacher why mossy zinc was 'mossy' XD), and you never know when random bits of information can come in handy. And maybe others would like to hear what you have to say on the topics you know a lot about.

Part of a developed friendship is to be able to freely discuss personal feelings with one another. Not all people are able to do this. A good way to see what your friends would think is to see what they say about others in similar situations.

And listening to confident music can boost your mood a lot if you do it often!!!

You can always PM me if you want to talk more. I hope this helps!!! 😊

Edit: I looked through some of your previous forums and saw a picture you linked to yourself. I think you're beautiful! I especially like your eyes and hair, and your smile is cute. 😊

sparklefox • 8 August 2016 at 11:31 AM

@crazyfeline - I can't really offer you any useful advice, but I know exactly how you feel! You're definitely not alone when it comes to these feelings. I have the worst self esteem out of anyone I personally know, to be honest... and I never really liked admitting it. I've never really felt positive about myself, or anything I do. I always believe I'm a waste of space, and admitting this to anyone is practically impossible since I'd probably seem like I'd be seeking attention or whatever. But, hey. I'm probably not helping at all, but I just thought I'd tell you that you're not alone. Sorry to bother.

ethereality • 8 August 2016 at 12:19 PM

@crazyfeline I heavily deal with low self esteem and it greatly affects me in my day to day life. I do not have the confidence to talk to basically anyone I don't know, and have a high social anxiety, and always think that my good grades are a fluke instead of earning them from hard work. I think I am very ugly, and it is quite true, and I'm always judging myself based on my weight because that's what everybody does to me.

I know what it feels like I don't want it to happen to anybody else. So, what I do to help is to sit straight with your head held up high (it sounds rediculous but really does work) and whenever you find yourself putting yourself down, just think am I really that bad? and who really even cares? The only people who do care don't judge me that much anyways. That helps me, and I hope it works for you too!

Best of luck ❤️

powpow665 • 9 August 2016 at 1:06 AM

Aww it's okay everyone has those moments of low self esteem but if it helps, maybe everyday when you look in the mirror, instead of finding things you dislike about yourself, try listing things that you do like about yourself 😊. And if you have low confidence, just fake it. Not even kidding 😊 it will help lots

crazyfeline • 9 August 2016 at 4:31 AM

Thank you all ❤️

@lykhaos117
You're right, I do have people, but I'm far from the sort of person to really talk about stuff like this. Even here where I don't actually know anyone it seems weird to post it. But I've kind of just gotten to the point where I've had enough of my own attitude haha.
If that makes sense?

Looks certainly aren't everything! But I feel as if so many people don't agree there and its one of the first things you're judged on when meeting someone. :/ personality is definitely more important to me, and its what I judge others on, but I just feel like its something I'm being judged on. :/
I'm judging myself on it. I'm ashamed to admit I compare myself to others. Which is something I tell everyone not to do.

You're right, there's gotta be something my friends like about me and I need to work out what and try and see it myself. 😊

Really? Confident music can do that? I might need to give that a try! 😊

Thank you, I appreciate that you've said I can pm and for the response! Thanks a heap! 😊

Oh man, I forgot I had a picture somewhere around here xD
Thank you. 😊
I promise you though, its just the lighting and angle haha.
But thank you so much! 😊 ❤️

@sparklefox
You haven't bothered me or anything!!
Sounds like how I feel.
Always good to know you aren't the only one feeling like that.
And if you ever need to talk about it chuck me a message if you like.
Hope you're alright! 😊 ❤️

@motivecat
Its not nice people judge you on that. But I'm sure there are many people who don't. I think, if people are judgemental like that, you're automatically the better person.
I doubt your good grades are a fluke, you should be proud you have them! 😊

Thank you for that advice, I'll give it a go!! 😃
On the who cares part though, I have a terrible habit of caring what others think of me. :/
But thank you so much! ❤️

@powpow665
I gave that a go one day, but kept finding faults in those too.
I'll give it another go and try to not give up on that idea this time. Try and be persistent with it until the negativity goes away. 😊
A teacher in year 9 I think it was told me to fake it one day when I was too afraid to do a presentation. Its helped me get through talking to people and being a little more social. 😊
Thank you for the advice ❤️

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My self esteem was really low last year....really low. My favourite artist Sara Bareilles released a book around the time and it was all about self acceptance and whatnot. I could relate to a fair bit of it and it helped a little. Its been my go to thing whenever I feel really low, which is kind of lame but yeah..