Night ruined :(

Deleted • 27 October 2011 at 11:26 PM

@ plookle thanks youve made me feel a bit better about myself 😊

briseis • 27 October 2011 at 11:26 PM

@balletninja see what I mean? Everyone nowadays is a 9 or 10 on the scale. I'm outdated and unwanted I suppose. Anyways, good luck with your dating experiences. Trust me, you'll have way more than I ever will in my lifetime in high school.

randomkitty17 • 27 October 2011 at 11:27 PM

....
Please, PLEASE don't do this. You're making yourself feel worse, people are trying to cheer you up but you're dragging yourself farther down into a rut by turning them down. Accept these compliments! Everyone is beautiful in their own way, and you're no exception. 😉

sky • 27 October 2011 at 11:27 PM

I don't think that there's really anything to bother about boys.
I find it, pointless.
Even for us girls.

Boys never realize how much girls hurt.
We, even I, expect for the better in a relationship.
I get too caught up in things.
Boys give out so much mixed signals, I can't even tell you.

It's all about the 'looks', like anyone really is gonna go for personality? I've always heard a guy say they like them for their personality, but I see that they only go after the gorgeous girls from my point of view, while they leave that one girl who is the sweetest girl left in the shadows.
Same for us girls. I never believe someone, even my friends, when they claim they go for personality.

I've been seeing so many relationships broken,
still, they're dumb enough not to realize they're getting themselves into these situations.

Boys and girls are capable of taking advantage of one another, they just don't seem to think of what the other person could feel.

Where I live, the guys only go after the big breasts, and girls who have already done 'it', even though I'm fifteen-years-old and one year older then them, yes, they've done 'it' at that age, they also look for girls who drink, smoke (not regular smoke).

They don't even 'give you the time of day'.
One glance if they find you cute, they'll make it seem as if you were their friend, while they look past the girls who actually have brains and personality.

...I'm just gonna stop with my rant now.

metaphor • 27 October 2011 at 11:27 PM

@briseis

Lol, I'm in 12th grade now, and I don't even talk to any guys at my school, with the exception of one who is just as quiet and socially timid as I am. I don't think any of them look at me and think, "Wow, that's hawt!"
And I'll be honest...I don't give a darn.
If I'm not attractive to them, fine. The world goes on. There is a world outside of high school, and just from the few college courses I take, I can tell there's a lot more to it than LOL BOOBS HOT.

Deleted • 27 October 2011 at 11:27 PM

@briseis im sure someone is intrested in you, you seem nice. mabey you just havent noticed them yet.

balletninja • 27 October 2011 at 11:28 PM

@briseis
Seriously if you don't start being confident,
I will leave this thread.
Maybe the reason you don't have a date is because you are
insecure? I mean confidence is key to guys.
First step to loving, is loving yourself.
Tell me one thing, right now you love about yourself.
No exceptions.

briseis • 27 October 2011 at 11:30 PM

@deannablanco3 trust me, there isn't a single guy at my school who thinks I'm attractive. The chances of even one person in my school having a crush on me is slimmer than me winning the lottery. I'd be more willing to believe the sky was going to fall than that one person would ever find something attractive about me. But that's just my experience.

@balletninja absolutely nothing. There's nothing about me physically, in any way, shape, or form, that's attractive or good. There's no if, ands or buts about it, it's simply the truth. I hate to put it that way, but the truth isn't always easy to swallow.

Trust me, no matter how confident I am, it doesn't seem to translate well. I'm happy and friendly at school but it only seems to make guys like me less.

nkiay • 27 October 2011 at 11:31 PM

Hey at least you will never be a hunk of meat, an object men fight for control of. Ha, they don't even remember my name, or recognize me, just another pretty face with nothing inside. (BTW no one looked at me till college, only hores or really pretty girls have bf's in high school(for the most part))

Doesn't matter what everyone else is doing, if they have boyfriends or whatever. Do what you wanna do, if you want a boyfriend go talk to a guy you like and stop whining. If you're too scared or whatever that's your problem stop complaining and buck up and do it. What is the worst that could happen they so no? That's really not that awe full, your alive and healthy bla bla bla.

I get so sick and tired of people complaining about how they look, if you don't like it change it, if you can't suck it up. If you are confident in yourself you will be attractive.





@toy

I love you. 😸

balletninja • 27 October 2011 at 11:31 PM

@briseis
One thing, that makes you beautiful.
Just one thing,
that you like about yourself.

Deleted • 27 October 2011 at 11:33 PM

@briseis tell us something and don't you are say nothing! i command everyone who postes from this point onward to say something good about themselves! ill start: im a musical and science whiz,and have been offered a place at brown university.

smilies • 27 October 2011 at 11:33 PM

I once got asked to a dance.


























SINGLE MOST EMBARRASSING EXPERIENCE OF MY LIFE

(So far)

toy • 27 October 2011 at 11:33 PM

@briseis
All your doing is looking for sympathy.
You have all these people now telling you the truth.
And you won't accept it.
That's very immature and I find it rude.

briseis • 27 October 2011 at 11:34 PM

@balletninja there is nothing.

@toy if you've ever had depression, maybe you'd understand. But you're probably not the type of person who'd have depression. If you dislike my reponses so much, why keep responding?

balletninja • 27 October 2011 at 11:35 PM

@briseis Nothing isn't an answer.
I want one thing,
anything, NOW!

nkiay • 27 October 2011 at 11:37 PM

@briseis


Don't you dare assume you know how someone else feels. Don't you dare.

Deleted • 27 October 2011 at 11:37 PM

@briseis come one, are you good at english? do you have a good memory? just tell us something, please *crys*

Deleted • 27 October 2011 at 11:37 PM

First of all, I'm sorry if I seem rude to anyone. But I really hate people like this.

@briseis
Get your head out of your ... Well, you know where.
Stop setting your entire life by whether guys like you or not.

I'm slightly overweight. I'm one of the most unpopular girls in my whole school. I always have been. I wear all black, all the time. No guy would even look at me. I haven't had a boyfriend ever.

Do I care? No.

Because I don't set ANY store by whether or not guys like me.

I could understand how you could feel down if someone you like likes someone else, but this is just honestly pathetic.

So don't go complaining about "no one liking you" because that doesn't matter. If you stop wallowing in your own self-pity, get a decent job and a life, you will eventually find someone if you want someone.

Like a lot of other people here, I agree that self-confidence is key to getting a guy. So get some and stop being so pathetic.

Oh and by the way, I've had depression before because my mother is completely insane. Did I go around making pity threads? No.

metaphor • 27 October 2011 at 11:39 PM

@briseis

I used to be a lot like you.
Like A LOT. And maybe I still am to some degree because I am still young and am only human, but I've come to learn that the opinions of one group of "popular" hormonal teens =/= the real world awaiting you after high school.
They're going to be judgmental and immature. Chances are, they feel just the way you do. They just have different ways of expressing it.
Middle school and high school make up some of the most stressful years of your life. Almost everybody there is just as lost and insecure as you are. Even the most outgoing girls.
It's normal. I wish I would have realized this many times because I've made some pretty harsh choices for myself. And it was all because I thought it mattered if a bunch of guys who won't even know my name after I graduate find me "hot".

nkiay • 27 October 2011 at 11:41 PM

*going to leave*


@ijilleh

😊 *thumbs up*


@metaphor

Agreed. You should never rate yourself by what you think others think of you. It's just silly. What do you think of you. 😊

musicgurl333 • 27 October 2011 at 11:42 PM

@plookle I totally agree with everything you've said! @briseis I second that there is nothing less attractive than someone without self confidence. There are many ways to define beauty, and I promise you that one day you'll meet someone who thinks you're attractive. 😊 You probably already have...but you think so little of yourself, that I'm not sure you'd recognize it (or believe it) if you saw it.

Work more on increasing your self confidence, and less on boys. Do things you're good at, or learn something new. Surround yourself with people (male or female) who love and respect you for who you are. Learn to love yourself first...the rest will follow. 😊

balletninja • 27 October 2011 at 11:42 PM

@briseis Really, you are so lucky to even be living.
Did you know that living at all is about as rare
as a sea turtle living 1,000 alternate personalities?
Stop. Just stop.
Beauty doesn't matter on the outside.
Once you realize that you will truly be beautiful.

briseis • 27 October 2011 at 11:42 PM

@nkiay then how about you (not just you, but others) not assume how I feel? It seems as if people are quick to call me an attention-seeker when they know nothing of what has happened to me.

@balletninja I have nothing to say. There really isn't anything "good" or "cool" or "special" about me.

@ijilleh Again, people are assuming things without even taking the time to ask me these sort of things. There have been plenty of boys I've liked, but none of them have ever reciprocated. Most of them are already dating or look down on me.

I'm hoping to go to a small college for nutrition and speech pathology (double major) and hopefully get a good job in a nice area. Maybe people will be different in a new place. But I sincerely doubt it. Despite my confidence and happiness, it doesn't seem to have any affect on guys, older or younger. I feel trapped most of the time.

plookle • 27 October 2011 at 11:43 PM

Ladies. Stop putting down yourselves. Stop putting down each other. This is ridiculous. It's late. We're all feeling extra hormonal and argumentative.

I suggest everyone goes and finds the nearest chocolate, eats some, and then goes to bed.

briseis • 27 October 2011 at 11:45 PM

@plookle I've already stuffed myself with Halloween chocolate. I figure I'm already fat, I might as well be more fat :'P.

metaphor • 27 October 2011 at 11:45 PM

@briseis

I understand your position. I really do.
You're seeking some form of attention, maybe confirmation or nods of agreement, but it's nothing you're doing out of malice. I know this.

But I promise you it'll get better.

briseis • 27 October 2011 at 11:47 PM

@metaphor I'm not seeking attention in any way. I don't know what I want. Maybe living in Arizona has corrupted me forever, I have no idea. I just know that if people in the world are like people here, life isn't worth living. And trust me when I say that.

nkiay • 27 October 2011 at 11:47 PM

@briseis

I can't speak for others. I never assumed you were attention seeking. (Though I'm guessing they are judging by your actions here.) I just said you need to suck it up. It's harsh but true. If you can't pull it together by yourself, you need to get help. Help from a professional, school or another councilor, not friends or random people on the internet.

plookle • 27 October 2011 at 11:47 PM

*headdesk*

That was not the message I was trying to send really.

Ok. So no chocolate. How about some nice, calming, classical music. And sleep. Sleep is good. It burns calories, and rejuvenates the body. Yay for sleep!

Now, please, please, lets retire this thread. It upsets me to see girls treating themselves and each other in this way.

Deleted • 27 October 2011 at 11:48 PM

@briseis
People naturally assume things if you don't mention them, hon. It's something the brain just does. If you don't specify something and it seems like there's one answer or another, then the brain will just naturally fill that information in. Everyone does it.

Don't make me into the bad guy.

Once again, stop setting all your stores by whether or not guys like you. If you go off whining to everyone about how nobody likes you, then no one is GOING to like you.

I'm assuming this because you've already made it public to everyone on Egg Cave who checks this forum, so why wouldn't you make it public to people you DO meet?

@plookle
I'm sorry, but for me at least, this has to be settled or finished or ... SOMETHING or I'll be mad about it for a really long time. :/